Girl I work with might be interested but hard to tell if she has a boyfriend?

[ikonik]

I just worked with this girl for a week at a museum. She seeemed nice and we got along well. the other day was our last day together and we wanted to go see one of the other parts of the mueseum, so on my break I went to meet her and we went. it was nice, she was very knowledegeable about what was going on and i didn't have a clue so she kept telling me what was going on. the other morning she suggested we going back to the museum after our project is over "I don't know if you have any intereest in that" and i said yea i thinking of going anyways on my own. so i got her IG so we can set something up. but when i was going through her ig it looked she recently had/has a boyfriend.. not really sure if she's interested or just sees me as a friend.

[SteveSmith1985]

It sounds like she asked you out. There's no way to be sure. It could be pictures of an ex. Pictures with a best friend (depending).

If you felt that she was interested, before you saw her IG, then you're probably right. You're going to have to decide on your own whether you felt something between you. Don't doubt things that were there. Don't invent thing that weren't.

The reason its all up to you is: nothing here is anything that'll help us figure it out from the outside.

THe only sign is to confirm that "yes, it sounds like she asked you on a date"

The IG thing is less accurate than the feeling between you two (when deciding if she was indeed asking you on a date).

If you had the chance for ONE more conversation (face to face) you could throw in a "your boyfriend probably..." and find out one way or another.

You're going in blind dude. This is tough.

-If you act like it's a date, but it's not a date because she has a boyfriend... well that sucks. There's a horribly awkward attempt at a kiss... it's just not good.

-If you act like you're just friends, but it IS a date... well then that also sucks. She feels like you aren't really interested in her. You give off zero romantic signs/signals. No kiss at the end of the night. You lose your chance. A chance you didn't know you had.

It's all up to you to interpret her behavior with you. (unless you want to give details, then we might be able to tell you more). Otherwise... go with your gut.

[ikonik]

I mean there wasn't anything more to it. I didn't want to make moves on her on the job and risk being firedor making things awkward. she did talk a lot about her brother and the guy in the pictures kind of looks similar to her. but some of the pictures seem a little too intimate to be a brother.. also the way she asked me was interesting "I don't know if your interested in that kidn of thing"

[SteveSmith1985]

I hear you. You may not have much to go on. I'm not sure what to say about which of the two you should assume it to be. You're gonna have to decide one or the other, and just hope you're right.

" "I don't know if your interested in that kidn of thing"

I worry you might be reading something into this that wasn't intended. If there was something about the WAY (tone, tension, body language etc) she asked then disregard what I'm saying here. The sentence itself, and her choice to add that into asking... doesn't mean anything. I think this is something someone could say whether it as as a friend or a date.

Good luck though. I wish I had something more concrete to tell you.

[ikonik]

well i already asked her, four days ago... she hasn't responed yet.

[SteveSmith1985]

Do you mean you asked whether or not it was a date? (if so, good for you dude. That should be the easiest solution. It just takes balls).

If that is what you asked her... I won't lie... it's really unusual that she didn't reply. (regardless of her answer).

I don't know what to make of that. Do you have a specific date set? or is the date and time you're meeting still to be worked out?

[ikonik]

no i just said "hey let's go to the museum again next week!" then i sent a second one a few days later "I'm thinking of going back to the museum on Thursday would you like to join me?" i also turned on disappearing messages by accident but i turned it off immediately after, maybe she got weirded out by that?

[SteveSmith1985]

I won't lie. This is indeed perplexing. I don't know what to make of this. I'm inclined to think that something or other happened keeping her from replying the way she usually would. (maybe her mom passed away, maybe she was in some sort of accident, some bullshit with her phone, something irregular).

I do not AT ALL think she would have been weirded out by disppearing messages being turned on before you changed it. I also think both messsages were perfect. No, I don't think you weirded her out.

She would reply normally regardless of whether she thinks its a date or not. Even as a friend, you would certainly expect some sort of response from her.

It doesn't happen very often. But I'm stumped.

[Shiprex]

That she initiated something is a start but only a minor one. No harm in thanking her for suggesting it, then add to see if there's anything else she's into that you'd both be able to attend. Take your time to discover more about her.

[chocolatetwopointo]

js bc she's nice to u doesn't mean she's interested, if she has a boyfriend she's obviously not interested.

[ikonik]

what makes you think she isn't interested

[chocolatetwopointo]

everything. if she says she's interested, then she is. if not, she's not.