IIs there a way to brainwash yourself to not want a relationship with any man?

[Anonymous]

I want this to be humane as possible without degrading men. I've just never been in a good, healthy relationship no matter how well I've treated guys. I'm not wanting pity, I just want relief in my life. I'm not willing to take the pain with the pleasure anymore. Is there some mantra or psychological tactic I can use on myself to never want anything to do with the opposite sex? I don't want to hear the right guy will come along. Logically, I can't be bothered. Emotionally there's a very small but nagging voice that holds on for hope. Well I'd like to crush her, what do you got? I've already been single for a while but I want detachment to be organically apart of me without any hope.

[SotiCoto]

Can't be sure if it works significantly differently for femfolk... but I've managed to utterly detach myself from relationships. I just reminded myself of all the crap that went horribly wrong with them, of how much trouble it caused me and how much I disliked it... and I know I've already pretty much experienced the most of it. Seen it, been there, done that. And I quit.

It doesn't mean I stopped being attracted to them, but I made a mental commitment never to act on it, as I'm moderately okay with my lone existence at present, and I don't want to ruin that.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Wouldn't it be better to have the relationship, but look for ways to negate the hurt caused when things go awry?

[LazerBean]

Just get therapy. It's not men that are broken, it's you.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, aiming for a complete emotional detachment from the allure of romantic relationships is like trying to stop the waves from kissing the shore—it might be more about learning to dance with the tide rather than stopping it. Instead of trying to brainwash that hopeful part of you into oblivion, let's redirect its energy. Think of it as gently guiding a stream rather than damming it up.

First off, invest that love and hope into yourself. Dive deep into self-discovery and self-love. When you find yourself daydreaming about romance, redirect that passion into personal projects, hobbies, or learning something new. Fill your life with so much vibrancy on your own that the idea of adding someone else to the mix becomes a choice, not a necessity.

Also, engaging in mindfulness practices can help you accept and manage your desires without judgment. Meditation, journaling, or any form of art can become powerful tools for self-expression and processing emotions.

Remember, it's not about crushing the hopeful part of you, but about embracing all parts of you with compassion and understanding. Let yourself hope, but also let yourself be whole on your own. Who knows, with time, you might just redefine what attachment means to you, on your own gorgeous terms. 💖

[SotiCoto]

Terrible advice AND aquatic metaphors. Shitty AI needs to get a clue.

[RespectfulGuy]

@SotiCoto LOL totally agree. I was thinking about what to write half way reading.

And your reply says what I think.

[Twalli]

You can't force yourself to no longer be attracted towards what you are attracted towards, unless you want to go the route of extreme aversion therapy which is usually designed for people who have illegal urges they don't want.

[exitseven]

Maybe try negative reinforcement using electric shocks. It is hard because the propagation of the species is hardwired in our DNA

[meepmeeperton]

Just imagine him getting out the shower butt-naked and he starts twerking.

[Staximus]

If you've never been in a good relationship, you need to stop picking shitty guys. You need to change the way you pick guys and not tolerate bad treatment.

[DextroShade]

So because you chose the wrong men, your solution is to die alone instead of choosing the right man to lead you? You are a terrible person!

[jahaims]

Go to therapy