Would a woman with children be your first choice?

[spiritGirl13]

I personally believe that a single woman has a far more better chance of finding a man than a woman with children

[Kaneki05]

I don't want children. So the answer here is if that child is above 16 maybe 14 then it makes no difference as they won't see me as a real parent nor do I need to be.
Younger well that gets more complicated.
But if it don't effect me as I don't need to parent the child then it's just 50/50.

If it effects me however then it's a 0/100.
And I know you didn't ask but I think also if a person can't parent another person's child they don't deserve to be a parent much like myself won't be and if they do become a parent I feel sorry for their kids honestly.
Not having compassion makes a bad parent and I think that's missing a fundamental part of compassion. I know myself misses some part of that compassion hence why I wouldn't put a child through that.

[Anonymous]

I mean if there are two identically amazing girls and one has no children and the other does have children i'd of course prefer the one without. But I have been with a single mom before and she was incredible, if I had the opportunity to get her back during better circumstances (We couldn't stay together due to outside reasons) I would pick her as my first choice because she is that special to me (Unless I am already in a relationship with someone else because if I am that means the new girl is equally or more special).

So if your special I don't mind a child and you can win over any other girl, but the girl without a child has an advantage from the start.

[Apple1996]

Women with kids are more likely to find true love when dating compared to regular single women. It's because they have high standards and refuse to settle. These men that run around crying that they'd never date a single mom usually don't have good track records and cannot hold down a real relationship

[kylee2437]

I had a guy flat out tell me he would never date a woman with kids even though he has kids himself 💀 I’m like dude you are just eliminating so many options for yourself

[Apple1996]

@kylee2437 a lot of these men claim women with kids have "baggage" even tho they have a shit ton of baggage themselves. It's honestly crazy

[spiritGirl13]

It’s gonna be hard for someone like that to find true love because the man basically it’s going to have to fit around you and your kids and men usually don’t want to deal with it

[Apple1996]

I've known plenty of single moms that found love

[kylee2437]

I believe quite opposite. A woman that has kids automatically eliminates the men that aren’t serious because the aren’t serious men won’t put further thought into a woman that has extra responsibility.

[Juxtapose]

Actually I think it's unserious men that go for women who have kids and I can explain why.

I am dead serious about my relationships and I want to be number one in my woman's life. How am I going to be number one if she has kids that don't even have my DNA? They even came before me so what chance do I have to be number one?

So therefore to be number one, I have to find a woman with room in her heart for me to take that top spot. Meanwhile guys that don't really care and just want a casual companion are going to get any woman they can without consideration for how seriously she actually loves him.

[kylee2437]

@Juxtapose everyone’s entitled to their opinion , and personally speaking as a woman , there’s tons of women around me that have children and had no issues finding a boyfriend. I really feel like the men on GAG feel like they make up the majority of the world

[Juxtapose]

I am not a usual person and I could date a woman with kids but super long term I wanna be #1.

[sawno]

@Juxtapose You will indeed never be her number one, child always comes first. But in a good relationship that doesn't matter because she will put you second over everyone else, and be very dedicated and loving. Just means if there is a conflict and both the child and you need help she takes care of the child first.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

No real man raises another man's kids.

[kylee2437]

@ImalwaysrighyOK you aren’t to decide on what a real man is.

[Finchie40]

Now that I am older and already had kids, I wouldn’t mind if she had a child already , but yes it’s harder for single mothers’ to find someone because most men don’t want to responsible for another man’s child

[Juxtapose]

I want to be number one and how am I going to be number one when you have kids that are going to eternally take priority over me forever and ever? Even when they move out and I am there by your side? Fuck that, I am going for a woman without kids.

[Juxtapose]

Actually I could go for a woman with kids but I still wanna be her #1 in the long run.

[spiritGirl13]

I agree

[Anonymous]

Sorry to tell you this but you are wrong, Single Mothers who have never been married have a lower chance of getting married that a Single Mother who has lost her spouse due to illness/accident, both have a lower chance of being married than a Single Woman. The main reason that the single mother have lower chance of being married is the fact that Men know that they will not be on an equal footing as a parent if they marry a Single mother, they will always have a lower priority than the children, and will not be allowed to discipline the children.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not my first choice, but it's also not like you really get much of a say in who, when and how you meet the people that you do.

