On a first date, if you feel you're vibing with the person, is it okay to give flirty touches, or should you keep your hands to yourself?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

I'd be fine with it, and I have done it with good results - though I have also NOT done it if I didn't feel like it was going to be well received.

For guys, the danger is doing it in the first place. For girls, the danger is starting down a road that you don't necessarily want to drive to the end of. That's why you have to be good at reading the vibe and be prepared if you have made a mistake. But when it works, it's good.

[Finchie40]

If the chemistry and connection is there then touch all you want , but don’t be surprised if he wants to touch you back and possibly take you to the bedroom

[Cutea]

A little innocent touching actually help the other feeling more at ease with you. I actually do it. But for my actual boyfriend I didn't do it with him, but if the person is really interested with you he or she will find a to get close to you and touch. While others who might not have the courage, will stay shy, avoid and you might lose a lot like that if you don't give them a little boost of help

[Anonymous]

I hate having a good talk with a guy and then meeting him thinking it’ll be fun.. then he touches me.
It puts a massive buzz kill on meeting any one when guys constantly do this. Makes me cautious to meet and makes me talk a lot more to them before meeting which leads to them ghosting but first says “I don’t need this pen pal shit”.


So ya guys are a spazz and not worth my time.

[paledreams]

If you touched him first or if you saw a couple on a date and the woman touched the man first? Of course I'm saying it like 😀😁 and not 😧😒😦

[Opinion Owner]

No clue what you’re babbling about but you men gotta make it appealing for us to want to come see you

[Zack-Bann]

As far as Im concerned it’s ok to do whatever feels ok to do.
That can range from flirty touches to screaming orgasms and everything in between.


The whole “social rules of dating” are bogus


We’re adults we can decide for ourselves what we want and don’t want

[EmmaMary]

I cannot believe that someone of your age is needing to ask this. smh

[McLlovin]

Read body language. Read the room. You got to just know.

[Jakefromstatefarm6]

Flirty touches are fine. It's how you test the waters. If you can tell that they're not enjoying it. You know the date's not going well.

[BikingTrail]

I wouldn't do it (first), but i love it when a girl does that... then i would touch back

[chrissykerdock]

• if you touxh his penis be prepared to suck it and it's ok if you want to

[BikingTrail]

oh wow, i love that. i wish that would happen on every first date

[chrissykerdock]

@BikingTrail it can happen

[cinema75]

I think flirty touches are good… without being teasing. It just lets the other person know that it is okay to be in one’s personal space.

[paledreams]

That's very good question - it may vary and may be best left to the end of the date for a goodbye hug if it were me and some new woman flame lol 😆 🔥

[Nikki1989]

What is a flirty touch? I touch people all the time.

[LiamJHayden]

I avoid a lot of physicality during a first date. We are still strangers and I want to know her before doing anything.

[Ladsin2]

Fellas generally should wait for her to touch first if they don't want to catch a charge.

[paledreams]

100 percent 💯

[TallAnon]

These things change all the time and vary a lot depending on your culture, just do what is right and have consent

[kaucky1]

The touching without speaking may end up leaving early or restroom, under table long tablecloth continue elsewhere

[msc545]

Depends what else you want. It is a good way to get sex if you want that.

[Peggee4U]

Your gut feeling on the occasion should give you the answer. If you get slapped, you got it wrong :)

[exitseven]

Yes, if things are going good I would do this.

[Graptemys79]

Sure, if the other person is okay with it.

[Kingofkings1992]

I think it’s okay

[dudeinohio]

Touches are fine.