What do I do about no communication on his end?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend 27m hasn't talked to me 29f in 3 days after we had a argument and I am losing my mind.

He came home Saturday night at 11 and said im sorry to go to bed as soon as I get home but im tired so I told him ok im just going to sleep in the living room where its cool because im hurting and im on my period. He goes to bed and wakes up the next day at 11 and just leaves saying he's going swimming with his sister not inviting me at all so I made plans of my own and then he invites me and I said no I have my own plans but i will leave from my plans and go swim with him afterwards. So I start leaving from my plans and he texts me im eating at my moms and afterward im going back to work. He works out of town for a month at a time so this hurt me and I said we'll great I guess I'll see you when you come back and ever since then he's been ignoring me. Just for context we have been together 3 years and all I can think of that would make him mad was I've been trying to get him to leave his job and I didn't want to sleep next to him when he came home Saturday but I was hurting. I even texted him an apology and he ignored it and left me on sent

[Communicationisking]

Difficult relationship you have not seeing your partner for a month at a time. Not sure I could do it.

I have painted my own picture of what I think is going on for both sides of the story with the information available.

When he finally gets home he wants to see you he wants to be immersed in you and wants to get a months worth of loving in on the however many days he gets to spend at home with you and he is upset that he didn't get to.

You had you own stuff going on (uncontrollable ie. period) and he really can't be annoyed at that it is just the way it is. Seems a little immature of him to be ignoring you like this hopefully you both can sort it out soon.

[Asker]

I just talked to his sister and she said he's mad at me because I have been so hard on him about his job and that he feels like he can't win with me

[Communicationisking]

I assume you want to see him more and it is the job getting in the way and I think that is a reasonable/legitimate want... If he has said he will look for another job you need to give him time to do it if he is totally against it and you can't do it anymore then maybe you need to look at other options

[Asker]

He just texted me that he's hit his breaking point with me and that he needs time to think about what he wants in his life. Also I asked him if we are breaking up and he said he didn't know yet honestly.

[Asker]

I told him i would respect his need for space but how long do I wait?

[Asker]

This is word for word what he said
its not just the shit from this weekend I just haven't said anything because I thought i could deal with it but I can understand that I piss you off but when I try to give you a kiss goodbye and tell you I love you to go kill myself out there i guess that was just my breaking point I just need some time to myself to figure out what I want in my life and I hope you can understand that.

[Communicationisking]

You told him to go kill himself? I'm guessing that is a typo

[Asker]

Yes he meant killing himself out there on his job for me

[Communicationisking]

like his job is dangerous but he does it to provide for you?

[Asker]

No his job isn't dangerous he is pretty much saying i am not appreciative

[spartan55]

I would really like to hear his side of this.
Not sleeping with your SO because you are 'hurting' is pretty weird

[Anonymous]

If your relationship is headed down the drain I’m sorry to hear it of course but it’s time to plan. Figure out how you can afford your own bills and move out from him. It’s important to have your own shit anyway, because what if he leaves you? Seriously what if he returns and wants to breakup, aside from the sheer grief you’d be running around like a headless chicken because you’re so codependent of him. Get your finances in order, make an exit plan.

[Anonymous]

Break up and move on

[Asker]

I can't just do that we live together and I can't afford all the bills

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know what to say