Black guys - complicated advice for white girls who want that thing but not what comes with it?

How do you feel when you know our main interest is in that one physical aspect everyone talks about, and it's not really about a relationship? I can't lie, a lot of the Black men who have it love the power it gives them over us -- and over jealous white guys. Does it matter if we will only hook up with Black guys? What if we respect you, but we really want that one thing? Can you know that and still feel respected?

Is there a way to let down the Black men who don't have that, so it doesn't hurt so much that they don't measure up to the stereotype?

And how should I think about Black men who want race play? Sometimes, they'll want me to say things a little too directly. I just can't. I'm not ever going to use that word again. Growing up, it was common in our house, and it's wrong. I can't understand why a Black man would want a white girl to say that word to him. I was raised in a very racist "white pride" family, and my friends had to help me unlearn disrespect and fear of Black people. How should I handle Black men who have everything I want physically but want me to say those things? Should it be a deal breaker for me if a man has what I want physically, but wants me to role play that way?

Black guys - complicated advice for white girls who want that thing but not what comes with it?
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