Most men reject me bcause I'm slightly chubby, how do I navigate the dating world with confidence?

[Anonymous]

I am beautiful, I work out, play sports, yoga. Eat healthy, yet genetics, hormones I hold most my weight in my tummy. Been single 8 years, the guys who like me I don't like.

[HawkPerception]

It's great that you have an active lifestyle and eat healthy. But weight loss is not just about that. It's about the AMOUNT that you eat paired with the amount of physical activity (calories burned) throughout your days. As long as you go into a caloric deficit, you should lose weight. It's just science. So either you're eating too much or you're not getting enough physical activity.

That being said, the reason you're single is not likely only because you're a little chubby as there are many guys that would still date a slightly chubby girl. It probably has something to do with how often you put yourself in social scenarios and your personality. You can't just wait for guys to approach you 24/7 if you want to find a partner, try taking life into your own hands.

[Asker]

Thanks, I go out often and join many groups or sports teams. I am sociable, flirty and fun. I beieve the issue is the men nowadays are way too feminine and are intimated by a stron women who speaks up...

[ManOnFire]

No, I think there's more to the story that you're not telling us. If you're really sociable and flirty then there is a very high chance that a lot of men will be attracted to that and be into you. Few men reject women like this.

Something else is going on to cause them to reject that you that you either aren't being honest about, or there is ultimately something you do to push them away or turn them off.

[ManOnFire]

I think there's more to the details than you're really telling us. Men are not rejecting you for being slightly chubby. Lots of chubby women are getting attention. Your first problem - and the first thing you noted - is thinking you're beautiful. So that gives me a hunch that you're probably a conceited snob type who complains that men don't approach, yet most likely giving off body language that tells men not to approach.

You've been single for 8 years and rejecting men who like you. Yeah, I'm willing to bet you are probably "high maintenance" with a belief that you deserve some kind of man that either doesn't exist, or is above your own value.

[idonotlikeyou]

It's easy to blame genetics and hormones. Add a demanding workout a few times a week and cut out all chips and snacks; things should improve. You need to work on your body if your personality isn't good enough to attract them.

[BarryLiverstone]

“The guys who like me I don’t like”. Who are those guys? Are they also a bit chubby or something else

[Asker]

Nope, just not attractive.

[BarryLiverstone]

There is your answer. The guys who reject you just don’t find you attractive. You navigate with confidence by improving your appearance if you want them to

[DarkLegacy]

Looks lik it is you that is the shallow one here. You reject men for what they look like so you get the same. Enjoy being single and lonely.

[jahaims]

Sounds like you will only date out of your own league and don't have a realistic perspective