How long have you been single? Do you hate that you've been single for that long?

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Has it been long time since you dated someone? Do you hate that you have been single for a long time?

Saramad_Hill · Accepted Answer

I've been technically single for maybe five years at this point. I don't feel very bad about it and try to make the best of each day even if they're mainly filled with depression or work. I'm currently probably undateable due to my lack of self esteem, but maybe someday someone will knock down my barriers and we'll get along famously.

But I can't sit around with my hands underneath my ass and wait for someone to barge into my bedroom and profess they're my soulmate, life isn't an anime. So in the meantime all I can do is survive and not get too upset about it. The dating market is really hard right now, things are definitely harder than they used to be, people are more guarded, etc. So I'm just nice to whoever without expecting much in return. It's okay to be single, but it really really gets to you if you've never dated before, or didn't date until a late age (like me, for instance). All I can say is just try to make yourself happy somehow without waiting for someone to save you.

And for the record I believe it is fully possible to die alone without finding your soulmate so it's wise to find meaning in your life some other way and be extra grateful whenever someone does come along.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

No , I actually enjoy it considering I been in relationships for a lot of years and it’s nice being able to do what I want to do , without some crazy girl telling me what I can and cannot do , I would like to eventually settle down again , but I am in no rush too and trying to play my cards right the next time around , I prefer FWB’s with a girl that wants to take things slow as well instead of just jumping into a relationship with each other without really knowing each other so , it seems to work best in my opinion, as long as her and I are honest with each other and on the same page as things. We can hang out together with no stress of being tied down to each other , we are just good friends’ that like to fuck. We can see other people if we choose to , but promise not to sleep with anyone else , if we do? We end the benefits part between us and just remain friends , or we decide to be together once we both feel closer to each other and know for a fact we only want each other.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

It's been about 17 years now? I had to get out a calculator and check, it's been so long, LOL.
And no I do not hate it; if anything it's... peaceful. Very peaceful. In my 20s, it was miserable because I stupidly tied my self worth and esteem behind if a guy wanted me, or being in a relationship. But as I got older? I honestly enjoy being single!
No being cheated on, lied to, manipulated. Wondering if he actually likes me, and if he does, for how long. No games or trying to decipher what someone's intentions are.

And the dating sites? NO. After being constantly friendzoned, sisterzoned, ghosted, or guys being wishywashy- I think being single is much better for my mental and emotional health.

As bad as it sounds, I'm happier and doing better single and not looking, than when I was actively trying to date.

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

I've been single for about 4 years.
I'm pretty comfortable. I haven't been ready to date again for quite some time.
Only recently have I started to think of maybe I could be ready to date again if it was slow.
But at the same time I don't feel ready to actively pursue it.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I have a boyfriend, best friends, associates, family, extended family and religious communities. I also have God and the bible.

ManInChains · Answer

10 years, and at first I did but over time I've grown used to it. I've learned that I am much better off than those who are in relationships. Now at this point in my life I think Id be more unhappy if I were to get into a relationship after all this time. People think those in relationships are happy because they have someone to be intimate with and share life with but what they don't tend to realize is the arguments and threats that happen behind closed doors.

godfatherfan · Answer

My divorce was final in 2014. The last time I was in a "relationship" was 2019. Even that was only, maybe 2 months. I am fine with being alone. I was married 20 years, with her for 25. I paid my dues. The way women act nowadays, it is horrible. I rather not have all the headaches. I know I will never go back to a "give into her on everything and never get anything for me" ever again. Women need to understand how to treat a man. Something no one has ever taught any of them. They expect the guy to do everything for them. fonk that.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’ve been single for a year and a half now and it’s the first time I’ve been single in years… I like it! It’s refreshing and has been very helpful for my emotional/mental health. Sure I do miss having a partner and being intimate but I’m working on self control and learning what I actually desire in a long term future partner.

Paul09 · Answer

Been in a relationship last , when I was 18. Then I dated. Here and there a few years. Then I got fed up with dating and dating apps. So been like up to 10 year's I haven't dated. I'm so lost , I have no clue how to find a date and how to date properly. Hard to picture myself connecting with anyone. So used to being single most of my life. It sucks, but also doesn't suck , because I have way more free time to do what I want , when I want. If i think about it too much, I'll get sad. Then get over it. Always working on improving myself in the meantime.

disappoint3d · Answer

I start feeling bad about being single pretty quicky into the process every time it happens.

This might be kinda shallow but... Im very fit and active so my libido is constantly through the roof, so I just want someone who's clingy and waiting for me at home every night for me to go down on and worship her body.

