Is this guy playing hard to get? Who’s wrong here?

[Anonymous]

I’m purple & he’s grey. A guy asked me out and I said I’d want to take it slower. He asks for my number, I give it and then he says “here’s mine”. Why can’t you just text me now…? I’m so tired of this crap

I’m wrong

He’s wrong

[HollyK21]

The only thing I don’t necessarily agree about is getting to know each other before you meet in person (when you can and it’s not LDR) because in person is how you get to know each other. You don’t want to waste any of your time if it’s not a good fit one on one. Be safe about it of course, arrange a very public place to meet up, tell the people important to you about it and drop a pin for them, take a Lyft/uber if you don’t want to risk him walking you to your car, and let that be that.


As for the phone call thing, based on how the context went the ball was in his court. You offered to switch platforms or something, he asked for your number, and you gave it. He could’ve given you his number in the form of texting you but to put the ball back in your court makes it look like he’s reluctant to make the first move. I’m not a fan of men who start off on that note.

[HollyK21]

And to clarify, you don’t necessarily have to meet up like 2 days after introduction but I think a week or 2 is solid.

[HelpfulWoman]

i think you're being a cry baby over nothing. him also sending his number is one way for you to then recognise it if he does text.

PLUS you are the one wanting to move it off platform. So actually, it would make sense you would take initiative and text first. You sound so extra and hard work, this dude may need to pass for his own sanity.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't sound like anyone's playing hard to get. Like @anonandrew said "it's the opposite of hard to get". It sounds to me like he giving you the attention the situation it deserves. Look at things from his point of you. He hasn't even met you. So to quote the movie Ready Player 1, "you could be a 300lb. Dude living in his mother's basement in Detroit". Now does that mean this guy is or isn't a jerk? No way to tell. Here's where you make your best guess. As @hollyk21 said, "be safe about it". If you do decide to meet him, make it at a very public place. If he gives you the ick. Then don't meet him. There are 4 billion guys on the planet. Another one WILL come along. As @summeroflove said, "if he is interested he will show effort".

[AnonAndrew]

He's not playing hard to get.

He asked you out, you said no until later.

That's the opposite of him playing hard to get.

I think it's better to get to know each other in person than by text, but that's an individual choice.

Plus he probably gave you his number so you could save it and know that it's him who's calling or texting.

[Summeroflove]

Look if you’re making all the effort leave the ball in his court if he’s interested he will show effort even if he’s legitimately busy he will find time.

[Zack-Bann]

He’s literally offering to free up his Friday night for you in what world is he playing hard to get?

[Anonymous]

Good god, this modern generation are morons.

[Anonymous]

You’re wrong. He’s just being polite.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

You seriously said "friyay"?

[HollyK21]

You must be fun at parties🙄

[GAGsucksballs89170]

@HollyK21 Yes!