Do you think dating siblings is a bad idea?

Question

Is dating siblings a bad idea? Is it a bad idea to date the other, if you were in a serious long term relationship with one, then started dating the other? If the ex hates the idea, but the other sibling is all in, would you go for it?

ShellyB · Accepted Answer

I read the explanation so I know you are talking about dating the sibling of somebody you have dated or tried to date in the past, I know you do not mean dating your own sibling. Even so, I think it is likely to lead to a lot of problems and hurt feelings.

I actually have an odd situation I have thought about mentioning here for a long time but I don’t think I ever have, which is that I met my fiance through his sister, and his sister is bisexual and flirted w me before I started dating her brother, we are still close, and this is the odd part, she still flirts with me and, I like being around her but of course I won’t cheat with anybody especially his brother, even if I was not straight which I am. But I kind of enjoy it in a lowkey way I guess? This is not something I could ever say in real life only here!!

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. It would be shitty to end a relationship and then immediately start dating their sibling. However if the relationship ended, enough time goes by and then you date their sibling it is fine. It’ll just will be awkward at first.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Dating your own sibling is absolutely disgusting and wrong on many levels. However talking in the context of breaking up with a girlfriend or boyfriend then jumping to the sibling…..

Many times let me start by saying dating someone’s sibling most times isn’t due to a genuine attraction. Sometimes it may just be lust but many times it’s because it’s retaliation and they’re doing it with the intentions of causing drama.

Who am I to say if someone genuinely feels attracted to someone… not to go for it. But be careful it can get messy as well as the fact if you had relations with one and go to the other. The jealousy and envoy especially if it’s fresh after a breakup and people aren’t over one another yet. Its cause for disaster.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It is a perfectly horrible idea. Suppose that you fall in love with the second sibling and you get married. How awkward will it be when the family gathers for holidays and special events? Imagine the second sibling being suspicious and jealous of any time that you spend with the first sibling. The first sibling may vindictively do things to try to sabotage your relationship with the second sibling. If the two siblings become estranged, you get blamed for it.

There are so many potential problems with this scenario!

Finchie40 · Answer

It happens , i experienced it twice , the first time i experienced it it was awkward but i honestly had a better connection with her sister than my girlfriend, so i dumped my girlfriend for her sister and my girlfriend was mad and upset but she got over it , The second time I loved my girlfriend but her sister wanted me as well but i said No

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

That sounds like the worst idea ever. Nobody should do this. It's about as smart as dating your ex's mother.

Genie23 · Answer

It is. You'd be replacing your ex with their own sibling. It might lead to resentment and problems between the siblings.

DishLady · Answer

Don't YOU think it's a bad idea?

Hal2002 · Answer

Coming from a small island, with a small dating pool. I have had encounters with sisters, not right after being with one sister did I get with the other. But I have been with a few girls, than ended up getting the sister later on.

While not ideal, and not something I did on purpose. It does happen here, quite often.

The results of being involved with siblings have been mixed, from the sisters having a laugh to sisters going to war with each other. All in all, it is not something I would chose to do on purpose.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Dating your ex' sibling is not advisable, but could be workable, if approached with enough maturity and compartmentalization.

Dating your own sibling is also not advisable. Unless you are an Egyptian monarch, Roman Emperor or Alabama hillbilly, then go ahead.

overlord337645 · Answer

I think it depends if your dating two siblings at the same time it might be a little easier consiering a healthy foundation of trust is built however on the flipside no trust is a disaster. third of all one at a time one after the other is a no because that wedges them apart the only way that could work is if your ex is ok with it and most are not freinds with there ex or if they are it might be a little hard to ask to date there sibling

french_omelette · Answer

Love is love but it sounds like "the grass is greener on the other side". You don't realize how great it is with someone, and then you take them for granted, comparing their flaws to someone else's strengths, but you don't realize the other person's flaws until it's too late

Zack-Bann · Answer

Imagine your girlfriend having a sisterly bond with your ex

It’s drama waiting to happen

I only have a brother and couldn’t even picture myself going where he’s been

There’s enough people out there no need to fixate on one man’s daughters

naartjie · Answer

What is wrong with people!
If my sibling dates someone who I did, I’d disown them. How disgusting and disrespectful. Zero loyalty from the sibling willing to date you after you dated their sibling. As if there aren't hundreds of thousands of other people they could date.
Crazy world we live in.

Lucy68 · Answer

As a Led Zeppelin fan I automatically thought of Robert Plant. If any of you all don't know, Robert Plant cheated on his 1st wife (now ex) with his sister, divorced her (first wife now ex) so he could marry her sister, and then had a baby with his sister in law (ex wife sister).

Robert Plant has 3 kids from his first marriage and I believe one kid with his 2nd wife who is his ex wife sister

It's almost like a Maury and Jerry Springer episode

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I think it depends on the relationship you have with them. In middle school I had a slight crush on my guy friend who ended up dating a few of my friends. I got over the crush on him and remained friends with him but then I started dating his brother for a bit. After 2 weeks I decided I didn’t like him in that way but we ended it on good terms. I think things would be very different if I did date my friend and then his brother but because my crush wasn’t big, dating his brother wasn’t so weird.

