Is the first love theory real?

Question

I've heard that especially for men, that people never forget their first love and maybe even search for that person in other people.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My first love was amazing at first. I thought she was committed, loyal and a person with good morals. I trusted her with everything. But i had a gut feeling something was wrong. She lied to me, she disrespected, she have degenerated feministic beliefs. She hated men. Sometimes mocking me and saying i behave like a caveman. for wanted respect. she wanted to watch adult content together, she wanted to humiliate me and got pleasure from it. The things she wanted to do was pure humiliation. She became horrible. She was manipulative, she slept with someone in the days we started talking and told me i was the only one the whole time. Then she told me she got raped, and reversed the blame on me for reacting badly. She lied many many more times. She was a covert narcissist and wanted to get revenge or something because I stood up for my self and told her what i am okay with moving forward. She was abusive and controlling. I am a dominant man. The humiliation i took still has effect on me 5 months after the break up. All because she hated men, she hated that men are dominant. Its so fkn unfair because she was my first love and i lost my v card to her. Horrible person, her whole family was psycho. She told me her uncle stormed into a funeral because they didn’t want to split the inheritance or something. Basically talked shit about everyone. Her friends are “spoiled brats according to her” whole family is tense and crazy. Her mother had the karen vibes short hair feministic type. Her dad was depressed. Like soo much I was like damn. I feel sorry for her. I should have known something was off, her parents even suspected her of stealing her sisters credit card. She told me to lie to my dad. She was 100% a narcissist. I am still confused if she was a good person or not because of the love bombing. god removed her from my life. Which is good. I was blinded by love.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Just depends if their first love , really impacted them? , so unfortunately everyone experiences different things. I feel females’ hold on to their exes more than guys’ tend to, mainly based off of things I have witnessed and experienced m throughout my life So it mainly comes down to that person and how much they truly cared and loved their ex. I don’t hate all my exes but when it comes to me meeting a new girl , I tend to distance myself from my exes because I feel it’s the respectful thing to do, My past is my past especially an ex. Because if they were so amazing to me , then they would still be a part of current life. I will always have memories , but they are just memories.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's just a guy thing. I'll never forget mine. We saw one another and he looks completely different now -- bald like his dad, whereas he had thick wavy mediterranean hair when we were in college. I loved getting my fingers all caught up in it. I remember the million peaceful sunsets we sat leaning against a tree on a lovely hill that's now a parking lot... Shit happens... things change... but I'll never forget, and when we're ancient looking creatures I'll still remember that first kiss and the taste of our favorite coffee engulfing our senses.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

No I idea.. I think we all keep memories but its not like I think back fondly on an ex like yeah I miss that person or moment lol.. I let go and move on to find someone better and a good fit for me..

Summeroflove · Answer

Nobody does but at the same time every relationship is different so people need to properly grieve loosing someone and not go straight to the rebound. Only dark personalities can just easily dump someone and move on so fast.

Eventually I think a lot of people marry someone who never seemed like their type. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting the same result so they figure out their “type” isn’t working out and end up more happy with someone they never would expect to be witn.

HawkPerception · Answer

Dear Lord, my first ex was a psycho. Paint me stupid if I ever look for a girl with her qualities.

The answer to this is no. It differs for all people. The first love is fresh and new and the emotions you experience are just that... fresh and new. Maybe that's why people romanticize their first relationships. They want to feel those same emotions they did their first time experiencing them. It's like watching a movie for the first time. It's never the same watching it again.

Keyboardkat · Answer

That is definitely true! First love is very powerful. It usually comes to us when we are at a young, naive and tender age. The loss of the first love can be absolutely devastating. It leaves a mark on us that never completely goes away. This does not mean that we cannot move on and fall in love again and be happy with somone else. But there are always going to be things which give the person a little twinge of nostalgia, a little bit of wondering what "might have been," of how things might have been different if we had acted differently or handled things differently. Underneath it all, even the "toughest" guys are softies underneath!

NathanDavis · Answer

in general... I never forget about people, lol...

especially the ones who were and are significant in my life, however... I definitely let go of feelings, the romance is not something I "keep alive" no, I move on from that

also, no... personally, I would never ever try to "find her" in others, that would be just very weird

my first girlfriend from high-school is actually one of my best friends to this day... and when we meet and see, interact with each other, we don't really look at each other as exes anymore... we only see the longtime friends we've been for so many years now... lol

so, in my case... this just does not apply at all, lol

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I barely remember my first girlfriend's face, its like a blurry version of it, I only remember bits of stuff we did, but I recall why we broke up.

I don't miss her, or any of the women after her.

