Why do people think there's somebody for everyone?

Question

it seems like a stupid statement made for people who can't find someone

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

There isn't someone for everyone. That is straight fact.

But more relevant, there's no perfect person for you - you are never going to get everything you want, and neither will anyone else. Every relationship comes with compromises and things you don't necessarily like. No person is perfect, so there are no ideal matches. Instead, all you can do is find someone with a solid foundation and know that you will, to some degree, spend the rest of the relationship dealing with or just accepting minor, and occasionally major issues. That's what all relationships are.

Way too many people are looking for the perfect person with everything they want, and as a result, nearly all of this group will end up with someone who is much less of what they wanted than better matches they could have chosen, or they'll just end up alone.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

There isn't. Love is definitely not meant for everyone. However, when someone's feeling down, it's better to encourage them than to kick them when they're down.

The better choice is to tell them the truth. To find love, everyone has a shot, but they need to work on themselves. Workout, work on social tact and personality; be better person, work on your career and be financially stable, find things you're passionate about, exude positive energy, and the main thing... socialize. If you do that, you'll naturally find yourself a partner.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

On the surface, and if you’re incredibly cynical, it can seem like a blanket statement to comfort the lonely (as if there’s something wrong in comforting someone who’s upset). However, I think it’s a true statement as long as you’re willing to look outside of a romantic lens. You’re never completely alone, no human lives totally on their own and we are connected to each other in ways we can’t always see. There are people, good people, who have a like mind to yours, who understand you, get you, and it may not be a romantic connection you have with them but it is a valuable one regardless. I think that’s quite a nice sentiment.

Aimée__LJ · Accepted Answer

Statistically looking at the global population there's someone for everyone who wants someone.

The issue is people don't look outside their immediate area. It's insane to think that your soulmate (for lack of a better word) lives in the same town you've always lived in.

ohsheeT · Answer

Nope it's just a heads up everybody's been through times where they couldn't find anybody and then all of a sudden out of the blue they find each other and they fall in love andn they just want other people to know don't ever give up

AviatorTom · Answer

Based on the sheer numbers of people in the world, there is someone for everyone. The problem is that some people are only looking for their ideal person, and they don't always exist.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I agree... it's like a euphemism to placate people that are struggling.

"Just be yourself bro" is a favorite of mine. As if the bro hasn't been being himself the entire time.

So the usual "the right one is out there, and you just haven't found him yet" bullshit makes me chuckle. It's brain-numbingly dumb to assume she's going to just randomly find someone at all, and if she does, what counts as the right one? The "next one" is most likely going to be just like the "last one." Maybe she should change something... ohhh, that would be harsh to say though... so they say something like that.

It's almost like a dumb idiom at this point... like, "Good things come to those who wait."

MisterWack · Answer

Well 8 billion people on this planet, we all make friendships which are platonic relationships…. Clearly the mathematics of finding someone for you are astronomically high though we have greedy businesses monetizing the dating market through ads, dating apps, social media group recommendations / invitations, and more so it makes it harder to get a date rather than meeting someone in real life, talking about common interests, and hanging out to see where things go.

AManOnTheWeb · Answer

There's over 8 billion people in the world, sure some are children or way too old for someone your age, a huge chunk are already in a committed relationship, but even still, that's a LOT of people. At your age, there really is no rush. Focus on school and getting good grades. You'll meet someone that's right for you soon enough.

Zack-Bann · Answer

There isn’t systemically “somebody for you” but there are many people who make good partners.

Now finding one and meeting them and you being best for them as well is another matter

It’s hard. It takes effort.

Not everyone is willing to put in that effort.

But life as a very clear cut way about it:
Do nothing, get nothing
Do something, get something

It all depends on what you want and your willingness to “do”

MrPiercedD · Answer

If I can't find a girl, then I assume that it's a problem with me. I try to locate the problem and change it. To locate the problem I ask girls what they like in me and what they don't.
You just need to remember that dating it's numbers game. Sometimes you need to try with 1-2 girls, sometimes you need to approach few thousand.
The same is with sales. In a dating world you are the "product" which you want to sell.

