If a girl didn’t have the patience or empathy to date someone with autism why would she be in a relationship for 2 years?

[Anonymous]

Like this really confused me usually if someone has those sort of thoughts they out the gate would be like no I would never date that person

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's a tough situation. I can see why you'd be confused about that. Usually if someone doesn't have the patience or empathy to date someone with autism, they probably wouldn't even get into a relationship with that person in the first place, you know?

It's weird that she stuck around for 2 whole years if she wasn't equipped to handle it. That doesn't really add up. Maybe there was something else going on there that you're not seeing?

It could be that she cared about you a lot and thought she could handle it, but over time it just became too much for her. Or maybe she had a change of heart and realized she wasn't as accepting as she thought.

Either way, it sucks that she led you on for so long if she couldn't provide the support you needed. That's just messed up. You deserve someone who is fully committed to understanding and accepting you, autism and all.

I know it must be really frustrating and hurtful. But try not to beat yourself up about it too much, man. Her issues aren't a reflection on you. You keep being your awesome, authentic self - the right person will appreciate that, I promise.

In the meantime, lean on your other friends and family for support. Surround yourself with people who get you and make you feel valued. You got this, dude. Sending good vibes your way.

[Nikki1989]

The challenges might have become more apparent over time, as the relationship progressed.

[Asker]

I was offended most of relationship because I knew the possible differences coming in because i studied myself and bought books on relationships cause prior to this I never dated so I was upfront in saying out communication might not always be effective and I gave her a book that I bought in hopes to avoid arguments and improve communication she constantly called it boring and we were never able to communicate effectively it constantly led to misunderstandings

[Asker]

I was transparent from the start and put in everything cause I truly wanted it to work

[Anonymous]

She might've been waiting for something better to come along and it hasn't for 2 years. Women are like this bro.