My brain simply defaulted on "ok, what didn't I like about them because of who I am? What didn't they like about me because of who they are? What things did I settle on that I later realized were dealbreakers in relationships? "

Each time I made notes and realized that the perfect match hasn't come along yet, and I'd be focused on her when I find her, not the mistakes that didn't work out.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe. Who knows. I know I’m not looking for someone like my first love. Aside from the sex she was horrible. Now she’s got 7 kids w 4 different dudes and still single. So no I’m not looking for that. I won’t ever forget her but that’s cause she was the first person I was w. Not because of how my feelings were for her or something emotional like that. It’s because she was the first person I was w ever. I don’t know if that makes sense. She impacted my life in a bad way. That could be another reason I won’t ever forget her.

Matadorius · Answer

Well i can't be sure about women (or even men), but my first relationship really changed my own opinion about girls and relationships. I made some important mistakes which might changed my relationship with her, but also she made mistakes. So eventually we broke up. I'm sure she hates me and don't want to remember me but even if I never would be with her, I will never forget her or what we went through. It's not about whether I still love her or not, it's about what I felt when were together, right or wrong, good or bad. That's changed my expectations from women.

sawno · Answer

First girl I loved, cheat. Don't care about her.

Second girl I loved was an opposites atrract thing and we became so different we are what we hate.

Last girl I loved is unforgettable and holds up what to you say. She had every quality I looked for.

glennos89 · Answer

I believe it's more about how a person threated us during the relationship. It's rarely the guy who broke up a relationship the majority of relationships are being ended by girls because boys are willing to endure hard times in a relationship for longer then girls would.

I do believe that every one has 1 person in their life they can't forget about, no mather if you are a boy or a girl

Anonymous · Answer

For me yes

But I think it was made extra bad because I never "consummated" that relationship.

So it kind of ate away at me over the years

And it also stopped me from having sex with other girls because I still had feelings for her.

So it was a double whammy

Eventually, age 21 I had sex for the first time

Now late 50s I would like to rekindle the passion I experienced in the past but it feels too risky to risk losing everything, my wife, home and relationship with my children.

rizzzz007 · Answer

I don't think so first love might be bad experience for me.. I think the partner you understand more love more makes efforts for you that's called love.. I agree that one person always love more to the other person or vice varsa. So for me first love theory is not true.

sage2021 · Answer

It wasn't true for me. My first love and I were together for three years. I was 16-19 and he was 19-22. But my first husband was really my first love and that's true for me then.

Shiprex · Answer

First love? She's popped back into my extended family life recently after 25 years and was a good lass. I don't think we forget our first LOVE but I can't remember the girl I lost my virginity to. The rest I can recall though

Levin · Answer

Nah, I've definitely forgotten mine. But I definitely think there's an archetypical 'type' that we're looking for. There's something we're seeking which we instinctively know is right.

RedTiefling · Answer

Not true for me at least, or any of my other guy friends.  We move on and focus our energy on the women who actually want us.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I’ll never forget my first love but I will never search for that person in others. We weren’t compatible and it took a while to realise that.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

43 years old, will never forget her. But I was young and stupid (18 or 19) I should have never dated her. I don't look for her qualities in anyone.

Valdemort · Answer

I don't even remember who that should be, so he probably hasn't arrived yet, lol

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I thought I’d never be in love more than when I was with my first ex. At the same time, I thought my first heartbreak was going to be the worst. I was wrong

clampfan101 · Answer

It definitely doesn’t sound far fetched based on how I’m feeling. I’ve only been in a relationship once so far though, and she felt perfect before she passed away.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Hmm I don't know - people fall into lust at first sight easily at times

HungTexan · Answer

I’m not sure about that. I remember my first love, but I didn’t keep trying to find it.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Wasn’t for me. So I would take this with a grain of salt because it’s possible for some folks and not likely for others.

exitseven · Answer

I don't know. I suppose there is some truth to this.

loveslongnails · Answer

I've never forgotten her, but I definitely didn't search for her traits in other women.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Strange you said that, the first girl I really loved, I often think about today, over 30 years later!

Professor-college · Answer

Well my first love was a horrible experience she did horrible things with my trust so when I try to date someone now I definitely try to find different things

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Oh I hope not my first love was toxic and had so many bad qualities

nawtee_me · Answer

I still remember my first love but I don’t think I look for her in other people though….

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I don't search for that in other people but I definitely won't forget her. What about you?

CubaPirate · Answer

I'm still with my real first love after 35 years

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, my first love was unrequited :(

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s true for girls too

Kelly6 · Answer

@lisia it never sounded real to me

In_Trance · Answer

No I don't think it is

TallAnon · Answer

I don't think that's true

wkhan_87 · Answer

Yes it is a thing exist

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Yes, same goes with women also

MasterKS · Answer

First sex theory is real.

Anonymous · Answer

hmm it's ridiculous right now but true

Babygirl_S · Answer

Who knows?

nicfire171 · Answer

Yes. It’s very real

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Kind off... 🙂

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