When someone’s controlling do you think it’s because they really feel weak and insecure inside?

[Summeroflove]

[Anonymous]

I like to be in control because at one point I felt powerless and hopeless. Having that control makes me feel strong, I don’t control women, I lead them if they resist my lead I leave them. I like to be in the position of power and the woman will submit to me by following my lead. There is no 50/50 there is no feministic masculinity. Not dealing with these power thirsty women. In every relationship there is 1 more leading and the other is more following. It has to do with personality and I will not feel like someone has power over me. Having control over your own life is power. Trying to control someone is insecurity, yes. They become an extension of yourself and loosing their autonomy. But if they leave part of you is gone. So this is why you got to become content with yourself and your life. A girl is a bonus, if she leaves you still have an amazing life. This is why I would leave the girl if she doesn’t respect my boundaries. If she want to be a strong independent women with a bitchy attitude and making the rules. I pray to the lord that woman avoids me. A girl must respect me as her man which means that my word is absolute. In this world this is lead by weak men and feminists. The reverse is true. Women are masculine and men are weak and pathetic. Somehow it’s okay to shame men. But its not okay to shame these crazy feminists. I was against red pill until i realized how messed up the world has become. Its time for men to dominate

[Ariesman81]

You'll have to define what the "controlling" behavior is. the term controlling is just a word women like to use when a man's boundaries interfere with their desire to be free. But if two people are in a relationship, neither is free and both work within boundaries specified by the other. Boundaries are what define a relationship and allow women to feel safe within it. Knowing where the line is and that there will be consequences for crossing it let's her know that he has self respect and will not tolerate misbehavior.

[DreamCrescent]

i agree. i actually like a man who knows who he is and what he’s boundaries are. is willing to challenge me on them and make his preferences known

i don’t think it’s insecure or weak at all. i think it’s decisive and confident

but then that’s far from what i would define as “controlling” so perhaps the question isn’t about that?

[Nikki1989]

Yes, that is just about it.

By dictating terms and making decisions for others, they can create a temporary illusion of strength and authority.

[MemeSupreme]

kinda depends why and what about

ik that's bad answer but it's just it REALLY does depend

[slatyb]

Absolutely. They fear abandonment so they try to remove their partner's ability to leave them.

[ProbablyClueless]

Yeah, that's usually the reason they're being controlling.

[Gaylordslav]

Oh absolutely only sense of control and power i felt in my life was when i abused and ultimately killed a 1 month or so old puppy.

[Anonymous]

No. It's because someone has let them get away with is. So now they they can behave that way to whoever and that it's acceptable.

[Anonymous]

It can be, or the person simply likes to be dominant.

[serious]

That is right. True.

[DrPepper12]

Absolutely or some unaddressed trauma. No doubt.

[Dongie]

It might be rabbit, it might be!!

[Anonymous]

Yesss. U are right

[Babebytheshore85]

Weak and insecure