Dating advice? please?

[Anonymous]

imagine you’re a 20 year old ex muslim girl who’s been really sheltered her whole life. there's a few things you need to get done before you can fly the coup and breathe again but in the meantime you’re kind of lonely. how would you approach the dating scene? you’ve only ever had any sort of physical relationship with one guy and it was… sparse. for a number of reasons. but you’re thirsty and also, still in a muslim household. while playing the part of the “good daughter” how would you fix that craving for intimacy?

[talentedclock]

I would drink a glass of water and put an end to my whoring ways.

[Asker]

but its such a fun way to rebel against my taught version of conformity

[talentedclock]

I mean, if your idea of fun is being a single mother or doped up on birth control and xanax, far be it from me to get in your way of a good time.

Have you considered instead of being your average run-of-the-mill thot with daddy issues you try being nice to your parents, getting a job, moving out of their house, and finding a nice guy to love? That's pretty rebellious.

[Asker]

gets complicated when you take religion and culture into account. there's making the right decisions for my future and there's letting others decide for me.

[talentedclock]

Sure, but I don't see how that means you gotta whore yourself out there. I'm also not saying you even have to like your parents, just be nice to them.

Consider that just because they have some stupid ideas, doesn't mean you have to burn everything down around you. You can get everything you desire with a job and an apartment without the baggage and regrets later.

[Asker]

im a young unmarried muslim girl, apartment is out of the question. i live with them or i marry some guy they bring me. im not even muslim, not that that guy will know. im not allowed to tell anybody. i have to leave completely. and that requires time. in the meantime im not asking how to whore myself out, im just asking for how people approach the search for companionship offline. I've never mingled before and i want to find someone to love before my parents do for me.

[talentedclock]

So what, you live in Afghanistan or something where you aren't allowed to have an apartment? Seems fishy.

The way you phrased it before about being thirsty and then responding to me that whoring is a fun way to rebel made me think otherwise, but I'm glad I was wrong.

If offline mingling is what you're looking for, the best place to do that would be clubs or social groups that allow coed membership. Do they even have places like that in the countries where women aren't allowed to own apartments?

[slatyb]

Are you hiding your deconversion?

[Asker]

have to for now.

[slatyb]

That's understandable. But your deconversion is separate from dating. Are you able to date outside your religious community?

[Anonymous]

Do you live with your parents abroad?