I'm not saying I'm in love yet, but we seem to be on the same wavelength. Like tonight we just really gelled even more than before. It's like everyday the chemistry between us is growing stronger and I can seriously see myself being with him for a long time. It's going on 3 weeks since the first date and about a month since we matched. I'm not sure if it's too soon to start falling in love, but I'm starting to have strong feelings.
Which I know is crazy but can you seriously put a timeline on love?
I'll do it in an hour when I was single and drunk. Let's roll with it.
Unfortunately, I got failure after failure in my 20s. But I learned each step of the way.
Why can't we just dance in one night and fall in love? We'll mess up our lives, mostly likely, but we aren't immortal. Better to get fucked by life than never fucked at all.
And what's holding us back so much? Humans beings aren't that complicated. We want to connect, we want to create meaning together. Some people are hopelessly governed by their ways to not see that, but it's all very simple at the end of the day.
We're floating spirits just wanting to tangle together and we can do it for the rest of our lives, get married, have kids, grow old together. It's the rest of the world messing this us.
It's really a very simple idea. And you don't need the most beautiful woman or handsome man. You fall in love with what's there as long as it's cooperative. Like a stray cat you adopted with a missing eye, you fall in love and it's the cutest cat in the world now. You don't need much for this. We just put all this bullshit in between us.
I think it's great that you're feeling so good about things! That's so good.
You might be falling in love. What you're experiencing could certainly be something that buds into Love. But a month is too early to genuinely love somebody. You need to know someone well--in the good times, and the bad times--and know each other deeply.
A month isn't enough time, and it's impossible to put a real timeline on it. It's not a time thing exactly. It does take feeling totally 100% comfortable with the person, and knowing them in a way deeper than you ever thought possible.
The way your feeling is perfect. It's one of the best times in a relationship. It can grow into Love, but things take time to grow.
Don't worry about the label. It's great that things are going so well, and that you're feeling how you're feeling. I'm so happy to see this post.
Thank you! And yes it is a wonderful feeling. I hope he feels the same way. The last exchange we had is telling me he just might be. And I know it takes feeling 100% comfortable with a person and knowing them in a deeper way and I feel like we're definitely getting there. Each day he opens up to me more and more. And so am I. It's not 100% but it's getting up there in how comfortable we feel with each other. But I'm just going with the flow at this point and not worrying about putting a label on it.
I love hearing all of this. I'm so happy for you. As long as it's mutual (and clearly it is), then it's perfect. Go with the flow. That's exactly right. I bet you're smiling like a goofy teenager. Right now.
Probably within a month I can really have feelings for someone. The main thing isn't how I am feeling though, it is how the guy is, so I really try to not fall that fast. I really try to keep them at a distance now.
Every one is different but what happen we meet people and we like lots of things about them your mind is very powerful it's not so much your falling in love because the love is all ready in you... what your doing is allowing your self to feel it
It's like going out and buying a new car.. you see the car and you allow your self to get excited and the closer you get to driving it home your ecstatic and the feeling is just great. So when your around the person. You both are allowing yourselves to feel those same feeling together that excitement
I guess people call that love for me it starts we any type of connection with touch
it will certainly develop and feel great at the start because there's different "kinds of falling", some people call it a crush, others call it infatuation... or "the honey moon"
then you have those who say falling in love, and being in love are not the same thing... lol... and then you have reciprocation... also you might be in love with a feeling and dynamic or as they say "in love with love" and not exactly with the person in front of you so, as I said... as long as it is genuine, that's what really matters
Yeah I will be honest. I wasn't sure about him on the first date but after the second, it definitely seems genuine the way I'm feeling. I don't attach to people easily so for him to break my barriers says a lot about him. It's definitely genuine. I just hope he's feeling the same way.
There are some people who don't even move in together until 2 years have passed which I would recommend. That said during WW1 and WW2 there was a trend where a bunch of men and woman were getting married on the first date because they're leave was going to be over in two weeks and they met a girl they liked and had a solid chance of just dying. Strangely enough a lot of those marriages worked out fantastically and have resulted in some of the most touching love stories I've ever heard. there's no timeline to love. It happens when it happens.
If the spark, interest and passion of the girl is same after 10-12 months with her as it was on day first then I know she's serious about me. And I took her seriously.
I used to fall quickly before but now I have set the above criteria for serious relationship and something permanent.
You really cannot put a specific time on it since the sensation of falling in love is actually a byproduct of the release of certain neurotransmitters in your brain this will not last forever and in fact sadly will not last for very long. When this wears off and it is unclear about when it will, he will experience a letdown and also you will experience. Hopefully a reassessment of reality regarding your relationship. It is at this point that the relationship will fail or will continue on in a somewhat more subdued fashion. This happens to all of us. It is not possible physically or psychologically to maintain the initial state of euphoria for very long. Enjoy it while you have it, but don't mistake it for anything other than what it is, which is a temporary biochemical derangement that resolves over time. I think that this state of mind in general does not last more than about 6 months actually and usually much less. It is sometimes referred to as the honeymoon period.
Never? What I mean is I always filter my "feelings" through logic. If I am attracted to her, and she seems like a decent, fun, and interesting lady then no time time constraint for me to commit. Could be two days. If, on the other hand, I am "hot" for her but she has red flags I will not ever commit.
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