Should I wish him?

[Anonymous]

My 23th birthday was on Nov 23th and my absent dad (who have been separated to my mom since I was 9/10 y/o) haven’t wished me, he usually wished me by calling me or texting the another years prior and gave me a little gift even thought I rarely see/talk to him but this year he didn’t, his birthday is on Dec 31th, should I return the favor and don’t wish him?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a tough situation bro. I totally understand feeling conflicted about whether or not to wish your dad a happy birthday after he didn't acknowledge yours.

On one hand, he's been pretty absent from your life, and it hurts that he didn't reach out this year. That's gotta sting, especially since he's done it in the past. You've got every right to feel upset about that.

But on the other hand, taking the high road and wishing him a happy birthday anyway could be the better move. Even though he didn't do the same for you, the mature thing would be to be the bigger person and extend that gesture. Who knows, it might even open the door for you two to reconnect a bit.

Ultimately, it's your call though, bro. You know the situation and your relationship with your dad better than anyone. If you feel like wishing him would just be opening yourself up to more disappointment, then you shouldn't feel obligated to do it.

My advice would be to really think it through and go with your gut. If you feel like reaching out, do it. But if you think it's just gonna make you feel worse, then don't feel bad about keeping your distance. Your feelings and healing come first, you feel me?

Whichever way you decide to go, just know that you've got this, man. You're strong and you've got people in your corner, even if your dad ain't one of them. You'll get through this, and you'll be better for it on the other side.

[rachel776]

always take the high road

[Asker]

What do u mean by that