Why are so many men like this? Guys won't date a woman that they don't feel attracted to, but they still have sex with them?

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ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

It's about opportunity for many men. If sex is available most men will hop on it, even if she's not very attractive. An ugly or overweight woman can be alone in a room with a man and if she gets on her knees to suck him, 90% of the time he's not going to stop her. I wrote about this if you want to read it Why Men Cheat On Their Beautiful Girlfriends and Wives

However, women also have this same issue. A lot of them are having sex/situationships with men they would never really date or marry and they're not actually attracted to the guy for who he is, it's just that they're attracted to him sexually. Meanwhile they try to hold back sex from men they are attracted to romantically to see how long he'll still be interested in her without getting sex, and if she feels like he's worked hard enough for it she'll decide to date him and give him sex.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

It's because we're biologically hardwired to have as much sex as possible in order to create as many offspring as possible as quickly as possible. It's a leftover survival trait/mechanism from our primal days because back then your strength and very survival was often in your numbers.

It's the same reason so many guys find wide hips attractive it's again a leftover from the ancient days because bigger hips = equals easier childbirth and throughout history has been seen as a sign of being fertile and having reproductive potential thus that trait is desirable because it makes having more kids easier and so we see it as attractive.

Most if not all of it traces back to the ancient past in one way or another.

delsworld · Accepted Answer

Men will go for the women they feel they have access to. Even if the lady isn't their type or they aren't truly attracted to her - all people accept what they feel they deserve or believe is the highest they can achieve. He's trying to settle for less because he is unable to gain access to more. This doesn't dimish the woman's value as she is on the highest scale in another man's eyes - just not his.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Pfft. You’re just seeing this now? Where’s the “take as old as time” song from beauty and the beast…..

AviatorTom · Answer

It's basic biology... Mother Nature built men to desire sex. That's why men continually produce semen and can ejaculate many times, whenever they want, during their entire lifetime. Compare that to women, whom Mother Nature gave them the ability to produce one egg, for a few days a month, only until they hit menopause.

Finchie40 · Answer

I guess I am a different kind of man then , because I can’t have sex with a girl that I am not attracted to , my penis won’t let me lol

Anonymous · Answer

I am guilty of dong this. Not proud of it. But there have been times where it was “incoming”. So so girl wanted to f me and I confess that out of who I accepted it despite not being very attracted to her. It has to do with me “wanting to be wanted”. Especially if the girl was much younger then me I really have a hard time saying no.

TonyV · Answer

Women do something similar, they'll have a wild night, crazy sex on the first date and then that guy is no longer relationship material cause he saw that side of her, so she dosent want a relationship built on that Fondation but she wanted a night of fun and release.

Dudes want a break from searching so when the stumble upon a girl whoes easy they'll take advantage of that, release some tension and go back to the hint for a girl who checks more boxs.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Personally I wouldn’t be having sex with a woman I’m not attracted to although I have known Guys who operate that policy using the excuse of “beer goggles” for lowering their standard. Seems poor and disrespectful to me , I’m not some sort of man-whore that will take sex just because it’s on offer !

Apparently the asker judges us all the same !

Jbear27 · Answer

This isn’t exclusive to men. You know how many women I’ve gone out with that only want to have sex with me? A lot. They want just a casual thing with no strings attached and constantly call me for the dick. It’s not just a guy thing. Plenty of women don’t want to date and just want to fuck. I’m in a relationship now but there was a time before when I had 3 beautiful women booty calling me several times a week and all they wanted was sex.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Because Men have "become feminine", tight ass jeans, short, nails, eye lashes, makeup, lips DONE,(look at Eurovision) and Women "became Men" Muscles, bodybuilding, baggy/saggy clothes, men walks style, fighting, rude, short haired, etc... So yeah.. welcome to Next de-Generation, of Role Shifting...🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I see less of this overall and more of guys who are attracted to girls enough to want to smash but they are not looking for a long term relationship. So after they have sex the guys ( and some girls) will find a way to stop dating.

Is that what you meant?

alice55 · Answer

Cause men "need" sex so they take the first one available they can put their hands on. They would even sleep with women that are thrice their age...

