Do you lose feelings when people are too interested in you?

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NicholasRedone · Accepted Answer

The worst part without a doubt @lisia is right person / right person's qualities, wrong time. Or the other worst part, right person, just missing too much of "if only they also had additional quality additional habit additional look" - aka - it's so hard to even "get even close to a woman whos almost Mrs Right".  I won't get perfection, neither me, I'm just saying it's almost like often life gives you lemons yet no slicer or drainers to make lemonade. Lol 🍋 aka "the romantic side of life is often a tease, a cruel god's tease" lol. Sigh 😞

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

It depends on what you mean by that I absolutely want someone whose genuinely interested with me. Not creepily obsessed…. But interested.

It becomes a problem when people don’t respect personal boundaries. When people start thinking they can hog your entire time and energy. When they have zero life outside of you and just expect you to not have one either.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

Early on in a relationship it can be a red flag. As in them already talking about what size wedding you want or names of your children. It can be a little scary, because you wonder how will they react if it doesn't work out! I experienced that once, to the point I was going to get a restraining order but after the cops talked to him, it ended. If they show an unhealthy obsession early on, I will probably lose interest, purely out of fright lol

DishLady · Accepted Answer

No. But if someone shows up and is TOO into you too quickly it's healthy to set a slower pace and make sure they're on the level and not just trying to get into your pants.

ohsheeT · Answer

No but it also depends on who it is and what they're interested in

I can read people pretty well and I can tell if there being fake or real

And when it's real you feel it. And that connection that you make with them Can be a very beautiful thing.
And then tells you a lot about that person too

Finchie40 · Answer

Not if it’s with someone i truly want to be with , making each other your top priority is important if you want a long lasting happy relationship with someone , Do not get into a relationship with someone that treats you like a convenience or you treat them like a convenience , because in a matter of time that relationship will not last period and you will be right back to being single again.

HawkPerception · Answer

Quite the opposite. If someone shows interest in me, I become much more interested in them (provided they're an attractive person) and am more than happy to give them my attention. I don't play immature games.

MemeSupreme · Answer

no? that's silly okay sorta yes...

Valdemort · Answer

Not when they're too interested, but when when things go too quickly and there's no clear boundaries or expectations set.
You wanna be on the same page, early on, and be able to communicate your needs too, without feeling like you're letting the restraining or overwhelming them.
There's no "too much" from the right person, but you gotta work together and openly communicate, to make it last.

xkildy · Answer

There was a time in my life that that actually happened, and I still don't understand why that actually happened. I still can't comprehend what the deal was with that. I knew a girl that was the exact same way. And then later on I developed the same problem. I still can't figure out why I pushed away when people would start to get close.

GoodEnoughThen · Answer

Need more info from you. Do you mean you *always* lose interest in people no matter their presonality and cirmcusmstances?
Peolpe with an insecure avoidant attachment style mighy lost interest, especially after the honeymoon phase as they feel discomforted by the next phase, getting closer and being more vulnerable.

Sonorous · Answer

I have the avoidant dismissive attachment style so I tend to feel this way. Even more if I don't even find the person that attractive. But I notice that even if I do, I get major imposter syndrome if they're into me more than I feel like I deserve.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Not really, unless I'm not that much into the person to begin with.

When someone is too interested in you without even properly knowing you or anything then it can make the interest feel "unearned" or "too easy" or whatever, but assuming they properly know you and you're both connecting then I don't see too much of an issue.

molonski2 · Answer

I have to admit yeah , when it becomes obsessive I find it smothering , I like a bit of interest and some leads to case , but I want the feeling of anxiety that I have to case the prize , to put myself out there , to come up with ideas , you certainly can be " too keen " .

Communicationisking · Answer

I don't know if lose feelings is what I would do but it can be a little bit of a turn off if it feels fake, but if you mean too interested as in wanting you real bad then talking out what the expectations are and then going from there would be the way to go.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Depends. When people seem a bit too interested in me, like feeding my ego more to get me to talk about myself, I start to get Machiavellian vibes from it and will go into damage control and distancing to shake them off my nutts.

It's not really losing feelings, it's more like I just recognize my ego is a weakness of mine and manipulators recognize that shit pretty fast and if they have ill intent, that's usually how they try to get to me.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Long before I'd lose interest or even have any interest in a woman who was getting too clingy, I'd have a conversation about my boundaries and make it clear there is no room for negotiation. I can like someone but I also like my freedom and being alone sometimes. I will not be controlled. The harder she tries the more I will resist until she either stops or I pull the plug.

