Why are young women so hypocritical and prejudiced towards their dad's compared to mom's dating young people?

[MK1997]

From my research, most girls would hate it if their dad dated someone their age if they were in their early twenties. On the other hand they wouldn't mind as much if it was their mom doing it.

I think this is really weird.

[D_Bone_Steak]

They just have these double standards that are wild. To simplify it all and not get into specifics... the males are expected to adhere to these traditional conservative values, but when you switch to the females... all of a sudden they can do no wrong and have no standards.

So throw in a talking point... I don't know, let's say body count since that seems to be a current hot button issue. Women being judged for it will be made out to be victims and devoid of any blame... then the same person will have all these standards for the men doing the same exact same thing. Instead of being a victim, they're evil... because penis. Well she's an innocent victim, because vagina! Basically nothing other than double standards really explains it. A single standard that would apply to both just isn't allowed. Then they're so confused by their own logic that they get on this website and write like 5 questions about women with a high body counts as if they're proving something about it to themselves.

It's basically just non-traditional women that want all the perks traditional men had to bring, but they refuse to be traditional themselves.

[MK1997]

I think I agree with you

[Zack-Bann]

Works both ways


Pretty sure not many guys want their moms dating someone their age
But most don’t really care what their dad does


It comes down to the father-daughter / mother-son relationships that are very different and unique

[Finchie40]

Because the Dad is always to blame when things aren’t going well in a family , because some Mom’s will teach their children not to respect their father , especially if the marriage is not good , When my wife and I were having problems , she tried turning the kids’ against me and tried playing it like I was the bad guy when really she was the bad one , it took me sometime to prove to our kids’ that their Mom was the selfish one. When my wife and I separated i eventually started dating again and I dated some younger girls’ my kids’ weren’t to happy about it and made comments like Dad why are you dating a young girl and not a girl your age? I told them it’s not about age it’s about chemistry and connection and happiness , My kids’ still didn’t really understand and approve but they eventually just accepted it , Kids’ tend to get embarrassed if their parent is dating someone much younger then themselves so it’s weird to them as well , I asked them how would they feel if Mom dated a. Younger guy and they said yea I see your point. Meaning they would be ok with it. The bottomline Men tend to become the punching bag when things aren’t going well in a family

[Summeroflove]

It depends on the person but maybe it feels weird to some people. If two people are adults though you can’t control their lives.

[MK1997]

Why the difference in genders reaction

[Summeroflove]

Your guess is as good as mine. One possible reason is they feel like maybe their dad was attracted to them which makes them feel weird.

[MK1997]

That's so weird, i would never think that.

[Summeroflove]

Right but that’s one possible answer

[MK1997]

Yeah heard it before

[AviatorTom]

Proven Female Logic: A woman is never wrong, a Man is usually wrong.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

This is the double-standard put in place by the society we live in. We’ve come to see the older male/younger female dynamic as inherently predatory meanwhile the opposite is not seen the same way, just weird at worst. Both can be predatory, and both can be shallow older adults enjoying time with younger partners who might have some weird shit going on in their brains, but truthfully the older male/younger female dynamic does carry that predatory nature to it especially if it’s someone in their 40’s or 50’s dating someone in their 20’s. Men who have that established power enjoy using it. I know there’s a whole thing on tiktok atm where a man at 56 is being divorced by his 28 year old wife after being together for 2 years, meaning he married her at 26 and he was 54, and they already have 2 children together. That alone raises a huge variety of red flags, and it still would in the opposite scenario but we’re more used to men exploiting women rather than the opposite so we’re quicker to call it out.

[kmg9150]

Have you never been attracted to an older male?

[MK1997]

So why is this a problem for women specifically than men? Most men won't mind much if their dad had a girlfriend their age but it's the girls going apeshit over it.

You say it's a society thing, when this is a thing that mostly triggers women only.

Seems there's much more to it and some prejudice or bias is definitely there.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Because women are more aware of the predatory nature of the relationship than men. Surely you, as a woman, know at least one femme-presenting person who’s experienced something terrible because of a man. Sexual assault happens to approximately 20% of all women. This knowledge is passed on between women to warn one another, and men are more likely to exert themselves and their desires over a woman they want for whatever reason

[MK1997]

No I haven't actually.

