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Meet a girl on a trip, kissed and cuddled a lot.
Now were back from the trip and seeing each other regulary. Both of us are interested in something long term.
This has been going on for about 1 week only. Tho a very intense week from 1-4 base rather quick. Im rather the enthusiastic part who talks about our future like planning activites we could do in 1-2 months time and so on.
On the otherhand she doesn't talk about a common future and just today asked me if I would travel with her again next year even if it won't work out between us.
This kinda makes me unsure how she feels about us or am I simply way to overthinking afterall we only been seeing each other for one week?
Now were back from the trip and seeing each other regulary. Both of us are interested in something long term.
This has been going on for about 1 week only. Tho a very intense week from 1-4 base rather quick. Im rather the enthusiastic part who talks about our future like planning activites we could do in 1-2 months time and so on.
On the otherhand she doesn't talk about a common future and just today asked me if I would travel with her again next year even if it won't work out between us.
This kinda makes me unsure how she feels about us or am I simply way to overthinking afterall we only been seeing each other for one week?
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It sounds like you really connected with this girl on your trip, which is awesome. But one week is super early days still. A few thoughts:
Don't get too far ahead of yourself planning deep into the future together after such a short time. That could come across as intense and scare her off. Take it slow and see how things develop naturally first.
Her asking if you'd travel together again as friends if it doesn't work out romantically is probably a sign she's not as invested yet in a serious long-term thing. Understandably so after only a week!
It's good she's being honest about not wanting to commit to the future too quickly. That shows she's not trying to lead you on or give the wrong impression.
Keep spending quality time together but don't overwhelm her with relationship talk. Focus on continuing to connect and enjoy each other's company first before labelling things.
Don't overthink it - just go with the flow! It's early so don't stress either way how she feels yet. Relax and have fun getting to know each other better slowly. Don't rush into things and risk scaring her off. You have all the time to figure it out.
I think in your eagerness to plan the future, you're scaring her, and If things move too fast there is a high probability of the relationship burning out.
Be sensible and let her make some of the running too.
But how do you move slow? Im not doing this to force anything but bec I feel this way. I want to get to know her better and spend more time with her. Forcing myself to not show any or less interest feels like I am playing one of those stupid games I hate.
Read your response to me... " I feel" "I want" << you use these words... You have to be understanding too of what SHE wants..
Just let things flow. One week is not long enough to plan a future with someone you just met.
Serious question, is there a way to slow it down from my side? Im not acting this way trying to force something but bec im genuine interested in her.
Its the first real thing since 2 years and I am kinda worried I let that chance slip bec I am playing some stupid hot&cold games
Yeah I agree, playing hot & cold will always fail. by the way, you mentioned that you've kissed and cuddled already—so that means her attraction is already there.
The only thing you need right now is to enjoy the process. Slowly build the connection first, let her trust you, and everything will start from there. Have you tried asking her on a casual date?
Ye her attraction is there but it feels feeble? Like this situationship was initiated by her same with having sex the first time toghether. Which funnily enough was kinda to quick for me. I thought of waiting 2-3 months but she was basically already naked when I turned around.
We saw each other nearly every day after the trip ended. Going for a walk or she sleeping over.
All is good when we meet in person but over text she's really dry. Except the stuff she initiated the majority comes from me like going on dates and planning them. Or even planning a time for a call. Or simple stuff like just grabbing her hand or holding her, she reciprocates but only if I make the first move.
Right now she's on vacation but afterwards im planning to do other activities we both enjoy like climbing and stuff.
I think that's a great sign. I was the same like her before. Maybe because she's still testing the waters with you, or think that you don't have that exclusivity talk yet.. so she's knows her boundaries. But her staying with you, that's a very good sign that she likes being with you. Some people really are not good expressing at text. 😄 But I think this is going great. Some girls really do expect men to initiate, just try to be more patient with her.