Would you drop a guy because of financial reasons?

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Id say yes. One gotta be rational. Love is love but if messing with u is gonna fuck me up. I can't do that!

SallyTho87 · Accepted Answer

Yes. I was in a past relationship years ago where the man was 38, and had no career, no job, no ambitions, no hobbies but video games. He lived with his mother, and took FULL advantage of everything she did for him. She did his laundry, cooked food, worked 9 to 9pm and would come home to a dirty house.

It was awful to witness, and even think someone could treat their mother like that. Unfortunately I, his girlfriend soon become a replacement for the things his mum did for him. I'd help with cleaning / cooking, and I'd help financially support him, as I have a great paying job in the legal field. I covered everything - groceries, his car insurance, paid for his dogs medicine, HIS medicine, his specialty snacks, and gave him a couple hundred each week as he used it to buy weed and I refused to buy it. The money was also to go toward his debt and phone, internet bill.

I paid for every date, planned each date, planned movie nights, etc. All he did was get high and sleep all day. When I confronted him he became agitated, very aggressive, and used mental health as an excuse, yet would not see a doctor or talk to anyone.
I ended things quickly after, as he did nothing but take and take from everyone in his life. He ignored his entire family, declined dinner invites asking if they could just send him money instead.

Nearly 40 year old man who had not a single goal in his life, or accomplishment in his life. Quite pathetic, and ridiculous. If the guy refused to look for work, had no initiative to find employment, or ignored everyones help trying to get him to apply to positions, for his own benefit, then yes - I absolutely WOULD.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

If he was a bum, I wouldn't start the relationship in the first place. If he was enterprising and motivated to do whatever he had to do to be successful in life, I would never part with him!

A_Nihilist · Accepted Answer

This should really depend on the situation.

Dating phase or relationship phase where you are not living together? Shouldn't affect the relationship too much so long as they can pay their bills. You don't need to spend money to enjoy one another's company.

Living together and they are dragging you both to financial ruin? Yeah fair, break off with them if they don't, can't or won't fix their issues.

I understand many women want a man who earns money, either so they can know they are able to provide for them and their future family. Or because it's nice to go nice places.

TLDR - Entirely situation dependant.

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

You would be stupid to go for a broke or mooching guy/girl. Have some self respect! But I suppose "love" makes a good excuse, instead of admitting to your errors...

DishLady · Answer

It depends. If he's a responsible guy and times are tough, then no. But if he's a generally irresponsible guy who doesn't do anything to ensure his own financial and personal future, then that's a different situation... a good guy with a head on his shoulders knows he has to at least be self-reliant.

JacobJordan · Answer

Wife response: if I did that I would have a very bad life right now. My husband (account creator) lost most of his wealth shortly after we met. I picked up a second job while he was sorting out work issues and finances. The end result? I have been a stay at home girlfriend, wife and mother for 17 years now. Men really don't need a lot from us. Emotional support, kisses, hugs, encouragement, love, respect, food and they'll take care of everything else as a man.

Seinna · Answer

Absolutely. Not if he's just poor (unless it's permanent because he's lazy and lacks ambition) but definitely if he's not responsible with money or has huge debts. I need safety and stability for myself and my children.

Aubrey97 · Answer

Financial literacy is sort of a requirement of being a functional adult. Some people manage to survive without it, but yeah, if they're going to just end up being a money pit and financial burden for you, it's for sure right to drop them.

Anonymous · Answer

You can but it's weak af. If you're worried about money how about you get off your ass and go earn it. It's weak relying on other people financially.

But like I said, you can do what you want. But it's weak in my book and you're making is so much harder to find someone. We have dumb standards that can be fixed by us alone.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

ONLY if he cannot manage his finances. Meaning living/ spending above his means. Don't need a rich man. Just need him to be smart. I don't expect to be taken care of financially, neither will I willingly do it for someone who can't do it themselves.

OddBeMe · Answer

People can break up for whatever reason they want. If it’s not working, can’t fix it. If finance reasons means he ain’t buying you all the shit you want, that’s pretty bad.

If it’s because he has no ambition to get a better job and you’re actually carrying the weight of the bills, that’s better issue.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

They'd likely not date a guy (and fair) to some woman's minds if they knew He didn't own a car He didn't have stability like a job. He was broke He was too cheap even for protection lol 😔😆

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Depends why? Like if he lost his job then I would stay, but if he was addicted to gambling then I would leave because I couldn't handle it.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

What do you mean?  what is the Eason that he is broke?

DrPepper12 · Answer

In a New York minute. It's not just a romantic partnership it's an economic partnership and that has serious ramifications on your life.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I mean… As long as he’s not gambling and irresponsible we’re fine.

DarkLegacy · Answer

You are obviously another pink troll who cannot even spell. you are either a child or are mentally inferior.

Staximus · Answer

It's not a man's responsibility to support a woman who didn't have his child. If you didn't have his baby but are worried about his money then you are just a money grubbing bum

Anonymous · Answer

Ah you're one of those that doesn't believe in "for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health" you lady are unworthy of marriage or a good man. You're a gold digger.

Billlewis · Answer

What a wonderful philosophy! I love your style, Goddess ❤️

Nikki1989 · Answer

What does money have to do with anything?

Anonymous · Answer

Depends what you mean by "financial reasons". I wouldn't drop a woman for how much she makes but I would if I thought her spending was out of control. There is no future with a woman who cannot budget.

Anonymous · Answer

No, but I would drop a guy for a lack of work ethic.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Real love has nothing to do with money. You aren’t a woman looking for a man. You are an overgrown child looking for a caretaker.

Pohjolan · Answer

So how much income do you expect a guy to have annually after taxes?

war_daddy · Answer

you're in your 30s. you can't afford to have standards anymore

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

What if his financial problems are caused by his SO spending too much money?

dfdfdffffdfdf · Answer

yes , u would ended become his mom if u did not

sheenagwapa · Answer

nope i'll stick arounf if i love then i love

Unit1 · Answer

bait

DreamLife7 · Answer

Yes..

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