You sound biased a lot.

I think it's really wrong to project ones feelings onto the majority of people when evidence shows the opposite.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I guess you don’t think 1 in 6 is a high statistic

[MK1997]

No, I am saying you are projecting how you feel about older men and older women dating young people onto the majority.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

This is where everyone’s dislike with that specific relationship comes from, I thought that was clear

[MK1997]

Who's everyone? You should speak for yourself

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

But you asked why people in society, young women especially, are so repulsed at the idea of their fathers dating a much younger woman? I don’t understand

[MK1997]

That's fine, I think you just worded it wrong

[BobbieBoy666]

The perception that young women are more critical of their fathers dating younger partners compared to their mothers is often attributed to a combination of societal norms, gender roles, and the complex dynamics of family relationships, rather than being purely hypocritical or prejudiced; it's more about the ingrained idea that fathers are supposed to be the stable, older figure, while mothers are often viewed as more flexible in their romantic lives.
Key factors contributing to this perception:
Power dynamics:
Traditionally, fathers are often seen as the head of the household, holding more authority, which can lead to a stronger sense of protection and potential disapproval when they date someone much younger.
Ageism and attractiveness:
Societal standards can associate youthfulness with attractiveness more readily in women, potentially making a younger man dating an older woman seem more acceptable than a younger woman dating an older man.
Mothering role:
Mothers are often perceived as having a more nurturing role, which can lead to less scrutiny when they date younger men who might be seen as needing care or support.
Emotional connection:
A young woman might feel a stronger emotional connection to her mother, making it easier to accept her romantic choices, while feeling more protective of her father due to a different dynamic in their relationship.

Important considerations:
Not a universal experience:
Not all young women hold these views, and individual experiences vary greatly depending on family dynamics, personal values, and upbringing.
Double standard criticism:
The perception of a double standard here raises important questions about societal expectations and gender roles.
Individual reasons:
A woman's reaction to her parent's dating life may be influenced by specific factors like the age gap, the new partner's personality, and the way the relationship is handled.

[MK1997]

That's interesting, but why do men care less about their dad dating partners their age with many not giving a fuck?

This is clearly a womans problem mostly, so I believe it's prejudice on their part.

[Tarifa]

I think there is still the perception of the typical cliché: older guy goes through a midlife crisis and seeks a younger woman to boost his sex life. He may want to feel the thrill of flirting and is looking for a boost of his own ego through the attention of a younger woman. There is also an element of social unacceptance of a man dating a woman who could be his daughter. More than an age gap, it’s a generation gap.

I also think that a young woman, in this case the daughter, might accept her father to date someone else (if the father went through a divorce or is a widow) but unconsciously wants the date to be in an age group similar to her mother’s age group. There could be an element of competition, of non-acceptance, of thinking: how can a girl my age be good enough for my father, how could she possibly replace my mother?

I think that in this scenario, the man will eventually want to pursue it further and have a long lasting relationship with his date. Hence the dilemma of the daughter: should I accept her and on what terms? If it was her mother, it may be easier for her to accept her mother’s younger date. It may be easier for the daughter to see herself in a similar situation in the future and act along the same lines. Probably also thinking it will never get that serious.

[MK1997]

Why would she think it would get serious with the dad but not the mom? Considering women are more emotionally driven, that doesn't make sense.

[Tarifa]

Just speaking from experience with people around me. I know several men who dated and finally married a younger woman, looking for a second chance after a divorce or break-up.

I don't know any woman who dated or married a much younger guy. "Emotionally driven" doesn't mean she can't look for something casual. Men can do so as well, obviously.

[MissTrix]

Agree but they're is double standards every where!

Like what if your mom dated a girl your age? Happened to me twice!

My dad dated older and they were amazing women!

Really any one dating younger is bad and ends bad. The younger is always to immature and dumb when it gets serious beyond a fling.

One catches feelings while the other is playing.

[MK1997]

Even a fling triggers women if it's their dad. But if it's a son they care much less. Really weird

[MissTrix]

So agree q son can do anything!

