How do I tell my girlfriend I slept with her friend since we started dating?

[Happybf02]

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1 y

So I didn’t mean to post it before adding context,
My current girlfriend mentioned she slept with bigger guys before me an seems a bit of a size queen, I’m on the smaller/below average side an haven’t ever felt enough, she’s made comments about slipping out an not having a variety of positions available etc an her friend approached me when we were both drunk an she was asleep an we got into some action, she was very comforting about my size an it’s sorts been a regular thing since

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1 y

Sort of feels like nobody sees any of my context, she made me feel shitty about something physical I couldn’t change but I still loved her a was faced with a dilemma? I didn’t do it to be horrible it was impulsive then addictive when she never showed any appreciation or compassion to me

[BetaBucks]

"hey, I banged Emily right when we started dating. And since I've already banged you too, we might as well have a threesome."

Might as well do that since you already fucked your relationship over. Especially if the friend is younger, skinnier or prettier. She'll never recover once she finds out. Unless you really, really think that girl can keep a secret. Then, you stfu and commit yourself to loyalty. But let's be real, your girlfriend was still banging her ex while you guys were dating anyway. You'll just never get told the truth about it.

[Happybf02]

Stfu I’m asking for help not hate

[Peridot25]

@Happybf02 Nah, I’m on his side on this one. You did this to yourself by cheating on your girlfriend 🤷‍♀️

[Happybf02]

@Peridot25 but she was constantly downing me an being borderline mentally abusive by making me feel inadequate

[Peridot25]

@Happybf02 Then straight up tell her you’re done with the relationship. No need to stay with someone who treats you that way.

[hahahmm]

You don't. You try and get back an ounce of self-respect by dumping her today. Stop chasing/begging for the attention of a female who talks to you like she did. Otherwise you are setting yourself up to get cheated on and dumped all the time.

Not that I approve of you cheating either. I just would dump someone if I didn't feel it was going to be good for ME. It's not like you're married or married with kids. More like there's 10k other females in your area who you can replace her with if you stop acting like she's the only female on earth.

[HelpfulWoman]

"i'm cheating trash and even worse with your friend. lets break up as you deserve better and bleach is too fine a drink for me"

[Happybf02]

Bit harsh?

[HelpfulWoman]

nope. accurate of trashy people. but of course the trash would think its harsh...

[Happybf02]

Not really trash when she makes me feel like I’m worthless because of a physical object I can’t control

[HelpfulWoman]

THEN LEAVE.
TRASH CHEATS. get over yourself.

[DishLady]

How does anyone tell a person they cheated with the person's best friend? You just have to fess up and do it.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You are giving "context" for this as if it excuses you for cheating. It does not! EVERY cheater has an excuse and you are no different than all of the other cheaters.

2. If the girlfriend frequently made comments that made you feel bad, but you remained in the relationship, then a large share of the responsibility rests on you.

3. Why do you need to tell her that you cheated? Cut your losses and break up now.

[PeachyPie93]

Just break up and date her friend, the damage is already done. You don't have an excuse for cheating, if someone is mean you are supposed to breakup or talk it out, not go fuck their friend.

[Happybf02]

Early on I tried talking an I suggest extenders or a strap on an she sorts just humoured that I’d acknowledged I’m smaller an it made me feel shitty the irony is her friend has bigger tits an a bigger arse so she sorta deserved it from my pov

[PeachyPie93]

So break up. You are wanting to punish her for being a bitch but how is that a healthy relationship in the slightest? You said "I didn’t do it to be horrible it was impulsive then addictive" Yet you just admitted "her friend has bigger tits an a bigger arse so she sorta deserved it from my pov" She never said anything to you that was directly insulting but you felt inadequate so you "punished her". Do her and yourself a favour and just end it. No need to hurt her and say you cheated, just move on, it sounds like there is nothing to work with here.

[Happybf02]

I just updated saying she made me feel shitty an inadequate, I prefer my gfs personality she does everything I could dream of, make me feel so amazing an special but in bed she can’t stand me (that’s how I feel) an it doesn’t seem like she wants to fuck me, her friend is hot as fuck doesn’t care about size but has a shit personality she doesn’t give aftercare or say anything nice after sex it’s like a business transaction

[PeachyPie93]

Okay. But "feelings" don't justify cheating, you are sounding like a girl right now, with no sense of accountability. Your girl most likely will not be able to get over a betrayal like this especially with a friend. And you are complimenting the friend as if she has a better body than your girlfriend. That is all unforgivable. If she has been loyal to you the whole relationship and you been cheating the whole time, because of your own insecurity, no one with any self respect would forgive that. Just go in gently but you most likely are gonna get dumped.

[Peridot25]

@Happybf02 Then have your girlfriend fuck other guys if you don’t want to leave 🤷‍♀️

[Happybf02]

It’s not my insecurity I was always comfortable but she has made it this big thing ‘I love you’ but ‘I’m gonna make it obvious your cock doesn’t satisfy me’ however ‘I love you lots’ so what am I meant to do?

[PeachyPie93]

Break up! You are clearly not compatible with her or her friend. Find someone who loves you completely and you love them completely because all this crap is just messy and you are going to really hurt her.

[Peridot25]

@PeachyPie93 Don’t fucking bother helping this asshole. If he sees what you look like, he’ll insult you because it’s easier. That’s what he did to me.

[Happybf02]

@Peridot25 why would I let her fuck other guys?

[Peridot25]

@Happybf02 You cheated so it’s fair 🤷‍♀️

[Peridot25]

Just straight up tell her you cheated. Simple 🤷‍♀️

[Happybf02]

I cheated because she made me feel like shit because I can’t control I have a smaller dick, I offered solutions, buttolufs to make her tighter, sleeves to make me bigger, combinations an she just finds it humours that I now know I’m smaller?

[Peridot25]

It’s clear she doesn’t like you. So another option is to end the relationship.

[Happybf02]

I think she loves Me? I just think the size is an issue?

[Happybf02]

Sorry how can you say she doesn’t love me when you look like you do 👀 I’m a bit smaller but I can’t even get hard over your pfp

[Peridot25]

@Happybf02 Wow! I’m trying to help you and you’re insulting me on how I look? What the fuck? 😂😂

[Peridot25]

Oh I get it. Because you’re small you rather project onto me because it’s easier. Well, you know what? You deserve the abuse from your girlfriend then, asshole 🖕

[Peridot25]

I gave you options on trying to leave because you deserve better. But, you know what? You don’t deserve shit.

[Happybf02]

Don’t mention my size you dick

[Peridot25]

Good lord, I’m too exhausted for this kind of stupidity 🤦‍♀️

[RedInnocent69]

Preface it with, sorry we need to break up.

[Billlewis]

You don't.