Should guys go for the girl out of his league?

[Anonymous]

Look. Don’t be insecure if a woman whose “out of your league” genuinely wants you. She has all these options. Right? But she chose you.

You know she’s not just settling because she can’t find anyone better. You’re not a stepping stone to get to someone else. She isn’t using you for money, etc and would leave you if anything happened.

I’m not saying be superficial. But I think it’s dumb to be insecure that a woman has something more then you. Especially money. Like more money for you…. Now I’ve seen men use women for money that’s not okay. But like if you find someone amazing

[BoopBoopBeep]

No such thing. I've only met one woman I thought was. It was college. We had a beautiful relationship for nearly 4 years.

[DarkLegacy]

There is no league table and no woman should be entitled to act and decide like there is.

[DarkLegacy]

Thanks for MHO

[sheenagwapa]

in my culture men court whoever they want wimen on the other hand just wait which sucks because women's only options are the ones who pursue them. what women only can do is make friends to the male and make themselves desirable hoping the one they like will pursue them.



girls here though even if you court for many years they can reject you. you give them free food, free meal for their friends and family they can still reject you especially if they already said no and still you decide to pursue.


so beware of course who will just ise you. there are mwn who would court a lot of women and if those women were actually acquaintances and they know what you are doing you are screwed.

[Asker]

I tell women this all the time. If the kind of guys that approach aren’t the kind you want. Bur you refuse to approach yourself. You’re limiting yourself.

[Asker]

Yeah a lot of women use men. It’s why if you have a woman you genuinely know isn’t doing that. It makes you feel a lot safer

[CalmUntilAbused]

That's all cool, but it doesn't happen in reality. If she's out of Your league, she's settling for You. Unless there is some quality of Yours that You are not aware of that makes You valuable to her (and thus Your perception of her being out of Your league is simply wrong), but unless she points it out clearly, You should assume she's settling for You. And if she's settling for You... You should only go for her if You're a masochist.

[Billlewis]

Only as a pay pig or personal maid, etc, in my opinion.

[Kingofkings1992]

For The 100th time, leagues do not exist. Only people do

[Dongie]

Yes. I tried with many. Shotdown in flames was the usual result. But a couple times scored. It just took me into my 30s to get the guts to do so.

[elaphe]

I don't believe in "leagues."