Would you ever date or have a LTR with a smoker?

Question

My first wife was a smoker. I hated it and she eventually would go outside to smoke. After a few years, she quit because she needed surgery and the surgeon wouldn't proceed until she had stopped for at least 30 days. After our divorce, I never again dated a smoker.

"It's like kissing an ashtray" is a cliche, but it's true. And she smelled bad unless she had not smoked since taking a shower. And. . . my perception is that most smokers - men and women - are oblivious to the rights of others and don't care if their smoke is annoying you or triggering a migraine headache.

So. . . never again for me. How about you?

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I occasionally smoke cigars. Small, thin ones. When I say occasionally, I mean a few times a month, and not even the whole cigar. 90% of the time I smoke nothing.

The few smokers I know smoke outside their OWN homes. But the ones I know are chain smokers. However, I don't sleep with them or kiss them.

I dated one guy who smoked, but he always smelled clean.
He didn't taste like an ashtray, but I could taste tobacco on his tongue sometimes. However, I didn't live with him or his habit on a daily basis.

I expect that it would get tiresome and odious if someone DID smell of tobacco and their skin gave off that odor. It gets in your hair, and on your clothes if you're always smoking. And your body reeks of it too.

I think it would be a hard pill to swallow. I only know a few rare people who are occasional smokers like myself. But some good friends might smoke a cigarette or two a day or every few days.

If it was something like that, it wouldn't bother me as long as it wasn't in the house. But chain smokers like my friend? No. It wouldn't be workable in a relationship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My great aunt died of lung cancer. She never smoked a day in her life, but her husband smoked like a chimney. Smoking just makes everything worse for you and those around you. I am well known for getting up and leaving outdoor eating areas or anywhere if someone pulls out a cigarette. Back before the smoking ban at my college, smokers used to gather around every door of every building and I would always hold my breath before I got closer to try and avoid inhaling any of it. I HATE SMOKERS! Deal breaker 100%.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

One of my exes did once in a blue moon (like once a year). But I made sure it was known I didn't like her doing it. Ideally I wouldn't date a smoker again, but sometimes the pros of their character outweigh that one con.

And different people like different things. I like to drink (socially anyways). When I go out (less than once a month), I like to drink as much as I want (not to the point of being shit faced, but at least a few beers, a couple glasses of wine, and mixes). I'd prefer that a partner was able to share in that experience with me. That's how it is with drugs.

For me I want a partner to drink with. Don't want them to do any other kind of drug.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I have never smoked. I have always preferred dating non-smokers, though I have dated a few women who were smokers. I actually helped one woman stop smoking by offering something better than a cigarette to put in her mouth. It worked. 🙈🙉🙊

ManOnFire · Answer

Never ever. I've never smoked and fortunately all my past dates and exes weren't smokers either, and if they were they must've really kept that a major secret.

Smoking is smelly and unattractive, and even worse with everyone's lust for weed and vapes nowadays. Can never do it and never tolerate a lover doing it either.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes I would because I smoke as well , but even when I didn t smoke I still dated girls’ that smoked because I grew up with a Mom that was a smoker , so it never bothered me , Especially after having sex , after sex cigarette is the best then you go have sex again 😊

Genie23 · Answer

No, I wouldn't. I can't bear the smell of cigarettes. Makes me cough a lot. Besides, I don't want to keep worrying about him dying from cancer at a young age... I'm very well aware of the health risks smokers have

Simslover92 · Answer

Nope I wouldn't ever date a smoker.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It defo wouldn't be my first choice lol My ex used to smoke and I always thought he was retarded because he picked it up at 22.. He used to smoke a lot and it annoyed me especially because he wouldn't go outside or anything to do it. I kept complaining and he did try to quit but he became so moody and bitchy I just told him to smoke cuz I can't stand him lol. Then I said he needs to go outside when smoking or try vaping so he got into vaping and it was much better than smoking and didn't bother me as much. I probably wouldn't date a smoker again.

