Would you drop a guy because of financial reasons?

[Anonymous]

Id say yes. One gotta be rational. Love is love but if messing with u is gonna fuck me up. I can't do that!

[SallyTho87]

Yes. I was in a past relationship years ago where the man was 38, and had no career, no job, no ambitions, no hobbies but video games. He lived with his mother, and took FULL advantage of everything she did for him. She did his laundry, cooked food, worked 9 to 9pm and would come home to a dirty house.

It was awful to witness, and even think someone could treat their mother like that. Unfortunately I, his girlfriend soon become a replacement for the things his mum did for him. I'd help with cleaning / cooking, and I'd help financially support him, as I have a great paying job in the legal field. I covered everything - groceries, his car insurance, paid for his dogs medicine, HIS medicine, his specialty snacks, and gave him a couple hundred each week as he used it to buy weed and I refused to buy it. The money was also to go toward his debt and phone, internet bill.

I paid for every date, planned each date, planned movie nights, etc. All he did was get high and sleep all day. When I confronted him he became agitated, very aggressive, and used mental health as an excuse, yet would not see a doctor or talk to anyone.
I ended things quickly after, as he did nothing but take and take from everyone in his life. He ignored his entire family, declined dinner invites asking if they could just send him money instead.

Nearly 40 year old man who had not a single goal in his life, or accomplishment in his life. Quite pathetic, and ridiculous. If the guy refused to look for work, had no initiative to find employment, or ignored everyones help trying to get him to apply to positions, for his own benefit, then yes - I absolutely WOULD.

[laurieluvsit]

If he was a bum, I wouldn't start the relationship in the first place.

If he was enterprising and motivated to do whatever he had to do to be successful in life, I would never part with him!

[A_Nihilist]

This should really depend on the situation.

Dating phase or relationship phase where you are not living together? Shouldn't affect the relationship too much so long as they can pay their bills. You don't need to spend money to enjoy one another's company.

Living together and they are dragging you both to financial ruin? Yeah fair, break off with them if they don't, can't or won't fix their issues.

I understand many women want a man who earns money, either so they can know they are able to provide for them and their future family. Or because it's nice to go nice places.

TLDR - Entirely situation dependant.

[jshm2]

You would be stupid to go for a broke or mooching guy/girl. Have some self respect!

But I suppose "love" makes a good excuse, instead of admitting to your errors...

[DishLady]

It depends. If he's a responsible guy and times are tough, then no. But if he's a generally irresponsible guy who doesn't do anything to ensure his own financial and personal future, then that's a different situation... a good guy with a head on his shoulders knows he has to at least be self-reliant.

[JacobJordan]

Wife response: if I did that I would have a very bad life right now. My husband (account creator) lost most of his wealth shortly after we met. I picked up a second job while he was sorting out work issues and finances. The end result? I have been a stay at home girlfriend, wife and mother for 17 years now. Men really don't need a lot from us. Emotional support, kisses, hugs, encouragement, love, respect, food and they'll take care of everything else as a man.

[Asker]

how did he lose it

[JacobJordan]

Took a risk that didn't pan out. Along with having some trouble securing contracts for a while.

[Seinna]

Absolutely. Not if he's just poor (unless it's permanent because he's lazy and lacks ambition) but definitely if he's not responsible with money or has huge debts. I need safety and stability for myself and my children.

[DarkLegacy]

You are just as responsible for providing that. it is probably only so you can divorce him and take his money

[Seinna]

@DarkLegacy I'm also not irresponsible with money and I have no debts.

[Aubrey97]

Financial literacy is sort of a requirement of being a functional adult. Some people manage to survive without it, but yeah, if they're going to just end up being a money pit and financial burden for you, it's for sure right to drop them.

[Anonymous]

You can but it's weak af. If you're worried about money how about you get off your ass and go earn it. It's weak relying on other people financially.

But like I said, you can do what you want. But it's weak in my book and you're making is so much harder to find someone. We have dumb standards that can be fixed by us alone.

[Sirenboobzilla]

ONLY if he cannot manage his finances. Meaning living/ spending above his means. Don't need a rich man. Just need him to be smart. I don't expect to be taken care of financially, neither will I willingly do it for someone who can't do it themselves.