If I met an amazing single mom who I really wanted to build a life with, I would feel foolish if I walked away from that simply because she was a single mom.

[Jamknot9]

Of course not.. how is that a question? Would a guy with children be your first choice? Relationships are hard to keep in this day in age. To much me, me, me I, I, Sounds like I'm at a Democratic convention.. 😂 Don't worry about no guy. Take care of your kids and get there child support. You'll meet him before a long. God bless

[loveslongnails]

Since I never wanted kids, the easy answer is no. However, let me imagine that I did want kids (it's difficult, but I'm imagining!!! ... LOL) I think I'd be more inclined to stick around if the biological dad were out of the picture completely. If the kids were infants or toddlers and wouldn't know I wasn't their bio dad until grown, or if the kids were almost out of the house (18 and up), then perhaps.

[LiamJHayden]

All other things being equal, no, but all other things in my experience have never been equal. I do not automatically preclude a woman who has children. She might have been faithful and then betrayed or widowed, for example. I have a friend who adopted her niece after a tragedy, another example that does not fit the "never married with four kids from different baby daddies, all of whom are still lurking" stereotype.

[kmg9150]

@Juxtapose you can never be sure you are going to be number one forever. People change, peoples minds change. I've seen mothers that dont care less about there children and that of the man they with which was father to none.

[kmg9150]

For the most part it wouldn't factor in my decision. This is coming from a guy who has been told I wouldn't be able to male babies of my own. I've dated mothers and non. There has only been one child that only knew me as Dad up until his 10 when his mother left and decided to introduce bio father. Since then when she is single she tries to get back with me, when not the new guy implements as Dad. She stripped Dad authority from me the day she left. Raising a child is a joyful gift. I will be a part of that child more than the blood of his bio father. Children are innocent and need guidance, this shapes future generations and I know that it is within my capability to raise a child that needs a positive male role model in their life. For some men that is not so, whether blood or not. Men have no problem driving a car someone else had, living in home someone else did, fixing things their coworkers or underlenes have done incorrectly. It shows that you can do something that other person could not do. Seems to me that is what separates the winners from the participation awardees. It would let me delete my the opinion which was supposed to be a reply.

[Billlewis]

Honestly, yes, for several reasons, not the least of which is that I'm permanently celibate and therefore, unless we want to do quite a bit of in vitro work, is a substantial issue to deal with if she wants kids and doesn't yet have any.

[kmg9150]

The more Substantial issue would probably not having sex which is permanent for you. I’m curious to what you mean. Celibacy is choice or at least thats how its defined.

[Berethor]

Well of course no, I don't want that baggage, I don't want to raise other man's children.

[DextroShade]

She would never be my first choice. The only way I could possibly see myself accepting that is if I were a single dad and she was a young widow.

[RavVid]

Of course. Few men would choose single mom over single non mom all things being equal.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It would be close to last actually, virgin woman is at the top for me

[slatyb]

That's true. At your age, no, she wouldn't have been my first choice.

[DishLady]

Meh… some guys who have been raised by single moms migrate to women who are single moms. Several of my guy friends with that history have become the sweetest stepdads in the world.

[MisterWack]

(I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND CURRENTLY)

IF I were single, I would base her on character & personality also interests and look past her being a mom.

[DarkLegacy]

Lol is this for real, they wouldn't even be my last choice. Just pump and dump.

[jahaims]

Wouldn't ever be with a female with children that aren't my own

[exitseven]

No, but now that I am older I would date somebody with older children.

[nawtee_me]

I don’t mind either way…. What about guys with kids? I raised my kids after my divorce as a single father.

[OddBeMe]

Being as I don’t want children in my life, no. But wouldn’t be an automatic disqualifier.

[dolemite58]

No I dont wanna help take care of another guys mistake.

[thehandsome]

If we are harmonic in every ways that can be. Why not?

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Danny_dan92]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Nope.