Can't get a woman's full attention without another man hitting on them?

[Anonymous]

Need advice

[DishLady]

Ok so this used to happen to a friend of mine ALL the time bc he would walk in with poor posture, stand around “observing” for too long and allow other guys to literally step in front of him and cut him off while he was talking to a girl.


It’s important to stop this from happening by asserting yourself!

• Make eye contact with the other guy and say “Hi” briefly but keep your body facing the girl.
• Shift your weight to one leg and turn your head away as if to silently signal “get lost buddy,” as you continue addressing the girl as if uninterrupted.
• If the guy sticks around make other subtle gestures to keep the girl’s attention on YOU —> Take up space by (1) leaning towards her A LITTLE; (2) standing straighter/puffing out your chest a little; (3 ) touching her arm very lightly to point to the menu, suggest something is interesting, etc.

[Asker]

No this is not necessary irl it's in text/online more.

[DishLady]

How would you know if other guys are actually texting them? (And why would that then be any of your business?) Texting is SUCH low-priority communication that it doesn’t matter either way. Don’t bother with them, then. Move on.

[Asker]

Because nearly every woman has more the one man hitting on her so it feels impossible to stand out to her potential partner.

[DishLady]

Yeah, we do. Doesn’t mean you need to be a jellyfish.

[Asker]

It just tells me as man that their interest is a lie & that they wouldn't pursue others if they wanted you.

[sawno]

Wrong mindset. You say its online and she has other options. So you probably are going after a desirable girl that others also want. You can't prevent her from getting offers. I am sure my ex got offers While in the relationship. She never mentioned them but considering she's magnetic i'm sure she had to reject a lot.

So if your plan is to make sure she only experiences you and that this way she won't notice how bad of an option you are its a bad plan and someones gonna steal your girl even if you manage.

The good plan is making sure your an appealing option for her to pick. Make sure you have the skills that the type of girl you want would want. In my case my type is very similar to myself so we value the same things, my issue is that this type of girl is rare but when I find her I at least have that to offer. Which was very appealing to her so despite having multiple options she wanted me.

And imagine this, you have two oppertunities. One girl you pulled off your idea, she doesn't know better and picked you as an option due to lack of options. The other girl had options but still chose you. Which girl do you feel more secure with in the relationship?

[Asker]

These are women who get called 4/5/6 out 10 on a scale by people. So I won't put them in the bracket you're saying. But I always kw that, I'm just an option that 9 times out 10 won't end being chosen, not because I'm doing a lot of things wrong that will put her off, but because the other options are physically hotter /better 🧬 & sometimes more toxic in character, that she is liking.
I wouldn't feel secure in either options because of hypergamy in Women mindset & way modern women think.

[sawno]

Dating apps aren't a good environment, why not try something else?

[Asker]

Because in irl women accuse you of false things like being class as creep , when you cold approach them because you not what's she fantasies about.

[Asker]

When I've done that I usually get called a creep or ugly fucker even though I'm not actually ugly on looks scale on the what's universally acceptable , I'm just mid 5/6 out 10.

[sawno]

Its not apps or cold approach. Could do activities that attract singles or where a lot of girls participate so you have a reason to talk to them.

[Asker]

My area isn't renowned for stuff like that, the only thing in that regard is cinema, arcade & theme park outside of that nothing else. All the clubs have gone under apart from Boom battle bar in my area , due to not enough people going to them regularly. My area is renowned for clothing shopping & eating out.

[Asker]

I've also had women kiss & hug me on first or second dates that didn't conclude a relationship.

[sawno]

It happens man, I'm also very isolated with little women around me in real life. But i'd not try dating apps first myself if I were to date. I'd go to dating events and try my luck there first. If that fails and I gotta go to the apps its with the mindsets that the apps are toxic and it not working not being my fault but a numbers game.