What is this? Is this even flirting?

[Anonymous]

Graduated high school 15 years ago. I was into sports, Kept to myself, was not a party girl getting drunk. I didn't even date back then.

Why is it decades later when I bump into some of these men, either through work, etc. They seem to get out of their way for me to see them and they make sure to let me know that they are successful.

For example, I was having lunch with my mom and one guy came to me and told me that he was making over 80k per year. Why? Mind you most of them I didn't really to talk to nor hang out with them. What is the goal? I was not the prom queen nor the popular girl. Even if they do not see me in a virtual training at work. They see my name and they must let it be known they are there and their title, etc.

What is going on? Men, I am begging you please explain. I am puzzled.

[codytoe]

I think they are as lonely as they are successful. I mean in the grand scheme of thing 80k a year is less than a pittance (although it's more than I make but still in the range of peon wages). They sound desperate to impress you so A) good for you! You're doing something right. I'm willing to bet in highschool your shyness and introversion was mistaken for disinterest and they were to intimidated to try to date you.

[Asker]

I am starting to suspect the same thing. I'm suspecting I was not seen as ugly. I'm questioning how I perceived things back then. I know for a fact that I assumed that I was ugly because in elementary school was picked on for looking different.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I don't think it is flirting no. It is more likely an inherent fear of other people viewing them as failures!

[Anonymous]

You were 30+ when you graduated?😆 Are you from Kentucky?