I can’t get a girlfriend or any girl to like me. Is there something wrong with me?

[Balice]

I would consider myself a laid-back, cool and easy going person who is easy to talk to and get along with me. I’m jovial and jokey around people I’m comfortable with, however I am also rather sensitive and brooding. I’ve also noticed that around women I’m a lot more quiet and guarded because I find it hard to get close to them and I always think they are out to get me. I don’t know what to do or if something is wrong with me. What do you think I should do?

[SteveSmith1985]

Hey man. I thought it was going to be a mere matter of you being quiet (as you say) but I'll be honest... I had a huge record-scratch moment when I read:

" find it hard to get close to them and I always think they are out to get me"

THAT is concerning.

Everything aside from that is relatively normal. I have answered questions for guys and girls which were similar to the rest of this many times.

If it weren't for that line, I would tell you that it's a matter of you being quiet around women, and they basically don't get a chance to see your personality. I would tell you there's nothing wrong with you.

That line about why you're quiet around women. That is legitimately something you might want to talk to a professional about. That's not normal. That might very well indicate something might be "wrong" with you (there might be some mental health issues at play).

It depends on where that came from I guess. Like if you had some experience in the past that you know made you start worrying/thinking that women were all out to get you.

I do think you should talk to somebody trained about that man. Seriously.

You certainly don't have to talk to me (who is not trained in anything). But if you would, do you mind expanding on what you meant with that line? Out to get you in what sense? For what reason? How strongly do you feel this way? What are your thoughts like when you are feeling this way?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

You have to start with yourself. You have to work through your drawback of thinking women are out to get you and find a way to be that chill, relaxed guy around women too. That kind of personality will go a long way into finding a girlfriend.