Need some support and advice please?

[Daniiloveschocolates]

Hey everyone!
I am 25 years old this year and I am starting to feel the pressure of getting into a relationship. But whenever I meet a great guy, all these fears come into my mind and when I see a guy or nearly get approached, I find a way to escape and run. Very bad habit. Afterwards I feel regret.

Backstory: When I was younger my parents were very strict about being friends with guys (only had one which was very platonic). There were times when I was younger my parents have seen me talking to guy friends and they have been against it.

We didn't have time to go to any friends' houses growing up because our job as store owners means most of our time is dedicated to the business. I slowly lost my confidence in talking to guys and also lost interest. Now that I am reaching an age where I should be starting to look into relationships and most of my cousins are married or soon will be, now my parents are putting the idea of marriage into my head.

The problem is I cannot just get into a relationship like being able to turn a light switch on. In some ways, I feel emotionally damaged and conditioned to not be able to communicate with a guy clearly, I can barely look them in the eye.

Recently, I met a great guy at my second job but I only have one month left until I move into a different workspace, hence after August probably will not see him again. I know he has been trying to get close to speak to me, but I just find myself running away.

[JayBfencepost]

Go back to that feeling where you had one platonic friend. Before that guy is gone, give him his number or snapchat or something, and tell him you want to keep in touch. You are absolutely right, you are suffering from trauma from an over controlling home. You still hear the voice of those that controlled you and it keeps you in a state of fear. That may be something you need counseling for. Don't chase the guy for a relationship, telling you want to stay in touch and if he reaches back out just start with coffee or drinks and see if things are comfortable enough to share some details with. Don't look for another guy who thinks the same way as your parents did. Enjoy your freedom and date and date often and date multiple people if you want. Except that you own your own decisions and the judgment of others doesn't pay your bills or put food in your belly. You do.

[Daniiloveschocolates]

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

[Emanon25]

Get some trust in yourself.

[Daniiloveschocolates]

Any tips on how?

[Emanon25]

Accept your appearance and don’t think all people look at your physical appearance as a priority, that’s one of the things you have to take in consideration.

[Emanon25]

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