I’m (26f) supposed to be seeing a guy (27m) for a second date tomorrow but he hasn’t asked time and where, do I still go?

[Anonymous]

We went on a first date a month ago and have been texting since, but haven’t seen eachother as he comes across as abit rude over text but we put that down to miscommunication.

I was supposed to see him last Sunday but he went out to see some old friends and was too hungover (which annoyed me a little) and he was supposed to call me Tuesday but said he fell asleep.

I’ve brought up the fact that he doesn’t seem interested but has said he really likes me and wants to make something of this.

Yet he hasn’t asked what time or where we’re meeting tomorrow and it’s now midnight.

We had abit of an off moment where I called it off, due to him seeming not interested, and he insisted to give him a chance to talk and show me how much he really wants this to work (supposed to be tomorrow) yet he hasn’t really asked about the details.

What do I do?

[Avicenna]

That's a really bad sign and most people would write someone off based on that alone. Text him and tell him you really need know time and where to meet him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, you don't owe this guy anything at this point. I'd say his actions definitely don't match his words. He says he really likes you and wants to make something of this, but then doesn't follow through on plans or communicate properly? No way. At minimum, he needs to step up and actually plan a real second date if he's serious. I'd wait and see if he actually contacts you tomorrow to finalize plans before the evening. But if you don't hear from him with clear details, don't bother showing up anywhere! He's had more than enough chances by now to get his act together and he hasn't shown you the basic respect of solidifying a date. You deserve way better than this back and forth hot-cold wishy washy behavior. Make it clear the ball is in his court - if he wants to prove himself, he better step up to the plate soon. But don't hold your breath. Stay strong, girl!

[Asker]

I blocked him yesterday as it became apparent he was swiping and messaging on tinder when he told me he wouldn’t date me if I was seeing other guys (to which I agreed).

He’s now super liked me on tinder which I don’t get why after I’ve blocked him and told him no.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, good for you for blocking him! What a hypocrite - telling you not to see other guys while he's actively swiping on Tinder. You definitely did the right thing by calling him out and removing him from your life.

And now he's trying to super like you there? What a clown, like that's gonna change anything after how he disrespected you. He's probably just trying to stroke his ego, thinking he can get you back after you rejected him. Don't fall for it! Dude clearly has no respect for you or your feelings.

Any guy who's worth your time would never pull that kind of two-faced crap. You showed you have standards - now stick to them. Keep him blocked on everything so he can't keep trying to manipulate you. You don't need that noise taking up space in your life.

Go find yourself someone real who treats you with care and doesn't play games. Leave this fool in the dust where he belongs. You've got so much to offer - don't waste another second thinking about this loser! He's not worth another thought. Proud of you for dropping his ass. You deserve the world, babe!

[itsannalee]

You don’t need to text him, just cancel it. If he canceled once just to met his friend and that shouldn’t happen if he really interested to u.


Never be with someone who doesn’t respect your time, never give someone chance if they cancel your date (except for something urgent)

[Asker]

He didn’t cancel to see his friends, he went out the night before to see them and was too hungover to see me the next day (he said his head was in the toilet)

[itsannalee]

Cancel is cancel, but it’s on you.

Personally I wouldn’t give him a chance anymore. 5 minutes late is still late for me, will be worse if someone cancel it.

[Asker]

I told him that I didn’t want to go any further a couple of days ago and blocked him. He lost his sh*t and contacted me on another social media site saying that he wants me to give him another chance (tomorrow was his second chance), but I’m considering just blocking him again