How do I stay focused on my goals while dating?

Question

I have a problem.

I have a lot of personal goals and I am a budding entrepreneur.

I don't get a lot of opportunities to date and I don't waste much time with game playing which is the norm these days.

The problem I have is that when I am getting know a guy, I get a little derailed in my personal goals and I just don't know how to stop this.

I am working on taking it easy and being more detached and I see progress but, I know that it's still a problem and I do think that guys are feeling the weight of my expectations.

I know they're not unreasonable and I have done a lot of work to stand firm on my boundaries but I just find I still get distracted.

I also don't want to be some hardcore boss babe who isn't available to make space for the right guy in my life.

How do I strike a balance.

How do I stay focused on my goals while dating?

tkchats · Accepted Answer

I am way too similar to you except the part I gave my heart to this girl who played me cause I was too busy to take my time out of business and college 🥺

But you know what having relationships... Be it with your friends, colleague, parents cousins, *arch rivals* and one with your self is quite fulfilling.

But distraction happens when you know in your heart the business you are doing... The dream you are trying to turn into reality... It may be for the revolution of the world, betterment of society or one that thickens ur bags and generational wealth too... Will not come true if you are not stable in heart body and mind

This Stability is one where you know whatever happens you gave your all... Became part of the league , became someone in life... Became someone who lived his or her potential!

I am in this race to become that person so I strive to give my best wherever I can and not mull over too much pn bas things or instability that life brings... Cause Karma🤩

But I am living the life where each day is a new learning, a new experience and a new feeling.
Am I in the wrong to take things slow or be left out or be fast and loose it all?

Who cares if the life you live... Make you alive more than the world's rat race?

No offense but I am me 😊
You are you
But in life
If your goal is true
Strive to be the better u!

~tpskchats tried🥲🌹

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

It sounds like you're taking a lot on all at one time and with each scenario it kind of takes you a different direction and you allow yourself to do certain things that maybe you wouldn't so you have to find a balance or you have to become that moment in that moment and really focus your words tell me that you have a beautiful heart and that you I'd like to be there for the person that you're with but I think you also said but you regret it in a roundabout way maybe not but that's what I've read so just stay in that moment be honest 100% honest with yourself have a game plan to where this is how far you will go in any certain area and if things get crazy and you want to change that you can but you have to you have to focus on yourself I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing I think you just have too many thoughts going through your head at one time I would almost say that you're an empath is what I feel and if you are I'm sitting here smiling right now you have a lot of things you're going to have to change to really get into that because I think your emotions and your energy take charge of you sometimes and I'm still smiling because I really think you are an empath

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You say you don’t want to be a hardcore boss babe who isn’t available to make space for the right guy…but that’s exactly what you’re doing. If you want to date you may need to cut back a little so you can schedule the time. Lay out all your cards and be upfront with guys about your goals, both for your career and your romantic future.

CarolinaGirl5 · Accepted Answer

Because you have no life, no friends, insecure, and no self respect. Please see a therapist

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Treat your time like a valuable but limited commodity and budget it according to your needs.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Fellow (successful) entrepreneur here!

What I've found is that boundaries, scheduling and time discipline are critically important. I'll talk with people I'm dating, figure out what their expectations are and then carve off the blocks of time I need to address those needs and I adhere strictly to those. Nobody wants to date the entrepreneur who can't stop working. Trust me, I grew up with a father who was always answering the phone, or always filling out paper work, or always talking with clients and it's annoying as shit. He didn't know how to put up boundaries with his business and say "I have no problem with letting that phone ring," or "I'm not going to bring my work on this camping trip," and it (among other things) cost him his marriage.

Make a list of priorities and hold yourself to that list.

RHK36 · Answer

If you have a lot of personal goals especially pertaining to your career there's no sweet spot until you reach some of the personal success. If you look at very successful people they all had to sacrifice their personal lives. You can do both at the same time, but you will give half effort in both. Decide what you want more... success in profession, success in social or a bit of both with a lower ceiling of what you're trying to accomplish. Realistically there's not enough time and energy to be perfect which is why it's not a thing.

Staximus · Answer

This is pretty simple. You need to have a life outside of work and that requires time. Go hang out with your friends on the weekend, go get a boyfriend. Have a life outside of work. If you need to make money to keep a roof over your head that's one thing. If you're trying to be some fancy pants millionaire or something to impress people or feel self-important, that shit really doesn't matter. That money isn't going to keep you company at night when you're sitting there by yourself, watching some stupid fucking television show, wondering where your life and your time went.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You call me up... I scratch the itch and let you get back to your goals while I flick you off and dance to techno music in and play video games until you need me again.

Zack-Bann · Answer

As far as problems go yours is better the opposite

At least you’re not lazy and waiting for handouts

I think you just need to improve the work life balance.

Compartmentalize your mind to be person A at work and person B at home

Where A is the “boss” with the weight of the world on her shoulders

And B is the carefree young woman looking to have a good time with the person she cares about

Hard to do. But worth it

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

It kinda sounds like you have a scheduling problem.

You need to set aside a certain amount of time for your entrepreneurship, and treat it like a job. No "relationship" stuff when you're supposed to be working.

Then, when you're doing relationship stuff, you can do it with a clear conscience, because you've already devoted plenty of time to your goals.

Hope this helps.

WhitneySnow · Answer

You should talk to this guy @tkchats. He’s like your male counterpart.

HusamRocks · Answer

U don't, u go and have some usrself time with ur guy beside ur working in progress goals, because this is what life means 👍🏻

SolitarySolace · Answer

You can't. Dating is a distraction from your goals. Achieve them first or don't bother with dating at all.

exitseven · Answer

Discipline. Get it now and it will serve you well for rhe rest of your life

Anonymous · Answer

Your problem is your priorities. You can't prioritize your "personal goals" above dating and finding a mate and then expect to have any success with the latter.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

That's hard to do unless he's gonna help you achieve some of your goals. This is why most people don't date during this time so they can stay focused

moneymagnet24 · Answer

You just need good sex have good fuck buddy who fuck you on weekend n you will feel relaxed so on weekdays you focus on your business.

jimmy2 · Answer

I hear you I am one too. Hire people to take the load off

paledreams · Answer

I guess 50/50 or only one can win out lol 🏆 😂

itsgonnabemee · Answer

What kid of business? Oretty cool

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Get a girl friend instead

Anonymous · Answer

A budding entrepreneur.😆

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

GOTTA STAY FOCUSED

DrPepper12 · Answer

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