Met this guy on a new dating app. He told me he has a daughter who is 6 y/o, shares custody, so he has her half the week. He was upfront about it and how she is his main priority, which I fully understand and respect.
I never have dated or intended to date a single parent, in this case I just matched with a guy who ended up already having a kid. I want kids in the future, a family, so this doesn’t bother me but I know it’s different. He’s a couple years older than me, I’m in my late 20s.
I kinda don’t know where to go with this because I’ve never been in this position before so I’m still getting use to understanding that he’s way busier than the typical guy you match with on an app lol our schedules haven’t synced up and his is incredibly tight with work and his child, it’s been almost 6 months now and still no first date.
I'm use to guys laying it on thick and being overly flirty off the bat, and I don’t think he’s really flirted at all this entire time we’ve been talking. But we both talked about what the other wants and is looking for and we seem to be on the same page.
Am I just use to that behavior or is this just not going anywhere?
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There's a lot to unpack here sis.
First things first, I give that dude major props for bein' upfront about havin' a kid. That shows integrity ya feel me? Too many dudes tryna act like they single when they not.
No easy way to jump into datin' a single parent game but gotta respect he puttin' his girl first. That's real responsible father stuff right there.
Seems you both genuinely wanna make it work too from how you described matchin on goals n all that.
Only thing is, you probably just gotta adjust your expectations some. With a kid in the mix he defs ain't gonna be able to flirt n move as fast as guys without responsibilities.
Quality time gets prioritized different when you a parent down. Schedule ain't as flex either.
If you down to be chill n let things progress naturally instead of tryna force it, could be coo. But don't waste your time if you want more attention than he can give, ya feel?
Maybe plan an acty you both can enjoy with his little one sometime -see how that family vibe feels. Could help decide if you down long term.
No rush to decide neither girl. Take it slow n see where it goes chillin. You doin a'ight.
He's looking to date. It could go somewhere if you let it. Go meet him and see how you feel. He sounds like a young man with his priorities straight -- his child is number one, as she should be. That's a positive trait.
Most guys that are single dads are so because they fucked up…. Read that again.
Most women are single mothers because they got tired of the guy’s bs or he just walked away
You can't say they are single because they fucked up. Some guys out there are single dad because the mother of their child has died, or she decided she didn't want to be a mum and pissed off. Some guys are single dads because they were abused in the relationship and finally had the courage to walk away.
I said most