Does a girl having been with a mixed race guy a turn off?

[Anonymous]

hiya, for context I am 20 year old white girl. I have only slept with 2 guys in my life. I wouldn’t say I have much of a physical type in guys, just if your good looking your good looking, but I think dating wise I usually DO NOT find Asian or black guys attractive , just my preference. But one of the guys I slept with was mixed race, and I feel like so many guys express subtle jealously towards a girls previous sex partners, especially if he has black heritage (he was mixed in my case but still). I know this sounds bad but I’m worried that if I like a white guy he won’t want to date me if he finds out.

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[HawkPerception]

I don't think mixed is a big deal, but if I had to be completely honest, if I know she's been with a black guy, then yeah it's a bit of a turn off. It's more of a "respect" thing. No man wants to live in the shadow of another guy. Not every guy is like me. If I had to guess, the majority of guys are not like me. I'm a very visual guy and want to know how many partners my partner has had in the past and who they were. I even want to know if I outperform them in sex. It's a pretty big deal to me.

Here's Matt Rife on it:
Matt Rife

[Asker]

But how is it a respect thing when it was before dating? Also he was mixed but im ngl he didn’t measure up to any of the sexual stereotypes. Not that that’s a problem, I don’t think he is very experienced and that’s ok but I’m just saying the black guy fetish is a source of insecurity for white men and it shouldn’t be. I prefer white men

[Asker]

Also tbh I think Matt rife seems very insecure and that video didn’t clear things up. I can take dark humour but calling a random women damaged goods for having dated a black guy is so weird. It’s exactly why other girls like me feel ashamed

[HawkPerception]

You're definitely a liberal. Do you have coloured hair by any chance? 😂

[HawkPerception]

You know you don't have to go to his show or watch his stuff. If you don't want honest opinions from real people, ask ChatGPT that same question. You'll probably be happier with the response it gives 😂

[HawkPerception]

Also, did you miss the part where I mentioned I'm just one guy and that I'm willing to bet the majority of guys don't think like I do?

[Asker]

No I’m actually middle ground leaning right. Don’t be immature and deflect the conversation away from my valid points

[Asker]

Also I have my natural hair colour so HAH

[HawkPerception]

It's not deflecting. People who are easily offended like you are generally liberal and have dyed hair so I'm genuinely surprised you're not either.

It's a respect thing because black guys are generally "blessed" with endowment and we respect the fact we can't probably do better than guys that have been blessed like that, thus my statement "No man wants to live in the shadow of another guy."

As for Matt Rife, he just says things as they are. You can call it insecurity. I call it honesty. And who knows? He might just be saying it for the dark humor. It might not be his actual opinion. He IS a comedian.

[HawkPerception]

Everyone is free to have their preferences. It shouldn't offend you others have that preference because they're not the types of people you'd want to have as a partner anyways.

[Asker]

lol this is some dark humour. The BBC thing is a myth and from what I’ve heard most girls think big dicks are less pleasurable than around average guys are so clueless

[Asker]

Just not sure why a woman’s value is tainted by a black man. I think it’s sad and probably a result of toxic porn suggesting women lust over black men and let themselves be disrespected by them. Porn isn’t reality

[HawkPerception]

It's not a myth and it isn't porn related. It's a proven statistic that men of African descent tend to be better endowed. Stereotypes tend to come from observations of the majority.

https://ibb.co/rKcgmkkK

Secondly, I never said it reduces a woman's value. It does however, for some like myself, deter them from dating them. You're no less of a woman for choosing a partner that you liked/loved very much.

[Asker]

Even if it was the line of your life

[Asker]

Love*

[HawkPerception]

Elaborate?

[ohsheeT]

Look what you have done in the past. With guys is no one's business.. and if a guy ask you how many guy s have you been with the truth is 2. You don't have to go in detail

Even tho it shouldn't even matter. How many girl. has he been with. For race is not a color thing. A man is a man a woman is a women I'm part Scottish. Part irish. Are those 2 races and in the summer time I get such a good tan. That a girl. Wanted to see my picture I sent her 2. Her reply was your so fuckibg stupid. You send me two picture and they are of 2cdifferent people... i said huh no both are pictures of me... she blocked. Me haha. It's all good I was not meant to be with that girl.. just like if you tell his and he doesn't like you anymore. Well it's ok there are five hundred billion more men out there that you can probably take your pick from..

