Can a relationship with dating a single dad work out? Has it ever for you?

[coxoabean]

Is it possible for a relationship with a single dad to work out?

What would be red flags to look out for?

[sage2021]

Let's hear it for the single Dad's out there!! YAY❣️

I've dated 3 guys that had kids. One was totally a single Dad with 2 boys.

Another one had identical twin boys but shared with the ex.

One has a daughter but shared with the ex.

With each one of them the kids were a blessing and only added more fun for all of us.

None of these relationships lasted though. The first guy who was totally on his own did ask me to marry him and I sure would have except he had a drinking problem and his entire family were Jehovah's Witnesses and I am a non-denominational Christian woman.

[coxoabean]

Oh, that makes sense. Ya this guy I know he has a baby girl that's 2, but only sees his daughter on the weekends i guess. So I want to do a background check I just don't know what website isn't a scam

[Zack-Bann]

Depends on what made him single
Maybe there’s a cautionary tale here
Because if the mother of his children couldn’t even stick it out for them that means either she’s a bad person, in which case he’s ok to date.
Or he’s a bad person and she ran for her life and so should you.


I’ve dated 2 single moms in the past.
One actually ran away and took her kid because the dad and his family of inbred rednecks were actually crazy and he cheated all the time (also she was second wife and he had 2 kids with the first)
That woman was terrified of the day he tracks her down. But 10 years later he never did


(There’s a rumor he was shot and killed as he was a dirty cop on top of all that)


And the other one had a kid when she was young with another young guy, they broke up amicably, coparent, respect each other’s boundaries etc…


Obviously a girl dating the second dad would probably have a good relationship

[ohsheeT]

I was a single dad for years. You just have to be you. This might sound bad. But if make you first before his kids. Red flag sorry but your kids come first with curtain things. I don't really know. I do know that if I dated and the girl made me Priority over her kids that was a red flag for me. Or if she Try to make me the disciplinary no that's a big red flag. Basically, the thing to do is watch The Way he raises his.
And see if it's your way see if it's good things if you do not pay attention to them.
Are not giving them the time of day that's a red flag

[FreyaRed]

The red flag is when he forces you to be some mom substitute for his brat (s). You can do it occasionally and play the sunshine mommy for fun but his kid isn't your burden. Of course everything is matter of negotiation but don't forget that your time isn't cheap and a kid cost lot of time.

[Danny_dan92]

I’ll put it this way.




My last ex was not a mother when her and I were together.




She left me when I deployed, years later she ended up with a guy that was double her age and is a single dad…




He ended up getting her pregnant, and fast forward a few years.. she has called me and admitted she made a major mistake letting me go because not only did she end up having a kid. But she ended up having a kid with a guy that is controlling and cheats on her like crazy…




So, not to say all single dad’s are scum. But most of them are. To be completely honest. Only cases where the guy is a decent guy is if say the mother of his kids is in prison or died.

[Nikki1989]

No, but him being a single dad had nothing to do with it.

[coxoabean]

How? It does have something to do with it, that was the whole point of my question

[jahaims]

Him being a single dad is the red flag. He either was too immature to be a good partner or was immature enough to pick a weak partner. Unless his wife died obviously

[serious]

I don't think it would work out well, because things would be too complicated.

[Vegasrunner]

Actually women tend to love single dad's more, because it's social proof that a women will bang them.

[nawtee_me]

As a single dad I would hope so.

[Babebytheshore85]

You're 21 asking this?

[coxoabean]

Yes? What's wrong with that?

[Babebytheshore85]

@coxoabean get your life together and get some therapy. I swear a lot of you here suffer from an untreated mental illness