Crimsyjo · Answer

My mum smoked heavily when I was growing up. My nan My dad. Lots of people smoked but I am a non smoker. My husband of 12 years (and every boyfriend I've had) were smokers. So I think it would he wonderful being with a non smoker but I am also accepting of a smoker and don't find it a huge turn off. Main things that annoy me is if travelling long distance and they want to smoke frequently causing stops or complaining about not smoking. And having to go stand outside freezing cold if at a bar or restaurant or club and having to go outside. Rest is fine.

sage2021 · Answer

Yes, they are human beings. There's worse things that people do than smoking. Like when men urinate on women after sex. That's worse than smoking cigarettes 🚬🚬

Apple1996 · Answer

Im a non smoker and my husband does it all. Vapes, smokes cigarettes/cigars, dips. Right now he's been doing ZYNs. It doesn't bother me at all as long as he doesn't smoke/vape in the house/around the kids. Most annoying thing is his ZYN pouches get in the laundry 🙄

NathanDavis · Answer

lol... I would never be in a relationship with a heavy smoker because I just can't stand the stink of smoking however... if I were to be in a, oh damn... just realized you meant LTR and not LDR so I was going to say it would not matter if they're smelly but miles and miles away

so... a long term relationship with a smoker is just not for me... I just can't stand the smoke so, why bother myself and her for the rest of our days... it wouldn't make sense

WindAtMyBack · Answer

"I am a former smoker and I would never date a smoker. "

I don't like the word 'never', but close enough.

As a former smoker it's hard for me to judge someone who smokes. But as a former smoker I know I can't count on them quitting.

I don't want to be in a LTR with someone who smokes. I wish them well. I will stand behind them and encourage them. But I can't be in a relationship with them.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I went on one date with a smoker. it was an accident... early online dating was via VHS tapes. I watched a girls tape, but chose the wrong number and got this girl. she looked good but smoked and could smell it. I can't get past smoke.

I thought about dating other smoker as she looked like someone I used to love, but that was projection... not whom she was. I grew up around smoking and can't stand it, can barely stand going out to dinner with smokers.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

I'm a former smoker and I would date a woman who smokes. Although I do feel the difference in breath and taste in kissing someone who smokes and who doesn't, and of course I can tell if someone is smoking when they claim they are not, like for example my children's mother.

exitseven · Answer

I dated a few smokers. It never bothered me and it really was not gross when I kissed. I dated a girl that brought a little bottle of mouthwash even though I told her that I was okay with her smoking. She used the mouthwash and after we kissed I found that the mouthwash was much worse than the smoking.
The only thing that was gross is what my car smelled like the next day after we went out the night before,

bolverk · Answer

I'm a none smoker, and have never been tempted to smoke though I come from a family of smokers, I would NEVER ever date or have a LTR with a smoker.

It is next to impossible to get the smell of cigarette smoke out of your clothing when you live with a family of smokers or have a LTR with a smoker, the whole house smells of it. You really notice if you are away from home for a couple of months working overseas and the stink hits you full in the face as you step through the door.

Massageman · Answer

My parents offered to give me $100 if I never smoked a cigarette until I was 18. Easiest money I ever made. Smoke and my body do not mix- except on BBQ ribs with hickory smoke. My daad had to receive heart surgery. The doc said, " I'm sorry- I can't work on you". "Why?" asked my dad. "Because I don't operate on smokers", was the reply. He said, "OK", put it out, and flatly stated, "I'm done smoking then."

Anonymous · Answer

“I am a non-smoker and I would never date a smoker“

I don’t think it is worth putting your own health at risk because someone isn’t taking care of their own health properly. Look up what ‘ingredients’ are in just one cigarette and you’ll be asking yourself, “is it worth the risks to be dating a smoker?” also for those not knowing if they should quit or not, this will make them think “that is nasty, how did I get sucked into this in the first place?” which is awful.

