How do you condition your brain to not want a partner?

[Anonymous]

Like how do you turn off this desire I’m 33 and I haven’t had much dating experience in life and when I would mention this in conversations with my sister she said I should focus on other areas of life and accept that it simply never happens for some people

[SueShe]

You simply select what is important to you and what not. I don't have that problem because I don't place any importance on having a partner. There are more negative aspects to bein in a relationship than positive ones.

I concentrate on what matters to me and put everything else on the side. Right now, and for the next few years, my education takes priority and the lead and I invest all my time and energy to achieve that goal. It will be time enough in 20+ years, after I have worked a number of years in the field I am studying.

Also, as a guy, don't let yourself be ruled by your testosterone but be master of it and you don't need to condition yourself.

[Asker]

So this isn’t a situation where I’m letting testosterone rule me I don’t have friends either and some days I feel like I feel like I’m living life all wrong and it feels like I’m simulating through life without truly experiencing any of the aspects we are to truly cherish about life.

[Nikki1989]

But is that really the truth for you. Many people on here are obviously trying to talk themselves into not wanting a partner, but if you read between the lines, they are miserable, lonely people.

[Anonymous]

Hold on man. The women in your age bracket are about to hit the wall. Then you're going to see a shift. I used to have this problem. Now the women approach me. And now I have fun wasting their time. Going out for them with a bit and when they start getting serious I tell them I'm just not feeling it, and end it.

Give it time man. Your time is coming.

[Cormac995]

I'll let you know if I ever figure it out. Alas, 29 years of research has not helped unravel the mystery.

[Avicenna]

If you want a partner, don’t force yourself not to

[Anonymous]

I'm asexual and aromantic but when I needed more convincing claim to yourself to be a foul, disgusting and detestable creature

[missindiana93]

You still have time to find someone.