Are most men more visual than most women when it comes to choosing a partner?

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Most people say that men are more visual than we are when it comes to choosing a partner. I have discovered that most of the times men will look at how a woman looks first followed by personality etc. We women seem to be quite the opposite. We look at personality and status first many times. Looks are important, but not what we are initially drawn to. What makes men more visual and women a little less so?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Some can be and some not so much , it just depends on what he is initially after in the first place . If he is looking for a loving relationship with a girl , he is looking for her looks and her personality , if he is just looking for sex? mainly just her looks , and her personality doesn’t have to be that great to him , because he just wants to fuck her pretty much . For a guy to give his heart to a girl , she pretty much needs to meet all his expectations, basically she is beautiful to his eyes and he loves her personality and the way she presents herself , if she has good moral values and understands what it means to be in a relationship , and she stays loyal and faithful to him , and keeps him happy in the bedroom pretty much , she will have a better chance at winning his heart , if she treats him like a convenience and she has a selfish personality , he probably won’t give his heart to her, because he doesn’t trust her and thinks she is out screwing other guys’ as well. And yes most girls’ think this way as well about guys’ , but a girl will mainly focus on a guys’ personality and the way he presents himself , she is drawn to his confidence and his masculine energy that she doesn’t possess within herself , she wants a guy she can look up to and feel safe and protected by , basically a man that takes lead , that she will follow , Most guys’ want a girl that looks up to him , that makes him feel valued and loved and wanted , that only has eyes for him that pretty Much boosts his Ego.

Stevepro68 · Accepted Answer

I think as time has gone on, as a guy who was very overweight, and now I am not. Meeting women was more of a struggle heavy. Now strange women flirt with me and drive my girlfriend nuts. This was never a problem when I was fat. So physical attraction is a reasonably large component of how women interact with you. That said my girlfriend is super hot and guys will just not leave her alone. To the point she dresses down in crappy clothes at the gym on purpose. Guys are way more aggressive about physical attraction than women. Sometimes it gives her anxiety to go to Walmart alone. My opinion men more than women are visual motivated but not that much more and men are just more aggressive about it overall.

Justneedtokno · Accepted Answer

I’d say yes. Not that women do not look at men because we do we do but after a while we try to dig deeper and we do want to know about longevity. How will you provide for a future or help and whatever we got going on right now can I have a conversation with you, can I be vulnerable with you?

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

It's a huge myth that men are more visual than woman. Many women are visual and very picky about the men they date/have sex with while men will take just about any woman they can get

ManOnFire · Answer

Men do look at a woman's body and want someone sexy to date, but women are actually much more visual than men and care about appearance in a partner to a very great degree, they just pretend that it matters less to them and that personality is more important. Women focus on a man's looks not only physically, but his hygiene as well, and women worry about how  they  will look with the guy in front of others, or they worry if other people are going to judge her for being with him.

Purpleronnie · Answer

How does anyone “look” at personality and status? , I don’t believe there is really much difference between men and women in this respect. Both men and women generally see with their eyes first , appraising their features. Down the line they will find out the other’s personality characteristics and maybe even aspects of their status I. e wealth and yes these things for some will make them more or less appealing but we all start with how a person looks it is generally always the first thing noticed

blueonblack22 · Answer

Yes it’s true. But depending on the man’s age and/or maturity he will definitely factor in other characteristics (personality, compatibility, etc).

Men typically cast a larger net when it comes to initially dating. Simply because the early stages are much more difficult when all else is equal (looks, personality, social status, etc.). Women are quicker to initially reject men.

But men are also more choosy about commitment. Reason why is we have a lot further to fall do things go south. Women typically can find a new partner fast (if they choose to) after a break up. Not so for men. Break ups from committed relationships and marriage impact us much more long term.

morganherrel · Answer

As a guy with classical tastes searching for a partner in the U. S. (and not even the best area in the U. S. for good looking people either), I can't afford to be visual when choosing a partner! What's more important is being able to communicate and do things together.

Women, on the other hand, superficially judge a man's appearance and height. And given the state of the current dating pool, these women (even fat/ugly) can afford to be selective.

Where it equalizes is that these unattractive women will struggle to secure commitment from men beyond the *initial stage* of the dating game. In their 30s, they are forced to become realistic if they want a husband.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

Biologically speaking, men are looking for someone to pump full of sperm and produce (hopefully) healthy offspring. Good looks are a sign that a woman has good genes, and will produce healthy offspring.

