My highschool crush confessed to me and wants to date?

[Wild_princess]

My high school crush whom i liked 4 years ago just confessed to me he used to like me and still wants to date me. he is sweet, nice and all. But i want to keep him in my memories as my crush cause that reminds me of the time i used to be innocent. i don't wanna change it i want him just as bittersweet memory of my high school love

[DaveJord]

I would strongly recommend that you keep this person in your past.

I think as you're coming out of high school, life presents all these choices and options. Possibilities are just limitless. So then you start making these choices and you start making these decisions, and as you start going down those roads those possibilities start to become limited.

I know who my high school crush is. And I've had her in my mind for over 20 years. And if I met up with her again and dated her, you're right you lose the innocence of what that person represented to you at that time in your life.

But there is no going back, she's probably not the same person she was then, I know I definitely am not. And if you go back and ruin that, finish just one less anchor you have in your in your past to hold you or you are now.

At 48 I've met a lot of women. Got divorced, and then be engaged with a high school sweetheart. Never dreamed, this person would hurt them because they've known them for so long. False sense of security, they were just looking for somebody they felt safe with. But the risks of dating and relationships, they're the same for everybody man and woman. Cuz even though you should think you know this person really well, they think they know you really well too. So that gives them a certain degree of confidence in dating you. Just as much as you have in dating them. But it's not high school anymore.

[Wild_princess]

Right its better than leave past in past

[AviatorTom]

If you tell him that, he'll know that you are not the innocent girl he liked. Feel free...

[Summeroflove]

Well if that’s what you’re wanting tell him how you feel and give him closure. If you really want to you can see where it goes but i think you should do what’s best.

Don’t waste his time and don’t waste your own time. Explain to him the way you feel and let him down easy but also be very firm that you’re not looking for anything with him at this point.

[hahahmm]

Good to know. Don't come crying in 8+ years, whining about how you can't find a guy to take you seriously even tho you've had 250+ boyfriends or "boyfriends".

[Keyboardkat]

Why? That locks him into the past, from which there is no escape. Maybe you ought to give him a chance. After all, you DID have a thing for him once.

[Anonymous]

okay, your loss then? it's kind of a weird reasoning

[DrPepper12]

Let him down ez. I admire you a lot for being so reflective and in touch with your identity and emotions.

[noohair]

Tell him that. I would laugh so hard they would have to hose me down with cold water.

[HawkPerception]

Sounds like a very childish thought process to me.

[strateguy632]

good decision. that is the smart way.

[slatyb]

Then tell him no, that time has passed.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

The only thing constant in life, is change

[masterSir]

great! good luck

[CubaPirate]

Then go for it girl 👧

[NathanDavis]

good call

[deja_vudu]

Go for it

[QuietRunner]

date him