[OddBeMe]

People can break up for whatever reason they want. If it’s not working, can’t fix it. If finance reasons means he ain’t buying you all the shit you want, that’s pretty bad.

If it’s because he has no ambition to get a better job and you’re actually carrying the weight of the bills, that’s better issue.

[itsclearlynicholas]

They'd likely not date a guy (and fair) to some woman's minds if they knew
He didn't own a car
He didn't have stability like a job.
He was broke
He was too cheap even for protection lol 😔😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

And whatever other baggage 🛄🛅 lol ; some just should not date lol

[mayurr]

True.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Word 😎🆒

[PeachyPie93]

Depends why? Like if he lost his job then I would stay, but if he was addicted to gambling then I would leave because I couldn't handle it.

[midnightmoon05]

What do you mean?
what is the Eason that he is broke?

[midnightmoon05]

Reason.

Me? I dropped one when he spent all his inheritance

[DarkLegacy]

He is better off then as it was HIS inheritance and not YOURS. You just wanted to sponge off him

[midnightmoon05]

@DarkLegacy
A kid in his mid 20’s. Parents died, he and his sister inheritance at that age… he spent it all…he told me on first date… I’m glad I dropped him. Since we have different financial goals.
I am a saver and an investor.

I made my own money since 11 years old… have not stopped working because I enjoy what I do… at this point… I am a millionaire and living a good life… with my kids and my hubby… he is a stay at home dad… I work because I love what I do and can support our family…
I never married into money nor need to. I also don’t get child support or alimony from first hubby…. Sponge off who? 😂 one thing for sure… you will not be lucky to have a woman like me!!

[midnightmoon05]

By the way… when I met my first hubby, he had $2k in his bank account and his mom taught him to nut pay off his credit cards. By the time he divorced me.. i made him a millionaire.
When I met my second hubby he was a handy man making $30k a yr. Now he is a stay home dad…no need to get his hands dirty.
We have money set aside for kids college, no debt etc… I truly have no need to prove to anyone… since you judged a book based on others… I will say…
Good luck to you and wish you a happy life … GAG is nut a place for any rewards that will get you anywhere… aside from hiding behind a screen…

[DarkLegacy]

@midnightmoon05 you mean unlucky

[Asker]

@midnightmoon05 i simply meant if the guy is broke, ur more than invited to my thread

[Asker]

with ur credentials lmao

[midnightmoon05]

@DarkLegacy that’s all you have to say? 😂

Asker…you are anon.

[DrPepper12]

In a New York minute. It's not just a romantic partnership it's an economic partnership and that has serious ramifications on your life.

[Asker]

yeah

[Dinklex3]

I mean… As long as he’s not gambling and irresponsible we’re fine.

[DarkLegacy]

You are obviously another pink troll who cannot even spell. you are either a child or are mentally inferior.

[Asker]

triggered much?

[Staximus]

It's not a man's responsibility to support a woman who didn't have his child. If you didn't have his baby but are worried about his money then you are just a money grubbing bum

[Anonymous]

Ah you're one of those that doesn't believe in "for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health" you lady are unworthy of marriage or a good man. You're a gold digger.

[Opinion Owner]

Glad my wife wasn't like you, I was broke when we met, we struggled, but now I make enough that she is a stay at home mother, and we have college funds set up.. That's the problem with narcissistic women like you, you see men as a resource to be exploited not as a person to build a life with, women like you are pathetic, and deserving of pity, nothing more.

[DarkLegacy]

Good comment she is a awful creature

[Opinion Owner]

Agreed.

[Asker]

yup we definitely dont have time 4 that

[Opinion Owner]

Proved my point, women like you are good for nothing more than a pump and dump.

[DarkLegacy]

OP yes you are right, women like her are just there for pump and dump

[Billlewis]

What a wonderful philosophy! I love your style, Goddess ❤️

[Anonymous]

Depends what you mean by "financial reasons". I wouldn't drop a woman for how much she makes but I would if I thought her spending was out of control. There is no future with a woman who cannot budget.

[Pohjolan]

So how much income do you expect a guy to have annually after taxes?

[Asker]

i meant more like if he's broke

[Anonymous]

No, but I would drop a guy for a lack of work ethic.

[Nikki1989]

What does money have to do with anything?