Should I text him to see if he’s okay or just leave it?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been on and off seeing a guy since July.

We were supposed to see eachother tonight but yesterday he said he’s been bad at replying as he’s not in the right mindset and apologised.

It’s now 8pm and I haven’t had a response since I asked him “what’s wrong?” At 10am yesterday. He hasn’t even read my message.

Should I leave it or message him?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky one. On the one hand, it might be good to give him some space and not bombard him with messages if he's really not in a good headspace right now. If he said he's been bad at replying because he's not in the right mindset, pushing him too much could just make things worse.

But on the other hand, you do care about him and you're probably worried. Leaving it completely might make him feel even more isolated.

I think the best approach is to give him one more gentle check-in, just to let him know you're there for him if he needs it. Something like "Hey, just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and I'm here if you need to talk, no pressure at all." You know, just a quick message to show you care without demanding anything from him.

After that, I'd probably leave the ball in his court. If he responds, great, you can go from there. But if he continues to be distant, try not to take it personally. Sometimes guys just need to work through stuff on their own for a bit before they're ready to open up again.

The most important thing is to not make assumptions or get too caught up in trying to "fix" things. Just be there for him in a low-pressure way, and focus on taking care of yourself in the meantime. Sometimes a little space is what's needed to work through personal stuff.

What do you think? Does that sound like a reasonable approach? I know it's not easy, but try not to stress too much. You got this!

[Abbycado]

I would give him space. Obviously there is something going on.

[Anonymous]

Try talking. It was once very popular.