TheSmellOfVictoria · Answer

I actually had stalkers a couple times in my life and absolutely loved the attention. I wish they never ended up jail, I didn't want it to stop.

Staximus · Answer

Only if they are weird and obsessive. There was this girl that I lived with for a few years. The more I cared about her, the more she wanted me to go away. She wasn't used to a guy being there for her because her dad was absent in her childhood and adult life.

Nikki1989 · Answer

While some level of interest is flattering, excessive attention or constant contact can appear needy or clingy, which can be a turn-off.

NathanDavis · Answer

no, lmao...

that would not make any sense to me

if I have feelings and interest in someone... that's because we are in a relationship, and then... reciprocation makes it all more intense for the both of us

Spencer10 · Answer

Not sure what "too interested" means but if that means obsessive behaviors or getting too clingy that would result in me pushing them away. As the saying goes if you love someone set them free!

virtual_user · Answer

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glennos89 · Answer

Depends on how she behaves. If she becomes crazy jealous and clingy then it would turn me off but if she gives me the personal space I need in every type of relationship then it wouldn't be a turn off at all

sawno · Answer

No, I usually take that as a sign of interest. If I have feelings its a sign to move forward. Being "to interested" is hard though thats a high bar since I am very open.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Irrelevant. The other person’s interest in me will not reduce nor add to my feelings towards her Doing that is just being reactive and not thinking or feeling your own feelings

Still-alive · Answer

After my last relationship i think i understand how toxic it can be when they 'fall in love' too fast. so from now on i want to take my time and go at a steady pace. rushing can lead to disaster in my experience.

Lottydotty · Answer

Its not because of that, but everytime it happens I'm with someone else or have someone else on my heart so I have to reject or push them away. I hardly ever truly lose the feelings for anybody.

Anonymous · Answer

Define too interested. Creepy unreciprocated interest I don’t like. But if I’m interested in someone I want them to be really interested back. That’s fine.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Nah, I'm usually fooled when people do that, and get roped in..

AnonAndrew · Answer

No, I don't, and I think it's very weird when people do.

MaxW1 · Answer

Many people have said that that's what makes them lose interest, as in "too available"

Jennz6 · Answer

No, I love 💕 having lots of friends and I don’t care if they get clingy 💕🤷‍♀️

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Yes. Especially if I don't her too well yet.

genericname85 · Answer

no. typically i don't have feelings for these people to begin with.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

No. At least not if I am interested in them as well.

Ironic_Method · Answer

No, I love it when someone I find attractive is interested in me.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

If he looks like a man and then all of sudden he is a baby then yes I lose interest

Ariesman81 · Answer

Can and have. I like feeling attracted to, you know.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah I like when guys get obsessed with me

Skfisllw · Answer

No, actually i feel obligor to that person and i trying to do something for her/his when i trust.

hello4433 · Answer

Nope. But I kinda would if that person is too sticky to me all the time and I don't get my space

TallAnon · Answer

Depends how they express it, I've talked to some weirdos and that does turn me away

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nope that's some toxic shit

Cheerfull009 · Answer

I am happy , that more people are interested in me

Jay-_- · Answer

No, I like my girl obsessed.

RandomUser1000 · Answer

No it's okay you love me :p

emeraldsaphire · Answer

Nope, It only grows!

jazzy34 · Answer

Define “too interested.”

Caroline005 · Answer

Only when it to much especially when early.

loveslongnails · Answer

Only if they're smothering.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Yeah that seems like it’s be uncomfortable.

Beachbummama84 · Answer

YES!!! WTF is wrong with me

Wise4myage · Answer

Generally speaking I would lose interest.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nope in contrary, it shows that they care!

Sabrina_Caleri · Answer

It depends on the definition of "too interested"

Jerre · Answer

No, not at all

scooogy · Answer

When they become suffocating, yes.

GAGsucksballs89170 · Answer

No, how can you be too into someone

itsannalee · Answer

Nope

CubaPirate · Answer

Depends on my connection with them

Professor-college · Answer

It depends on who it is

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Instantly

12karen · Answer

Nope, not at all

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