27 years old dating a 19 years old?

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What's your take on it?

I met this girl and she's very cute and mature but only 19 years old. I feel she's too young for me, but she shares my passions for guns and motorcycles and we click well on everything.

But I am not sure about age difference

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Dude, I gotta be real with you - that age gap is pretty concerning, especially since she's only 19. As a 27-year-old, you're in a very different life stage than a 19-year-old. The maturity level and life experiences can be worlds apart.

I know you two might click on some shared interests, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's a healthy or appropriate relationship. A 19-year-old is still basically a teenager, just starting to figure out adulthood. You're a full-grown adult with more life under your belt.

There's a power imbalance there that could easily lead to the younger person being taken advantage of, even if that's not your intention. Plus, at 19, her brain is still developing and she might not have the emotional maturity to handle a relationship with someone so much older.

I get that you really like this girl, but I'd strongly advise you to pump the brakes on this. The age difference is just too big at this stage of your lives. It's probably best to find someone who's closer to your own age and life experience. That way, you can have a more equal, healthy relationship.

Trust me, dude, it's not worth the potential drama and issues that can come with a big age gap like that. Find someone you really click with who's a little more your equal. Your future self will thank you.

Cormac995 · Accepted Answer

It's a bit of an age difference but she's a year into being able to legally be involved in a relationship. I know a man who is a vet from Nam, and I think of him as a grandfather and his wife is twenty years younger than him and you know what? They have the happiest most stable and loving marriage I've ever seen they've been together for over 20 years.

They only became involved after she was of legal age, but they met when she was like 19 or 20 (I think, might be remembering wrong). Even a large age gap relationship isn't inherently wrong. They're only wrong if your intent is predatory and not loving. If you genuinely care about this woman and her wellbeing and you plan to try and be a good and loving partner and not take her for granted, then there are 0 things wrong with it.

Emii_Urashima · Accepted Answer

I don't really understand why Americans seem to want to extend the age where females become an adult. Take a look at your great-grandmother for example. Chances are, she was likely married with kids at 16. I am definitely not advocating for that, but these so-called scientific studies that claim things like the female brain is not fully mature until around age 25 is total BS. If this trend continues, the US will probably raise their age of consent again, up to age 25. 🤣 It went from 14, to 16, to, 18, so why not keep going to 21, then 25? (Yes, that is sarcasm). This is so strange because girls today have far more knowlege about the world with this thing called the internet. Your great-grandmother didn't have 1% of the knowledge of women today, but she was not considered too immature to know what she was doing. If a 19 year old woman gets married in the US, they will be likely be criticized for for being to young. The people who have a issue with that should judge their ancestors as well.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

on one hand i think it's a very big age gap at that age. a 19yo and a 27yo generally dont have much in common being at very different points in life. the 19yo is barely an adult also and probably is much more immature than you think. but on the other hand, you're not breaking any laws, and it's not like you're 40 or something. so if you really click and vibe well together, and the age gap doesn't seem to be a problem, it's okay to date

Summeroflove · Answer

It may be questionable BUT….. It depends on the intentions behind it if you have a genuine interest in her then see where it goes. Tell her you’re interested and see if she’s willing to go on a date. It can be simple as coffee and you can simply talk about your hobbies as well as your passions it doesn’t have to be anything too deep.

Either things will work out and you’ll continue going on dates or what will happen is maybe the age difference is too much and you don’t work out. I don’t know what’s going to happen and you never know unless you try. But you have a lot in common it’s not just some weird age fetish

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

This gives me the ick honestly.
I'm 29, and even when I was in the beginning of my 20's I couldn't imagine dating someone that was below 20. And definitely not in my late twenties.
The places in your life and the level of maturity is very different.

ItsJill · Answer

Sounds like borderline jail bait, but at her age I was with a 32 years old so it’s not that bad… if she’s determined date her, hopefully you don’t mean to exploit her and she’s smart enough to not allow it

Anonymous · Answer

She's legal and you get along so who cares? Women do not really mature as they get older, if you feel she's mature now that's good enough because there won't be significant changes. Do not listen to women nagging you about this, be happy with her.

abc3643 · Answer

That's only 8 years. It's not that much, really and, as time goes on, the 8 years will become almost meaningless. Trump is 25 years older than his wife this week. He'll be about 50 years older than his next one.

Apple1996 · Answer

She's barely a adult so yeah she's too young for you being 27 well into your adult years. It'd be different 10 years in the future when she's 29 and your 37 then you'd both be grown

Abbycado · Answer

She is the same age as me and an adult. I wouldn't date someone that much older than myself, but she is able to make her own decisions.

Fireguy17 · Answer

a bit young at that age. In some states it could be against the law to take her across the boarder, into a bar, all sorts of things.

MemeSupreme · Answer

it's weird BUT she's an adult now she's able to make her own decisions

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's not necessarily my idea of a good time, but it's legal and adults are free to make the choices they'll make.

Anonymous · Answer

Who cares? She's only too young for you if she's immature. Go for it dude, you'll regret not going for her later in life.

rachel776 · Answer

my fiancé is 35 and we're doing fine

NicholasRedone · Answer

If it's all legal - then what's the issue?

Anonymous · Answer

too young. Can’t have understanding

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