Cigarettes are bad and I wouldn’t want someone who smokes them to be near me ever.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I have never smoked cigarettes except for a short period when I was a teenager and trying to look cool. I have dated girls who smoked, but I couldn't do it now. Although I do have to admit something weird. I kind of liked the cheap lipstick and cigarette taste (?), when I was dating. Not now though. 🤷🏼‍♂️

BCRanger10 · Answer

I'm the smoker of the house (semi-often cigar) and my wife doesn't like it. If I do smoke, I'm careful to eat or drink something after smoking. I may also wash my face (if not take a full shower), brush my teeth, and change clothes.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Sorry but, for me smoking is a disgusting habit. And it's not very bright either given the data that has been available for 60+ years. Smoking is a deal breaker for me.

jshm2 · Answer

Meh, never really bothered me if they were smokers or not. I wasn't their fucking life guru.

It is probably why your ex didn't give a shit about what you thought, but did the surgeon.

You were too judgmental, while offering so little else to make up for it.

Josey29 · Answer

I have never smoked cigarettes. I would never date someone that smokes cigarettes 🚬🤮  Weed is okay though!

Joshydavid25 · Answer

No, especially for the long term.. At least if it's cigarettes... I don't want any stinky, stale cigarette smells, or yellowish teeth, or weird deeper creaky voices..

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

First of all no because smoking is such a disgusting habit and so unhealthy for both the person doing the smoking and everyone else.

Secondly, no because smokers spend about 12,000 dollars per year on their bad habit. If you add that up over a 40-something years career of employment, it basically adds up to your entire retirement savings being blown out the window.

Thirdly, no because I don't date losers, and anyone who has bad habits they refuse to give up is a loser.

WonderingManII · Answer

I am a non-smoker and I would never date a smoker.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Ex smoker. You couldn't pay me to date a smoker.

I really get a kick out of how norms and expectations change. It's been pointed out by smarter people than me that we moderns are more offended by cigarette smoke then interracial marriage whereas someone from the 1950s would have the exact opposite point of view...

Kabluie · Answer

I dated a smoker a few times. They always were very considerate and not doing it in places like in home or cars

molonski2 · Answer

I'm with you , just could not do it.. no way , horrible.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I smoke the occasional cigar (my doctor classes me as a non smoker) If they smoked the same sure but no cigarettes

worldscolide · Answer

There is, if i were single, no way I'd ever date someone addicted to any substance, this includes smoking cigarettes..

Likes2drive · Answer

I never smoked but my first girlfriend smoked but eventually quit for me after awhile, but when we broke up after a year and a half I know she started smoking again when I saw her about a year later. I won’t date a smoker again though and haven’t since

jazzy34 · Answer

No. My mother is a smoker and I absolutely  hate  the smell. 😷🤢

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I hate the smell of cigarettes and pot but I would not disqualify someone I gel with for those reasons.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Absolutely not because I hate the smell of cigarette smoke

strateguy632 · Answer

Not an "LTR" but i can do LDR because i wouldn't smell it!  I defeated addiction of smoking and can't date someone addicted. "Me or cigarette?" they always pick cigarette!

Staximus · Answer

I smoke cigarettes but not that many. If a woman smokes more than half a pack a day, I'm not interested

fivebyfour · Answer

I'm a smoker and wouldn't date another smoker, we'd only trigger each other,,,

jeta33 · Answer

No I have never dated or have a LTR with a smoker

Godihateyou · Answer

Top 3 most disgusting people on this planet 1 Pedofile 2 Dog owners 3 Smoker. Yuck. I can smell you from here.

Dreamclouds · Answer

Of course not, would be from the start a nono

Anonymous · Answer

I would. Yes, the smell of cigarette smoke on a man really turns me on.

RingOfFire · Answer

50 years ago I could see it, we didn't know as much about how dangerous it is. But anyone who smokes in 2025 has a death wish, and I don't find that attractive.

Kaylani · Answer

No the smoke is awful.

Lynx122 · Answer

No. I can't do it.

Osborne775 · Answer

if its vape that's ok for me if its cigarettes then no the only exception is if the person is willing to quit smoking

Kelley1 · Answer

I would never date a smoker.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I did once, never again!!

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a non-smoker, and maybe I would date a smoker, if she's my type of girl.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Never

MemeSupreme · Answer

yeah i would i like the smell

renodnol32 · Answer

Yes.

Panthero80 · Answer

No, smoking is a turn off.

Markella99 · Answer

I made out with a smoker once it was ok.

red324 · Answer

Sure.

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