We haven't met in person yet, but wants to talk on the phone again instead of meet in person. Red flag?

[Bethany22]

Why would a guy want to talk on the phone again instead of meet in person? Is he just using me as an option/stringing me along? Or is it a good strategy?

[AviatorTom]

What's wrong with a phone call? It's better than a text or email.

When meeting someone in an online dating site, people often have phone calls or chats before meeting.

[Bethany22]

But several before asking to meet in person?

[AviatorTom]

@Bethany22 I met my wife at an online dating site. We text chatted a few times online, and then had 3 or 4 phone calls before our first date, dinner at a local restaurant. It's not that unusual?

[Bethany22]

Ah, okay 😅 Thanks!!

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for MHO

[noohair]

Something does not sound right here. When people meet they both have to pass the smell test. I would not want to put that off.

[kylee2437]

Weren’t you just complaining that you don’t receive enough male attention?

[BTigers96]

Depending on the context it could be a red flag. Or maybe he's just busy, is still trying to figure out how interested he is, etc...

At some point he's going to have to make a decision, it should take more than a few phone conversations though.

[Alli112]

No that's usually a good thing in my opinion. Likely he's trying to prove he's real and is willing to engage with you in ways that aren't purely sexual. I honestly prefer to call dudes that I haven't met at least once before I meet them in person just so I have a better idea of what they're like and if I actually get along with them.

[Crimsyjo]

Aghh the dreaded phone call !! I hate phone talking. Then video chatting. Much prefer text and face to face.

But I wouldn't say it's a red flag...

Have u verified he is who he is looks wise? Like on Snap u can send live video and pics. If u send a pre made one u can tell.

You can tell on phone tho how well you flow in convo so if that's just his style? Lots of men dislike texting over other methods. Give him a bit longer!

[RavVid]

I actually think it s a good thing to meet someone in person for long enough to establish if you like each other enough to explore guy/girl things further.

Another girl will take it as a red flag that he wants to meet in person.

Or Red flag he wants to meet for coffee. Or Red flag he wants too meet for long enough to eat a meal together.

Why is modern dating so hard again?

Or Red flag he doesn't want to spend a month determining which of the above.

[RetroReviews]

I think you should talk at least on the phone one time before meeting in person to see if you click and can keep a conversation going that way when you meet in person that's not awkward. You can get a feel for a person's personality if you do a phone call instead of just texting

[Ironco]

How should I guy know, women look way to deep into meaningless shit.

He may feel insecure of his looks.

He may be far away.

He may be married or in a relationship.

Or he just wants to talk on the phone.

Just ask him...

[Guacamole409]

For fuck's sake. LOL

[Ryannnnnnnwithtwo-N]

Let me get this clear but not everything is a *red flag*, firstly.

Second thing, he's probably awkward or insecure about his looks/social skills and other shit...

Or maybe he's looking for the right moment to stick in your hole.

(WAKE UPPPPP. DO NOT TRUST STRANGERS ON THE WEB GIRLS !)

[Jersey2]

I agrre, he is awkward or he is not who he claims to be.

[Jersey2]

Agree*

[spartan55]

How can you be an option or be strung along if you haven't even met the guy?

[EmmaMary]

Sounds more like you're just his "Bit On The Side" so to speak... Sorry. x

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

What is the reason for this choice I have been there for you to get to know about each other it's pretty early to be already not to be more exciting to be closer than a phone call but it's just me. it's not that easy to get a kiss from the phone?

[MrPickles13]

It depends I think on how many times you've spoken on the phone and how long you've been taking. Which would determine if there is anything to be worried about.

[SashaservicesBBC]

It sounds like a lame homotendency. He may be serious considering if he should be in your heels, he prob wears panties and wonders in porn just how much fun the girl is having getting her throat fucked or her butthole gaped by huge cocks

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I agree, what's wrong with a phone call or text messaging?

[Vegasrunner]

He obviously doesn't look like the image he's portrayed to you

[clampfan101]

Probably just taking things one step at a time.

[Stef12]

That's good. I'd you don't like them you don't have to leave.

[MrGSpotHer]

Well some guys want to know who they are meeting maybe whats the rush can't you wait?

[JamesRandiDebates]

That's kind of weird. I always want to meet as soon as possible.

[Anonymous]

Yes, people who don't want to meet in person are usually scammers.

[Guacamole409]

Five messages, and then you meet.

[handsomelad70]

More than a bit of a red flag.

[Bethany22]

Why?

[handsomelad70]

I'd wonder why he wouldn't want a face-to-face meeting to see if you and he are compatible?

[Booklover_90]

Ask him to FaceTime and see how he reacts.

[DrPepper12]

Ask him.