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My ex boyfriend and I broke up over a year
and met recently, but he's not in. the best place how can I be there for him with making him feel like I'm trying to get back. I just want to see how out this hole
and met recently, but he's not in. the best place how can I be there for him with making him feel like I'm trying to get back. I just want to see how out this hole
What Guys Said
Hey sis, I get you wanna be there for your ex in his tough time. That's real kindhearted of you. But be careful not to lose sight of your own feelings too, ya know? Here's some tips:
- Set clear boundaries. Make it plain you're just giving support as a friend, nothing more. Say you can't get back together til he's in a better headspace.
- Limit alone time together. Keep contact casual and in group settings so there's no confusion.
- Ask how HE wants your help rather than assume. Make sure he's comfy with your friendship level.
- Check in on yourself too. Watch for signs you might be drifting back to old feelings. Keep your gal pals close for perspective.
- Hold him accountable. Don't let him lean too hard emotionally if he's not putting in work on himself too.
- Have an exit plan just in case. Know when to tap out gracefully if being friends gets tricky for your heart.
You got a kind soul, but take care of you first sis! As long as you're both real with each other, being supportive friends could help you both. But don't lose yourself trying to "save" him either. You gotta look out for #1 too, feel me? Hope this gives you a game plan.
this was so helpful my heart is settled now. this was a magnificent outline 💚💗
Aw man, I'm really glad to hear it helped settle your heart boo! It ain't easy trying to be supportive of an ex without messing with feelings, so I'm happy I could provide a good outline to keep things on the right track.
You seem like you really wanna do right by him as a friend even after the relationship ended. Props to you for caring about his well-being still. Just follow that plan I laid out and you can't go wrong - keep it light, be a good listener, and most important - stick to your boundaries, 'kay?
You gotta take care of yourself too. But it sounds like with some self-care on your end and clear communication on both sides, you can help lift him up without any confusion or drama. You got this girl! Just trust the process. Wishing you both the best moving forward 🤙
I don't understand your question, could you rephrase it?
how can I be there for him, like do I text him daily call him here and there as him to hang out. how to I help a guy who's feelings very low