Why are people naturally turned off by desperation/neediness?

[Anonymous]

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

You mean why some people, an undefined amount of people, yes I'm picky!

Why turned off? Short list:

• Because they are programmed since infancy, see relation to homelessness
• Because they see this as immature
• Because they see this as pressure for them to fix something
• Because they are not empathic
• Because they are afraid, mirrored, to become desperate
• Because it is mentally difficult to embrace desperation

If you're in that case, I would appreciate more context

[OlderAndWiser]

Experience tells us that a tyrant who seeks control lurks behind the mask of desperation and neediness.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because it's a statement about how the needy person views themselves.

[slatyb]

It's a strong sign that someone won't contribute to a partnership.

[Asker]

How so?

[slatyb]

Depressed people tend not to accomplish much. Needy people don't let their partner accomplish anything.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Because it comes off like that person will be a burden to deal with.

[DerekC321]

The problem is that people feel uncomfortable when the emotions of another person are so powerfully affected by what they do. Even though that person really likes them.

[nawtee_me]

For males it is not in our nature to nurture. It is in our nature to protect. So the needy and desperate don’t fit the survival of the fittest nature. Those are to be culled.

[LiamJHayden]

I think it gives off the vibe that the person wants anyone, not the target specifically. It is a type of objectification and is offensive.

[noohair]

It drains too much energy. It is like being around a vampire that sucks the life out of you.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Cause it looks bad I guess

[OddBeMe]

Yes. Is this surprising?

[Asker]

The was “why” people are turned off. Not if…

[OddBeMe]

Ahh. Negative emotions are a turn off. Even married 20 years. Itd be weird if she was turned on during my depressed days.

[RedInnocent69]

We like to be helpful

[CVNT5]

but... i want a clingy girlfriend💕

[MemeSupreme]

it's suffocating

[dudeinohio]

I'm not

[Anonymous]

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