Posting my date?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to and seeing this guy once a month.
We only sleep together. Which is fine for now.
He shows interest in other women on social media. Which is how we met. So I’m sure he talks to other women.
I like to post myself quite a bit on social media, given that I am single.
I am going on a date and I do want to light a fire under this guys ass. That I will not be his friends with benefits forever. He text me everyday and does make time for me, but only once a month which consist of us fucking then having lunch after.
so should I be petty and post?

[ProbablyClueless]

You can post it and see what happens, but please be careful about managing your hopes and expectations with something like that. You and him are FWBs, not lovers. A post like that can easily backfire. I know that if a woman did something like that with me, I would most likely think the situation was too much trouble and I would go my separate way from her.

[Asker]

The issue is he tells me shit like he misses me. And then talks about how he wants to see strippers. He told me about his gym crush. And I have been loyal in this talking stage. I feel stupid and I’m over it. It’s been 5 months. I expressed this to him and he said he doesn’t just view me as a fuck.

[ProbablyClueless]

Ah! Unfortunately, this sounds like a situation where, if he wanted to do it, he would. If he wanted to date you, he would.

[ProbablyClueless]

Of course, I'm just going by what I've been told, but that's my overall impression.

[BarryLiverstone]

How long have you known him? He’s not the loyal type and sounds like you are

[Asker]

Almost 5 months. I absolutely am! But I have seen him comment on other women’s photos. He does on mine also. He calls me babe etc I don't know I’m confused. I want it to end. But also he has done great qualities and does communicate with me daily.

[BarryLiverstone]

If you are feeling confused then maybe it’s because he is filling some of your needs but not all of them. You said that you talk daily so it’s maintaining an emotional connection. You are having sex monthly so that’s the physical connection. However he’s not stepping up to be your boyfriend and after 5 months hasn’t decided he wants an exclusive relationship. Do you want it to end or do you want him to be loyal to you?

[Asker]

I just want the loyalty. Which he says I’m the only girl blah blah! But then I see him commenting on other females photos who he doesn’t know. And that’s how we started talking him making comments on my snaps etc. so I don't know because I am always going to protect my peace. I am confused, but I also know women are emotional creatures. It could be all wrong. He lived 3 hours away from me. Has a lot going on and I know that. But I want to be assured that we aren’t entertaining others. And if we are then I’m going in this date and I don't know how to ask him that

[BarryLiverstone]

Go on the date. You are single and he’s had enough time to show his intentions

[BarryLiverstone]

You are not the only girl, that’s him lying to keep you on the hook tbh