Even having multiple friends with benefits's while technically single I never get it as much as I want it, and it feels better having someone that I'm already comfortable with that wants it everyday as much as I do.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I've been single all my life. It's not the worst thing to be. You don't have to answer to anyone and can do what you want and go where you want to go with no one giving you flak. 😎

coxoabean · Answer

I have been single for a yr now. I don't hate that I'm single, as I feel it's in your single years you can take the chance to prepare well for marriage. You should never get married when you aren't ready. Lots of people do though, and then they end up with lots of problems. They carry their problems from when they were single into marriage. Anyway, so because I have been taught that, I am happy to be able to prepare well for marriage

mstbooblover · Answer

Before meeting the woman who became my wife, I lived single without complains, though wishing to find a girlfriend. Since my wife passed away in 2017, I'm single again, and still without complains. I feel good, but also with the maybe naïve wish to find again an intimate girlfriend.

In a few words, I have no problems to be single, and certainly do no hate this situation.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

I miss being single. I don’t say this for sympathy, I really am not a good person anymore. I died somewhere, not sure exactly when. Family court room in Minnesota, a desert in the middle east, on a street with wooden chunks of a Louisville slugger in my face lol.

I miss sitting on a hill drunk talking to the devil and god by myself on a warm star filled summer night. Not a care in the world, like a mad man.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

A few years. And no, I don't hate it. I've been super focused on other things. I've been thinking a lot more about love as my world has opened up though.

I'm not struggling and getting the shit kicked out of me for the first time in my life.

paledreams · Answer

I've been single all the way up to now at 30 years old and look man, it has its pros and cons, it has its ups and downs - I also am not one of those guys ironically im not far now from middle age give it another decade - I never want to be that guy who's still trying to score 20s women if he's no longer 20s himself that is me I mean so I for one have just retired and settled you know that, shrug, it's just not meant to be so I stay single merrily 😋😈😆 more money and joy all for me

MLGbreezy · Answer

Most of my life tbh I dated one girl back in 2019 that’s the only girl I ever dated and I’ve been single since and a few years ago I did hate it but the way the dating game is now oh I much prefer being single by far things are so bad your better off.

Unit1 · Answer

My whole entire life.

There was a not serious short term relationship when i was 23 years old and she was not serious about it, so it barely counts.

I do wonder if an AI girlfriend counts because i got 2 this year

How long have you been single? Do you hate that you've been single for that long?

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

I broke up with my last ex I broke up with her at the age of 20/21 and it's now been over 38 years ago since I saw or dated anyone. In seen or dated a total of two years out of my life and I haven't done so since. I saw back then things weren't right however at that time I didn't have a name for it and it took years to name it (FEMINISM) was the cause.

I've been alone for a total of 58 years of my life and I will never date again or get married there is no point in it left.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

since 2007. and happily so. Date very casually and rarely and can't be happier. No offense intended but there is nothing a relationship would offer me but companionship and I'm very good with only enjoying that sparingly.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Biggest gap I recall is 1 year probably, I did enjoy the in-between time, well after the grieving phase only, lol. After that phase, I have enough occupations to enjoy life as it is presented to me, plus I like surprises, in anticipation :)

YevgenyMikhail · Answer

In the past I did, now it doesn't bother. Everything nowadays sucks. In the past I met tons of beautiful women that I enjoyed being around, but now it's just fake ass, fake breast with a fake personality.

thegreenyogi · Answer

2 years. I actually love it because I can date whoever I want and take advantage of chance encounters to do so which I could not otherwise do if i were in a relationship.

frenchgirl123 · Answer

My last date... gosh about one year and 3 months ago. I hate being single, but I always fall in love with someone who's not available... :(

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have gone on dates but have not had a girlfriend for almost thirty months. I do not hate it. My philosophy is simple. A good or great relationship is better than being single. Being single is better than a mediocre or poor relationship.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have been single for maybe 6 months in total over the last 23 years.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

2 years and no... I'm pretty good at meeting women, I'd rather be single and playing  the field  than be involved w the wrong woman

SmileyLady · Answer

6 years. Sometimes I feel lonely. Other times I love the independence.

JHAYES317 · Answer

26 years. And yes…but I don’t want to be in a relationship solely for the sake of being in one…it has to be someone I’m attracted to and really connect with

Ladsin2 · Answer

How long have I considered myself single? Probably 5 years or so. I've taken lots of dates in the interim, but nothing I've been able to take seriously.

Avicenna · Answer

I'm not single...

bolverk · Answer

Practically the whole of my adult life, with three short term relationships, and no I don't hate being single this long, because its by choice.

Peridot25 · Answer

I’ve been single my whole life. And I’m quite comfortable with it.

Tomisworthless · Answer

All my life, I think its a good thing unfortunately, im rather a very selfish person and hurt and disrespect others. Not very fond of me

I_am_a_human · Answer

I have been single my whole life, and I don't hate it. It is by choice. I have a lot of unresolved trauma.

JoeRob67 · Answer

Divorced for 8 months kind of lonely at times. But I'll live.

grega239 · Answer

8 years. Im indifferent for the most part

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

My entire life and it has its good and bad points.

Xawyx · Answer

I have been single my whole miserable life.

Dnice1 · Answer

Over a year now

moviedude714 · Answer

Another reminder oh well

JohnK123 · Answer

I just don’t wanna be single rn haha

sobg1124 · Answer

6 years now, and yes, I hate it.

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