Guilt Trip at its finest?

[Anonymous]

So today I found some messages in my fiancés phone from a female friend of his. She was stating she had feelings for him and she wanted him to visit her. His replies were vague and one worded not really eluding to anything. But the issue is there was a previous situation with them texting and her saying weird stuff like that. But she supposedly has a boyfriend blah blah blah.

So I woke my fiance up about the text and he proceeds to say I was waiting for you to say something. He explains that he set this trap to see if I’d look at his phone and he was saying I don’t trust him blah blah blah.

What adult plays those types of mind games. The first situation was supposed to be an inside joke but you have the same female friend send these “fake” texts just to see if I’d read them. Now I really don’t trust him because if you’ll intentionally do that I can only imagine what he’ll do to hurt me seriously.

He’s never had an issue with me having his phone and in all the years we’ve been together I never read his texts until out of the blue the one time before this current situation.

I only read the texts because I was trying to download an app on his phone when she texted how’s my 2 handsomest men…eluding to my fiance and our 1 month old baby. He’s adamant on making the point of you shouldn’t have looked at my messages but you deliberately told this woman to text stuff of that nature to prove a point? Then to involve my son as if me and her are cool but want to back handed play jokes like she doesn’t have a relationship of her own.

Like again it’s childish and part of me feels like he’s had the right explanation when maybe the texts are real. I’ve never had trust issues in our relationship or in general but now everything is different.

[DishLady]

He sounds like a manipulative dbag, not just with you but with her also. Gaslighting takes many forms. You need to get away from this guy.

[petitedollbabee]

Yeahhh that weird. Both him & his female friend are playing mind games with you and that’s childish and honestly just fucking weird. Not to mention his friend asking “how’s my 2 handsomest boys” or whatever. Like, lady.. their baby isn’t yours, you sicko. I’d be grossed out if one of mine or my partners friends referred to our baby as theirs.


ALSO, if you’re at that point in the relationship where you feel that you need to check his phone and keep track of messages, then the trust is already gone in the relationship. People in healthy & trusting relationships don’t snoop on each others phones.


Why is this man your fiancé? Sounds like a recipe for divorce later down the track.

[In_Trance]

Why are you going through his phone?

[Asker]

I wasn’t I was downloading an app ( which he knew I was going to do that) I looked at the text thread when she texted him “good morning to my two handsome guys” as if my kid is hers and as if that’s her man

[In_Trance]

So why did you go through his phone?

[Asker]

Because I can it’s never a problem before until these two situations. And don’t try to say that manipulative shit saying well you went looking. There shouldn’t be anyone talking like that to him especially if it’s just a friend PERIOD!