Jersey2 · Answer

Because… men are pigs. That’s the female saying, or at least it was way back when. Or we just operate differently. That's what makes it so funny when women feel empowered because they can get most guys… yeah, we will F anything in the human female category, given the right circumstances.

Bottom line: It’s biology, we aren’t picky. Women have to be picky.

Anonymous · Answer

Well physically speaking most of us will only sleep w women we’re attracted to on a sexual level. There’s some exceptions. But more than likely he knows something about her. Maybe she was the town bicycle at one time. So she got around. Maybe he doesn’t like her personality. Maybe she’s psychotic, but you still want to smash that cause crazy women are good in bed but not in general as far as a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Why is it so hard for some women to understand why men are different from them? Nature programmed men that way, and it programmed women differently. Men are wired to spread their genes to perpetuate the human species, and their hormones create an extremely compelling drive to do that. It's not rocket science.

NamerOfStars · Answer

For the same reason people who are exceptionally hungry will eat food they don't like. Testosterone's no joke.

sage2021 · Answer

Some guys would screw a sheep if she stood still long enough. Naaaahhhh!

hahahmm · Answer

For every guy like that there's 10 women sleeping with everything that moves and knowingly getting with guys who are NOT going to take them seriously.

genericname85 · Answer

for the same reason women tag men along to hang out and get favors done that they would never consider being in a relationship with.

it means to them, you are good enough for that purpose but not for more.

kwsmith2 · Answer

I mean, this is the literal essence of maleness. That is many smaller, more mobile gametes (sperm) as opposed to fewer, larger, more robust gametes (eggs)

Kelley1 · Answer

While women date up and often reject equals, almost all men will date down for sex, but they marry equals.

KrisKris81 · Answer

Guys don't have the level of access to sex that women do (on average). Imagine being aroused and not being able to get it whenever and where ever you happen to be. You only get picky when you have options.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why many women are like that. They complain about guys having sex with them when sex pleasures both genders not just the guy so they pretend to be the victim.

Pohjolan · Answer

If they are willing to have sex with them then they are attracted to them to a extent.

They just don't consider her relationship material.

Same as why (some) women go for fuckboys. Sex without commitment or long term constrictions.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Men are trash and always will be, that is why.

Truthatanycost · Answer

The power comes from focusing on our own boundaries rather than another persons actions...

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

And that's why women should have standards, so they avoid getting used.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Considering a relationship has higher standards than just having a good time.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Because these guys want sex and those women allow them to hit it without dating.

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason that so many women will not date a man but still consider it fair game to flirt with them and lead them on for thier own enjoyment/amusement. .

Got news for you hun. That is JUST AS WRONG!

_piotr · Answer

I do not know. I would not date women I am not attracted to. I also would not want to have sex with them.

Dongie · Answer

It's a hole. I'm not that way and it sounds vulgar. Some dudes are.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Because it's practical. It serves the purpose.

JonCobretti · Answer

Because it's over after the sex and not a life long thing

Juxtapose · Answer

Reproductive successful propagate your genes and it just so happens that the horny genes are the ones that do well. Who would have thought?

Papabubbles · Answer

Not all, A woman approach me when I was drunk gave her my number.  Went to lunch the next day sober instantly blocked after the date.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

This makes literally no sense… how could a man be sexually aroused to a woman he isn’t attracted to?

nawtee_me · Answer

Because sex is sex and that is it… if you don’t want casual sex then don’t have sex with them.

HH1488 · Answer

Because stupid ugly women are easy. Why waste our time  Ask why a dog humps a leg.

handsomelad70 · Answer

We lads are randy, so we'll bop a broad without being attracted to her.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Because us guys just want to fuck everything. Just like all women want money.

Joshgag2000 · Answer

The people that do this have a sexual addiction

WhitneySnow · Answer

No clue but it’s definitely true

paledreams · Answer

Those are players who only care about scores ✏️📝

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's just to get an orgasam.

SotiCoto · Answer

Because they're guided by their bozak.

Nifrayu · Answer

Probably just Because sex is fun.

the29thhuman · Answer

Because they’re petty and don’t respect us.

Pterodon · Answer

Because sex and emotion are separate things for us

war_daddy · Answer

because a load of cum isn't worth anything

Anonymous · Answer

They have to be somewhat attracted to have sex.

jahaims · Answer

They are immature

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