And if any guy is insecure because of who you have been with that's pretty sad I mean really sad to be honest

[SueShe]

Men usually will not be bothered by the fact that women fornicated with men of other races. As long as they can get you for free, anyone will do, whether you had copulated with 2 or 200 men before.

Men tend not to be choosy if they know they don't have to go great length to get into your pants. That should be no problem for most of the men.

It is already hard enough for most of them to find someone to fornicate with and they will close not only one eyes but both if they know they can have sex for free.

[Asker]

I am NOT talking about sex. I’m talking about dating. I am celibate so it is not “easy to get in my pants” I’ve had sex twice in my life. I’m saying if a white girl has been with a guy from other races eg mixed black is that a problem? Will he see her as less pure

[SueShe]

Again, I don't think most will but racists may have a different opinion.

[Asker]

Even if it was the love of your life?

[Abbycado]

@SueShe I’m free tomorrow

[Anonymous]

These days, guys will actually find you more attractive if you have slept with a black guy. The guys who all say differently are old or trolls. Things are different now.

Try it once, it'll be fun 😊 and you'll start getting way more positive attention from men afterward.

[Asker]

Is this a girl or a guy saying this? Im ngl I think it’s only the wrong type of attention they give. Lustful. They think your easier to sleep with

[Opinion Owner]

It's a girl lol. They won't think you're easier to sleep with, either.

[Asker]

Your wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

You can disagree, but you'll never know without trying yourself.

[Avicenna]

Most guys wouldn’t care about something so irrelevant. If they do, just move on to one who doesn’t care.

[Asker]

Are u a guy?

[Avicenna]

Yes, I am

[HighValue]

Want the truth? It isn't jealousy or anything like that, and it isn't mixed race, it is if they are part or whole Black that would cause many people to never be interested in you no matter what you do or say afterwards. If they were Hispanic, Asian, etc. it often wouldn't matter, but if they were even part Black, the majority of guys (not just White men either) would not be interested.

[Berethor]

If she been with half-black is not as bad if she been with full black, if that gives you comfort.

[Asker]

Why?

[Berethor]

Because the more black he is the worse it is, but I am only wanting a virgin anyway.

[CuriousMufuxka]

I used to hate that when I was much younger, but full race. Nowadays I find a girl being with any guy a turn off!

[Asker]

What do u mean full race

[nl171]

I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Some men get jealous of any past partner. But if it’s something he can’t get over then he’s not the right guy for you

[Anonymous]

The fact that you already had sex with 2 guys is the turn off.

[Asker]

What do u expect a non religious woman to be completely celibate until marriage? I have had sex twice EVER and I’m 20 and was actually shamed for being a virgin. I know girls with way more previous sex partners than I

[Anonymous]

No. A woman that asks this could be though.

[Anonymous]

Here come the racist incels

[Asker]

It’s not racist. It’s insecurity’s. If u were a white girl and the guy you liked ex was Asian or Latin u would feel upset and worry u weren’t his type. And vice versa

[Opinion Owner]

Never worried that and I’m white / native

[Asker]

Ok then u must be very secure congratulations genuinely. but a lot of people aren’t. The psychology behind racism in dating is largely due to in-group resource guarding and unfortunately a lot of people see people of their race who are the opposite gender as their property. Eg black women and white men dont like when a white Womens and black man get tg

[Opinion Owner]

Then they need help to overcome their racism

[Asker]

I don’t doubt they do. Racism is not funny but unfortunately as a white woman, if a we get with a mixed/black guy- the white man will shame US rather than him and claim we have no respect

[Opinion Owner]

Then they need to get the bottom of their hatred

[Opinion Owner]

To^ typo

[Opinion Owner]

We aren’t in the 60’s anymore, it’s time for people of all races to move forward

[Anonymous]

You are contaminated