I already told her I ABSOLUTELY don't want kids, do I have to tell her I have a vasectomy?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Boromir]

People form couples. It’s more often happening that people _want_ kids than not. (Sorry, stats and Darwin, you know). Be upfront with her, she might think you’ll change your mind or she can change yours. Hiding the vasectomy from here is not fair. It allows her to make choices. Women don’t have eternal fertility and she might want to look around for a more aligned partner.

[ohsheeT]

Well of course you should you can't lead her on letting her believe something and there are ways to go about it the right ways to go about it

[Anonymous]

I mean I voted yes but you don't HAVE to, it just might be relevant information a partner would like to know. It would also help you make sure you're both on the same page, since she'll know you actually can't even get her pregnant even if you wanted to. Like there's a difference between just not wanting kids and being psychically unable to conceive them.

[HollyK21]

If you’ve already established that you absolutely don’t want kids and she agrees then I don’t think you need to mention the vasectomy.

[Avicenna]

You don’t have to, but it’s a good idea if she doubts you

[FunkyMonkee]

It wouldn't hurt. Maybe she wants kids and if you can't/won't let her, she has every right to know now and to leave you if that's an issue for her.
If you've told her and she's perfectly okay with not having kids then, maybe you don't need to tell her but, if she's okay with not having any, why be afraid to tell; her?

[ArrowheadSW]

How long have you been dating her? How far are you into the relationship? How did she respond when you told her that you don't want kids?

[Asker]

A month.
A month.
She was fine with it

[exitseven]

No you do not to tell her but you should not marry her under those circumstances.

[DrPepper12]

No. If you've made it perfectly clear that you do not want kids that should be enough. If she respected you she would accept that. If however this topic wasn't discussed before you guys got serious that's on both of you.

[LiamJHayden]

If you've made it clear that you want none, then I see no reason to tell anyone.

[Anonymous]

She needs to find someone more compatible.

[Twalli]

If you have one, yes.

[Jmmmfi4]

PROBABLY