Is it a turnoff when someone likes you, but is afraid to admit they like you?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Not really a turn-off, but at some point it's nice when they take the hints that it's reciprocal. Honestly, what's the worst that could happen? The other person doesn't reciprocate and communicates it. Now everyone knows where they stand.

Although, I do sympathize with guys, since they tend to be bad at picking up on clues and yet have to make the first move traditionally. I mean, I'd be terrified to have to walk up to a guy and say, "Hey, want to grab a coffee with me sometime?" Especially if they are someone I know and have to face on a regular basis. Yeah, that's intimidating.

Back to the question: Where it becomes a problem is when a person communicates, the other person says they aren't interested, but then does various things to keep the person guessing about whether they really meant it or not, and yo-yos. That's not OK. I mean seriously, if we aren't sure whether we want to pursue a relationship with someone, maybe just try dating them and see what happens, you know? It's literally a date and trying it out. They can always decide it isn't working. We have power to decide how we move forward or don't move forward. Just some thoughts...

[HawkPerception]

As always, words of gold ya classy empath 😊

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@HawkPerception Appreciate it as always! :D I do my best.

[Crimsyjo]

I cautiously said no. It's not really a turn off. But if you give signals back to give them confidence to initiate more and they don't then that can be a turn off. Us gals understand it's not easy for guys but at some point we do like a guy to show he can initiate and take the lead. And put effort into fighting for the things he desires in life. Even if it's scary.

[KBird]

I dont think its ever a turn off to find out that someone likes you. I take it as a compliment. But, I was in a situationship for a bit with a guy friend who was afraid of commitment. That eventually became a turnoff, because at the time, I wanted to be with someone who wasn't afraid to scream from the rooftops that he was dating me. If I just wanted something casual, I wouldn't have minded. But because I was looking for more of a commitment, I just got tired of waiting.

[SuckOnThisOpinion]

Well if I like them I would've made some moves towards him, so I would've figured out he likes me, and then I would not care whether he was to shy to tell me. If I'm not interested I won't make any moves and he'll never tell me, so I will either never figure out he liked me or if I do, it cannot turn me off because I was never turned on in the first place.

So no, it does not turn me off.

[PeachyPie93]

Not really, like if he keeps it to himself.. but if he is defensive or denies it when asked then yeah its a turn off..

[thegreenyogi]

Not at all. It's actually something that makes me feel more drawn to that person when I feel attracted to them.

[sawno]

For me no but I can imagine girls being turned off by that.

[SiegmundWalsung]

Afraid in a shy way or defensive?

One is cute. The other is how you make me lose any interest I probably didn't have to begin with.

[Xawyx]

As a shy person, it bothers me, because I can't meet any girls if they are shy like me.

[justabuddy]

Nah... it takes time to know if those feeling are genuine or if they will fade with time. That's why some people take it slow.

[red-lipstick-girl]

If he likes it, he should tell you, why is he hiding it?

[Matt_M]

If someone likes me but doesn't tell me, it's not gonna be a turn-off because I'm not gonna know in the first place.

[Starrrboy]

It can be fun lol

[chilldude33]

It's cute af

[smashleyy]

No. Intriguing