Should I stop hoping for a man who’s both hot to me AND will respect me?

[Tryinganym]

I love a coworker that makes rude comments about my looks, but he also compliments me about my looks , and I wany to tell him im in love

[Billlewis]

I wouldn't give up, but I think you should consider dating more than one guy at a time.

[Tryinganym]

Thanks. Guys don’t seem to ask me out.

[Billlewis]

That's probably because you're being too nice to them. If you start acting like a total bitch, you'll have more offers for dates than you know what to do with... lol

[Tryinganym]

lol… my boss must have men lined up then

[Billlewis]

Why, is she really mean?💕

[Tryinganym]

Yep… just a horrible attitude

[Intheclouds00]

Yes. The 20/80 rule all but guarantees that won't happen

[Christophert10]

People need to stop being disrespectful

[Tryinganym]

Thanks. It hurts but he also makes nice comments and stares at me and I don't know it’s a mixed bag.

[DerekC321]

No, don't give up.

[Tryinganym]

I honestly settle in my heart for the crumbs or whatever this guy is giving me. I did it in the past too.

[DerekC321]

Same. Just getting a little attention from a crush was like euphoric for me, but that's all it ever was.

[Tryinganym]

They make our day better :) do you dream of her?

[DerekC321]

Definitely uplifting, yeah. and I dream of her a lot... I think too much, sometimes.

[Tryinganym]

Wow what happens in the dreams? Do you have good times with her? For me , my crush and I interact and it’s romantic

[DerekC321]

Same here, my dreams are often very romantic/passionate. The dreams I remember is us being naked together and me kissing my way all over and down her body and giving her pleasure... long erotic foreplay 🔥

[DerekC321]

Also just cuddling dreams too, there's a lot of variation lol

[Tryinganym]

Wow I don’t have sexy dreams haha just romantic and like us talking or interacting. How do you know what her body looks like in the dream if you never saw it? lol

[DerekC321]

Yes true, I did see her in a bikini on two occasions, but yeah, I got somewhat imaginative 😶 So naughty dreams but also romantic, like cuddling and sharing my personal things (which I don't do that often irl lol).

What kind of romantic dreams do you have?

[Tryinganym]

Nice. That’s so cool to share personal things with someone special. Did you mean share secrets or literal objects?

Me and my crush just tal face to face sitting down on some dreamy world. It’s mostly about the emotional feelings I love getting from
The interactions

[DerekC321]

Oh mine are very emotional too, my romantic dreams always feel warm (like it's strange that emotions can feel certain ways in dreams, maybe it reminds me of a hug or something lol). And personal things, so secrets, I suppose.

Your dreams are sweet, it's cool that you feel the love

[Tryinganym]

Dreams are cathartic ! We get to experience the love even though the person doesn’t have it with us in real life. I wouldn’t mind a sex dream with my crush tbh. You’re lucky you got those. Lol

[DerekC321]

Haha thanks, and I totally agree. But they're emotionally fulfilling for me, too... I feel "complete", like I get to feel and show deep feelings for that person that I'm used to having buried deep. I think we get to feel a sense of completion in dreams

[Tryinganym]

That’s awesome. I hope you get to marry your crush.

[DerekC321]

Haha well maybe in my dreams at least 😂

[Tryinganym]

Do you wanna ask her out or anything like that?

[DerekC321]

Yeah, eventually. It's honestly hard to find the opportunity

[Tryinganym]

Oh May I ask what kind of opportunity you’re looking for? Is it about waiting for the right atmosphere?

[DerekC321]

She's a coworker and she works in a different department from me, so I don't have lots of chances for a conversation. And then I wonder if it might not be the greatest idea to get involved with coworker. But yeah it's too bad, cause she's smart and funny and yes of course I'm attracted to her

[Tryinganym]

Wow. Seems we are all falling in love at work. It seems people usually don’t really make a move at work and just stick to flirting endlessly. I do wish it wasn’t like that. It people online say not to date coworkers. So who knows.

But if it’s someone you could see marrying, why not respectfully give it a chance. You know.

[DerekC321]

Thanks, and yes, who knows what the future holds

[jahaims]

You are 35 and you think that is what love is? Sad

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes stop hoping