Cutea · Answer

There are trial and errors. You can try till you find the one. Whatever their age, sex or whatever. But it personal choice to have someone or not. Just go with someone you are sure that your goals are the same to them

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It's just a general principle, and as a general principle I find it to be true. When I look around me, I see all kinds of people finding all kinds of people.

Anonymous · Answer

Relationships ain't for everybody and people like that have hard time coping with that reality. There is people who are 60s and 70s still singles, virgins and never had sex or never had relationships or marriages. If it happens it happens, if it don't you have to live with it! That's what everybody tells me!

CuriousMoonFox · Answer

I believe that is something women have come to realize for themselves because that tends to be true for them. It is their reality.

Gwendoline · Answer

It's encouragement and a positive mindset. That's why they say there's plenty more fish in the sea after a lost love.

lowkanymous · Answer

because there are 8 billion people in the world, there's no possible way there's not ANYONE that likes u that you also like.

Lynx122 · Answer

People just say things that sound nice sometimes.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Blind optimism, maybe? It'd be nice to think there's someone out there than to feel like you're just eternally screaming into the void

Garud · Answer

optimistic people and optimus prime think like that

Anonymous · Answer

it's blue-pilled virtue signaling when the mathematics don't even add up even the recent election demographics are absolutely skewed rather than split 50/50

MoonFace2 · Answer

It’s a way to avoid conflict by being honest, about the fact that no unsuccessful person wants to hear-that there isn’t someone for everyone.

Shoichiro · Answer

I definitely don't think that statement is true. I think it's a coping mechanism.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

🤔🤔.. No I think that there's somebody for most people but not for everybody..

LiamJHayden · Answer

Just the numbers. Over eight billion people on the planet. The odds of one or more compatible are quite high.

Chthou95 · Answer

Because humans are hopeful. But yes that statement implies its guranteed for everyone which isn't reality. Some people are doomed when it comes to the dating world

es20490446e · Answer

Do you mean that there is nobody to date around?

WowGIrl4ever · Answer

There is , you just have to find that person

Twalli · Answer

There is, but we live in a world where there are over 7 billion people. So, the likelihood you will find the person for you isn't exactly high.

Anonymous · Answer

There is. One day you'll meet a guy that makes you feel so special and safe. You'll feel happy just to be with him, even if you're just talking about the dust bunny on your ceiling fan, you'll just be content. 🤣

nawtee_me · Answer

With the billions of people on earth I would thank there is someone for everyone. Finding them may not be so easy tho….

noohair · Answer

There is someone for everyone. But there is no guarantee that you will ever meet or be born in the same time…

dudeinohio · Answer

You are young. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you

Anonymous · Answer

It's a mathematical or statistical near-certainty. There are 8 billion people on the planet. And even if you limit that down to your country there's likely many, many millions of people.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

its those optimists... but its also a polite phase to comfort a struggling friend

Staximus · Answer

There is somebody for everyone, whether you find them or not is another story

Crazzyyworld · Answer

We all doing some kind of shady business and they always have a partner for it

Nerdvana · Answer

They think that because they are attractive, the rest of us know that's not true.

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

It's a comforting thought when reality says otherwise.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

There likely is, though I have found my Lady Blossom.

In_Trance · Answer

What if the people who believe it have already found their someone?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Before dating apps and social media, there was someone for everyone.

JJones03 · Answer

Sometimes people just need that hope. Everyone is worthy of love, it's just difficult to find that person sometimes

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of people are  stupid

Anonymous · Answer

There is someone for everyone who deserves someone. But you don't, so...

Anonymous · Answer

That’s bs. I thought I had found my someone and they got ill 8 months ago of a stroke and I don't know anything about them ever since…

BCA6010 · Answer

It's a coping line/mechanism.

bowenw · Answer

I am living proof.

msc545 · Answer

This provides hope - very often false hope.

Luopio27 · Answer

One word: wishful thinking!

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

they are completely BS

Anonymous · Answer

Hope much like religion is a fallacy for failure

Slim57 · Answer

It's something optimists say

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

yeah im definitely one of those who can't

Deserter2 · Answer

It's a feel-good platitude

jahaims · Answer

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