How many attempts does it take for a man to get competent approaching women?

[Vegasrunner]

[ohsheeT]

It's one attempt One foot in front of the other until you get right in front of your face you look deep into her eyes and then you ask her where the nearest McDonald's is and you walk away is that what you're talking about ask for directions if you don't know where you're going ask for direction

[Avicenna]

It takes time to figure out what works for you. There is no magic number.

[zagor]

It's not a numbers thing. Some guys are good at it from the get-go. Some never are no matter how many attempts they've made.

[Vegasrunner]

@zagor Nah it's just a numbers game the more you practice the easier it becomes.

[zagor]

Not if you don't learn from your mistakes, as is often the case. Of course numbers do improve your chances of success; if you don't try you'll never succeed.

[Vegasrunner]

@zagor The mistake comment is simply negative thinking added by you, partly because people have a difficult time accepting the fact that men must not think of women as special to have success.

[zagor]

Well yes, I suppose if you walk up to enough women and say "wanna fk?" then eventually someone will say yes. Most of the time that is not going to fly.

[Vegasrunner]

@zagor You made my point. Why would you believe approaching women mens walking up to them w/ a primitive line? It's much more plausible to believe that men would approach women w/ a strategy to actually get laid, however female insecurity has you believing that approaching women equals a crude introduction.

[chilldude33]

Approaching itself is cringe. There has to be some social context for you to start a conversation with a person.

[Vegasrunner]

@chilldude33 Lol, stop it. that's part of that weird millennial culture where you're afraid of your own shadow. If you want something be man enough to go after it.

[chilldude33]

You're literally that person that they are talking about later saying "omg I had such a creepy taxi driver today"

From your pov that's being "manly" and "going after what you want"

From their pov you're a weird nuisance.

[Vegasrunner]

@chilldude33 If you need to live your life in fear of what random people may say then go right ahead, I'm going to keep banging these chicks

[incorrected]

"Banging chicks"... Are you approaching millennial women and younger? Unless you're a good looking and charming guy, that approach will not work. There's good reason those younger guys are so cautious.

[incorrected]

Just noticed as well, you're the guy who asked the question. Something tells me you're not banging anyone lol.

[Vegasrunner]

@incorrected I simply go after what, I want I don't spend my life hampered by imaginary fears.

[Vegasrunner]

@incorrected What tells you that is you're projection of your own failures.

[incorrected]

No, it's your general attitude and the fact that you asked this question in the first place. You wouldn't need to if you were really as successful as you claim to be. You're behaving with the mentality of an unromantic teenage boy who watched too much porn.

[chilldude33]

You're so courageous bro. We need people like you to stop Russia-Ukraine and Israel-Palestine. Might hop onto China-Taiwan while you are at it. Too bad you're wasting your courage on harassing kids.

But actually you're not even doing that. You are a middle aged geek asking weird questions on an obscure online forum.

[Vegasrunner]

@incorrected That's an interesting assumption. You're saying that people only ask questions to things they don't know the answer too? Your answer also seems to indicate that you judge success based on a man's competence w/ women.

[Vegasrunner]

@chilldude33 TY for sharing. So you're saying anyone who post a question on an online forum is harassing kids?

[incorrected]

Perhaps I was too quick to judge your reasons, but people don't usually ask questions to which they know the answers already, because they know the answers already.

Success depends on what you personally define as your success condition. Some people think that "banging" a lot of chicks is success, whereas others just see that as promiscuity and see successful long term relationships as success. Personally I don't define either as inherently successful, I see finding happiness and emotional fulfilment as success, but that's just my criteria. There's no objective definition for success, it's a personal matter.

[Vegasrunner]

@incorrected Even if that was true, what would that have to do with the question? Success has a clear metric and men in general are judged by their ability to attract multiple women. If that wasn't true why are platforms that teach men how to pick up women more popular than platforms that teach men how to find only one woman? Also why are their many men who have become rich, because of their ability to pick up multiple women, but there is no man who has become rich or famous because of his ability to settle for one woman?

[LiamJHayden]

Competent? Unknown. I've been doing since childhood and do not care about being rejected.

[BigTex53]

Depends on the guy. Didn’t take me long.

[In_Trance]

depends on his willingness to learn