[MK1997]

I am saying daughters care much more if their dad has has sex with someone their age than sons do

[ilistengood]

Your right , at least in my case I was 43. When my wife left. My oldest daughter , then 20, was in college and stayed with me. I know this will sound like a script for bad porn but one of her girl friends was always. visiting, we had lots in common except age. Stacey was 2 years older too, my daughter acted like I'd held stacey prisoners in the basement, a ridiculous notion since we didn't have a basement.

[Anonymous]

Double standards are everywhere. Honestly I wouldn't mind too much if I knew that both are serious about it and it will work out. But if she's half his age or less, it's probably just to have some fun and that's the kind of stuff I don't wanna know about. Not saying it's wrong, just that I don't wanna know about it. The same way he probably doesn't wanna know when I'm sleeping with much older guys.

[MK1997]

What's weird is, this is a double standard only for girls or daughters.

So not your typical double standard

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think that's necessarily true. Young girl with older guy is much more common and therefore also more socially accepted (as long as we don't enter dodgy age territory)

[MK1997]

Then why don't girls care as much if their mother is dating a guy their age compared to when it's their dad?

[Opinion Owner]

It's a general statement that no one can prove. Personally it would bother me more with my mom than my dad

[MK1997]

Fair I will ask about mom later

[MK1997]

If your mom was dating someone your age would you mind? ↗

Just 1 girl answered.
Clearly girls don't care if it's their mom so I was right with this weird double standard

[MK1997]

You were right lol

All girls voted they would mind

[MisfitsLover92]

I don't know why people have to be hypocrites anyway.

[MK1997]

It's usually bias

[MisfitsLover92]

Totally, that or jealousy.

[TonyMetal___86]

Do you think that i give a sh*t about what my daughter thinks if i had one, when it comes to who i musy date? She better stay respectful to her father and to not interfere with her dad's business!

Personally i'll love my kids the same no matter who i am with, plus i won't search for a girl who is at the age of my daughter cause i need a mature woman and not another kid!

[LiamS95]

It is odd reasoning, perhaps they relate it to themselves dating a guy their dad's age and find it repulsive but that doesn't answer the acceptance of their mom dating a guy their age other then they themselves obviously wouldn't have a problem also dating a guy their own age.

[CVNT5]

cuz if mom found a guy at the daughters age, he gonna fuck em both.

but if daddy found a girl that matches his daughters age, well now there is competition.

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[coolbreeze]

It think it depends on the person. Relationshisps like these happen all the time. Even in Hollywood, sports, real life etc. Some of these couples dating have huge age gaps.

[oldpigg]

Because they expect that by being older they will also be able to get young men and that other people will accept their behavior, however the reality is that I don't find older women attractive at all.

[Cormac995]

Yea this is kind of a weird and bad take for people to have and also built on a double standard when you look at it from a man's perspective.

[Caroline91]

I can't answer that bc if either of my parents were still alive and dating someone my age, I would have difficulty with it.

[David5668]

The only thing I would say is that there might be an element of social immaturity. At the end of the day MANY women have dated older men. Who cares? I don’t, as long as they’re both happy.

[MK1997]

So why are they so hypocritical

[David5668]

My opinion is that society will frown on Older Man/Younger woman far more it will Older Woman/Younger Man. There is still the perception that the Older Man scenario paints the man as a creep, or even worse-a paedophile; but not when the roles are reversed. And it’s very much embraced that way by the global entertainment industry.

[MK1997]

Then why do men not care much if its their dad with a young girl? Why is it just girls who have a problem with it mostly?

[David5668]

That; I’m afraid, I don’t have an answer for.

[MK1997]

You see, it's not society, it's some people, and especially girls in this case with their parents. They are far more sexist in this regard than men.

[David5668]

Then wouldn’t indicate some kind of social conditioning at family leave. I don’t know. I know my new partner is a lot younger than. Neither of us give a damn about the age gap; and the positive support we’ve had has been amazing.

[Anonymous]

because young women tend to be more liberal and liberal women are feminists and feminists are full of double standards

[Celticwolf78]

I don't know but they may think that it's wrong

[Jackson2005]

Yeah that is weird

[Anonymous]

Sexism

[MK1997]

But why

[Opinion Owner]

Women don't want accountability. They want to have cake while denying it to others. Also third wave, and subsequent waves, feminism was more about hating on men than equality.