Purpleronnie · Answer

The idea of dating the sister of a woman I’ve previously dated “gives me the ick” . Should I be missing out on a great relationship because of that then that’s on me.  Just NO !

avery58 · Answer

I would just leave their family alone instead of creating drama. There are many guys out there, why would I date the brother of an ex?

purplepoppy · Answer

Bad idea. You're driving a wedge between blood and that's never a good idea. Your relationship might fizzle out in a few weeks but you've destroyed theirs for life

Apple1996 · Answer

Just seems weird like I view my husband's siblings as my own siblings so if we ever spilit i cannot imagine dating one of his brothers

ariadneR · Answer

Yes.  Even looking at my own relationship, while my boyfriend does have siblings, I am not attracted to them at all. His sister is pretty, but that's appreciation from one female to another.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't know about dating, but I can tell you from experience that having a threesome with siblings is definitely a bad idea. I did it with two sisters back in the day and let's just say things didn't go well after that. The cat fights started the next day and they were vicious! 😬

Anonymous · Answer

Biologically, yes, I have read somewhere that if people just start marrying in close relations or regions, their offspring won't get any new type of characteristics. Like in North India, many to all people look similar as they usually marry in the same caste or religion. The same can be said for South India, as there's a tradition that they can marry their cousins.

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

Two of my exes are brothers. I dated the older brother and then younger brother. I had sex with both dating them.

strateguy632 · Answer

Omg not at same time! I did ask the second= her sister out. When she agreed i dumped my gal for her hotter sister.

Geo1970 · Answer

Why not, there is literally no attachment regarding if you are related to the person or persons so if you’re happy with that person and likewise that they are, go ahead.

Caroline91 · Answer

I think the sibling involved needs to take major responsibility and not do it. Then it isn't an issue at all.

Jay-_- · Answer

First let's start with this, if the sibling of the person you recently dated was okay with dating their siblings ex they are clearly both red flags but thats not a conversation people are ready for... haha

jshm2 · Answer

Dating them, then their parent, is probably a trickier situation.  I've done it, twice.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yeah its bad to go for your exes sibling and it could turn out weird between you 3..

Anonymous · Answer

yeah the title was confusing, gotta say lol but anyways yes, bad idea, it seems kind of desperate and petty to break up with someone and then date their sibling. awkward as hell...

MuddyMole · Answer

It's probably a sign that you need to get out more, and meet more new people.

molonski2 · Answer

I like the sound of it. But Wow , can see some difficulties.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I mean if I woke up one morning and thought, "I could use some more drama in my life." Then it's a good idea otherwise the answer should be painfully obvious.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It probably is, but I have no experience there

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds bad, had a sibling make a pass at me and turned her down simply with the line of 'nothing happened so I'll say nothing if you say nothing'
This probably only works if you're almost asexual like myself)

Phoenix98 · Answer

I've done it and it went fairly well all things considered.

exitseven · Answer

I think it would be a bad idea unless it was part of the threesome.

Anonymous · Answer

I married my sister's ex. She dumped him for some guy she was cheating with that had a bigger dick and more money.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Uh, yeah.. It's trifling to date other siblings..

Babygirl_S · Answer

It’s not normal. Only a desperate loser would want to engage in sexual activity with his sister

LiamJHayden · Answer

I went on dates with three sisters, two of whom were twins, but it never got serious with any of them.

XXblack88 · Answer

Yes there too much drama when dating a ex's siblings.

Grond21 · Answer

Dating more than one person is cheating, whether it's open or not. Dating siblings makes it worse.

Anonymous · Answer

Makes for interesting family gatherings. But if your fine with that more power to you:

Smegskull · Answer

It's not any harder than any other polyamourus relationship. They just have a head start on being able to communicate and scheme with each other.

noohair · Answer

Just one thought, what could possibly go wrong?

shortster · Answer

Unless you or they are a Biden, it will probably be a bad idea.

Lilly1979 · Answer

I sleep with sisters. They shared a womb. Long term no.

Kokishin · Answer

If I had a sister, I shall feel fortunate that a man loves us both. She would be very like me? So loving her means loving me?

SamWinchester058 · Answer

Only if you're not dating them at the same time. 😂😂😂

Anonymous · Answer

Go for it, they will just discuss how they fucked you

MasterKS · Answer

I dont say dating but i had casual sex including threesome with siblings! It was an experience.

watermelonicedtea · Answer

isn't incest a universal taboo or smth? it can ruind= the descendanrt genes

chrissykerdock · Answer

it will be short i promise you that

MemeSupreme · Answer

yeah thats so messy lol

lilBigPotato · Answer

Sounds like trouble

beenherebefore · Answer

This is very wrong in my opinion.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You shouldn't play with fire.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That sounds like a recipe for disaster.

WonderingManII · Answer

Do I get both girls?

RHK36 · Answer

That's just gross and tacky

Massageman · Answer

Um, no - not good.

David318578 · Answer

Terrible idea

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