How do you tell a girl that you’re only interested in one thing without turning her off to the whole deal?

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to lead her on. I just wanna get into it if u get me. Does that make me a bad guy?

[D_Bone_Steak]

I just lay out what I want and let them make up their mind. So for example...

"I'd be down to hang out, make some meals or order some chicken, and see who can sexually please the other the most."

Just put it out there like that and let the conversation flow over the idea that I just put out. That's how I do it. I don't try to sway her mind or convince her... I just basically ask. A lot of girls will knee-jerk respond with a "Hell no" type of response, but I'm just like, "Okay, let me know if you change your mind." And I go right back to just being a good host, telling jokes, and having fun. That green light I laid at their feet weighs on them... they think about it by themselves... they might randomly ask questions about the proposal and I can sense their interest. Most of the time they'll let me know they want the dick.

Keep in mind, I hit the weights every day and have a product that sells itself. The amount of game that some fat fucker with no muscles would have to have isn't really a factor I got to deal with. I'm going to assume you've got your gym game going on as well, so I don't think you should be like some guys and lie about shit, make shit up, lead with your wallet, or make promises you don't intend on keeping.

Just keep it real and make the big ask. Don't make the ask a situation where they feel pressured... I mean, let them back out if they want. It's no big deal, because a lot of chicks are preoccupied with trying to land a man for financial reasons. You're better off not dealing with them at all to begin with. Let the gold diggers go hit the gold mines. With that said...

There are plenty of chicks that just have a school/career schedule, not interested in committing, and so on... and they're interested in some stress free sexual fun. I mean they're not going to brag about it to their Mom or Dad, but they're interested still.

[Zack-Bann]

You don’t “tell” her


You make clear during your attempt at seduction.
You don’t hide your intentions you don’t make false promises you don’t get emotional if she shuts you down


You just flirt, sexualize the conversation and if she’s responding to it you start suggesting getting together.
If she’s agrees to come over to your place you can bet she wants it
You still have to make her feel safe and comfortable and not cheap
That’s very important


And after sex if she asks the old “what are we” question you just tell her
“Look I like you but right now I can’t get involved in anything serious. If you’re down for a good time and some positive energy we can hang out. If it’s not enough I understand”


Many girls would actually be down for that


If anything I noticed that while guys are the ones who are known to “want one thing” in reality girls get involved in that far more often

[Anonymous]

Feel her out and see if she is into that.