Help me, anyone have a sincere word of supports?

[Anonymous]

I love him dearly, to my deepest core. He is the man that I experience my first in everything that you could think of. I sacrifice a lot for him, i try to cater for him, i try to be understanding for him. I try everything. At first, he do show sign of interest. Like a clear sign, then he slowly back away and start being shitty. Only to find out he like other girl.

Call me stupid, call me dumb, call me noob, call me anything that you want, but i can't stop loving him. The most hurtful things he did to me, the tears running out every fcking night because of him, and i still can't let him go. I guess its an attachment issue.. I get nothing from him, i dont benefits anything in this situation, but im hanging onto it just because i love him.

But i guess, its been too much for me to handle. I love him, but i have to let him go.. And thus i need words of supports and encouragement.. Truly and deeply appreciated

[SueShe]

I am sorry that your love is unilateral and not reciprocated. It is often that way and the person you would sacrifice everything for even goes as far as to misuse the love you have and give.

Is he your first love or have you experienced love for a man before? If it is your first one, then you want to make it last because you think that he is the right one for life. Often, it is not the case and you are so disappointed and think that you did something wrong.

You know, you have already made the first step towards letting him go by realizing that your love is impossible. It must hurt terribly but you have to put yourself first and not dwell into something you know has not future or that cannot be.

I can imagine that you have reached the point where you must hold onto yourself and fight for what is best for you. Go out, find something to do with friends, take up a hobby or an occupation, join a club where you can meet people that share the same interests as you do and who knows, you might find someone that you have a lot of things in common. Good luck.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[Skinhead-1979]

I think you could be, what is called, 'Trauma Bonding'

The length you go through to please him; you get nothing back but shitty behaviour; yet you keep on clinging more to him? Yeah, that sound awfully familiar.

Trauma Bonding:

Trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse. The person experiencing abuse may develop sympathy for the abusive person, which becomes reinforced by cycles of abuse, followed by remorse. Trauma bonding occurs when the abused person forms a connection or relationship with the person who abuses them.