Women, biologically speaking, are looking for that as well, but they're also looking for someone who can protect and provide for their offspring. And men have other ways, besides looks, of indicating that they have good genes. An ugly man who has succeeded in the world probably has some good genes (that enabled him to succeed), and will hopefully produce offspring that are also able to succeed in the world.

Marathonmama · Answer

Hmm I dunno I have like a perfect bod and my husband is obsessed with it and he has an amazing bod and I’m obsessed with it lol so I think it’s equal

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Women usually aren't less visually oriented in my experience. I have noticed though that for the women who are less visual, they tend to either have low sex drives, or they don't consider themselves attractive and it causes them to devalue aesthetics in general.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I always like to say looks is THE MOST important thing starting a relationship... If things go bad, it's THE LEAST important thing, she can be a super model and we will drop her.

I've also dated girls that were decent looking when we met, but as I got to know them their hotness or kindness in or out of the bedroom made them hotter.

So important yes, most important, no

RingOfFire · Answer

Absolutely. That's why the clothing, makeup, hairstyling and grooming, cosmetic surgery, jewelry, etc. businesses make 70% of their income from women. Women are designed by nature to primarily attract men with their looks. Men are designed by nature to primarily attract women with their ability to provide and protect. You can't fight nature and evolution.

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah from what I noticed and how I am it only makes sense because you don’t know how their personality is until afterwards so attraction is all we have to go on at first when pursuing a woman, guys are visual but women are where height is involved and the guys status. The woman I’m with now went for my personality but is also attracted to me and says I’m good looking but that it wouldn’t matter because it’s what’s in the heart that matters most to her

Paul09 · Answer

I guess so. Well I am at least. I'm very visual with many things. Especially women. But it isn't just that. I definitely need a good personality. That is where it counts the most after all. Plenty are beautiful on the outside, but ugly in the inside. So for me it takes time to get to know them and feel comfortable around them.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I’m very visual and he’s too handsome: No one can convince me to date a potato 🥔

exitseven · Answer

Yes, guys are definitely more visually oriented. Girls will also consider sense of humor, manners , clothing and money as factors

Nikki1989 · Answer

For the really superficial males, sure. Deep thinking is NOT their speciality.

Makeushiver · Answer

From what I've read, men are more visual in general. That's why some many more men watch porn than do women. It's not a better or worse thing, it's just seems to be a fact that had been arrived at by countless surveys

Sharkstealth · Answer

Bull shit. Another lie that makes men alone. Most women won't even let a guy talk to her unless they are attractive enough which is quite opposite with men.

Keyboardkat · Answer

What makes us that way? Men's brains and women's brains are hard-wired differently, that's all!

Meropatrick · Answer

Heck no women are equally visual. otherwise why are famous good looking guys so popular with women

glennos89 · Answer

That's not true. Maybe fuckboys are but normal guys seeking a longterm relationship will look for a combination of good looking and a pleasant personality

nolabels · Answer

No, I wouldn't agree that men are more visually motivated than women in the seeking of serious relationships.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

When you want to question a collective then don't ask me, ask studies, they are valid in the context of your question lol

loveslongnails · Answer

"What makes men more visual and women a little less so?" Talk to your DNA. Seriously.

Serkee · Answer

I'd say it's pretty similar for both sexes. Men are just more honest about it.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I think this is generally true. Most women seem to be happy if the guy is just kind, employed, and somewhat presentable. A lot, maybe most, guys seem to think they warrant a beauty queen.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

women who want a relationship usually don't go for looks. it's more about money

Ironco · Answer

That's just nature, males have always been more visual, females more emotional.  Just the way it is, and always will be

tpskchats · Answer

Yes we are  But if we spend time with that one person get to know their qurkiness we get enamored by it and eventually fall in love Or admiration

noohair · Answer

That is bullshit. Women want the same thing. Looks are important, followed by money.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I'm not sure about that. Totally depends on an individual level and what they are looking for.

Marko911 · Answer

I would say yes but the not visual stuff like personality and humor will have to match the same level of attractiveness

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, men are more easily visually stimulated than women.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. This should be very obvious from a whole HOST of observations across time and space.

Anonymous · Answer

I can speak for myself, yes, I'm more visual, maybe some other guys aren't.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Most are but not all. I’m not sure why.

JoeRob67 · Answer

Absolutely 100%

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Birds of a feather flock together

Ladsin2 · Answer

Yeah. That's like the entire thing.

eagle1951 · Answer

don't think so.

Aphroditee7777 · Answer

Yes they are extremely

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

DEFINITELY YES

paledreams · Answer

100 percent 👀👀👀👀

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Very much so.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

yes 100%

In_Trance · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Not anymore.

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